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    Every day a struggle *SU TRIGGERS*

    It's been a while since I felt I needed to reach out on here. I am feeling overwhelmed and pathetic. I dread bedtime atm as I feel that another day has passed, I am one day closer to the end of my life and I have not achieved what I should have done. The list of what needs to be done is huge. It's not that others are not pulling their weight, far from it, just that I don't feel I am pulling mine. I am not sleeping well as I wake up in the night thinking about all the things I should have done. For those who do not know me my estranged husband killed himself last November. I still have not sorted his estate, and his bungalow is full of stuff that we can't agree what to do with. My partner's father died last week. My father died last October. I run a a small pottery business which I want to expand but I am in that funny stage where I need more staff before I can increase turnover but don't have the turnover to increase staff. I have extra classes atm as it's the school holidays on top of orders for my pottery.
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    Hi, lovely, it’s good to see you - but I’m sorry it’s because you’re struggling. When was the last time you saw your doctor and had a meds review? Are you carving out any time at all for self care? Are you eating and drinking?
    The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.

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    Pen you're a successful potter running a business which can't be easy what with covid and bexit. You've a loving partner to share your life and you're doing your best which is all anyone can do.
    77 and counting, less of the "Old" call me "Mike"

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    Gorgeous, you are very far from pathetic. You've been dealing with so much that I'm not surprised you are struggling. What is it that you think you should have achieved?
    What's the hold up with your exes estate? Who can't agree on what to do with it? Can you ask for more help from those around you with your pottery etc?

    I also agree with Paula - when was the last time you were talking to your Dr? Are you taking meds?
    Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!


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    I have not spoken to a doctor in years. Generally I have been fine. I am still taking my meds, Arty makes sure I eat and drink.
    I need to sort out probate on hubbys estate which means I have to get the inheritance tax situation sorted first. The bungalow is full of tools. Hubby had taken to hording tools. There are literally hundreds of tools. Mainly antique farming and gardening tools. I have contacted specialist shops but they say no one wants to buy these tools. Only woodworking tools. The kids have said they will take over sorting these as I have said I think we should put them in the tip. My team at Carantoc Art has grown. I now have Caitlin for 3 days a week as well as Arty and H. We all do what we can.
    H has finally got sober. She has not had a drink for 6 weeks now. It is making life so much better.
    Success is not final, Failure is not fatal.


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    That’s wonderful news re H
    The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.

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    Well done H! That's a huge achievement for her! No way she would have been able to do it without your support.

    Hunni, could you try talking to your GP? Just to keep in contact with them?
    BTW your paintings are amazing. I love seeing what you've been creating!
    Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!


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    Thank you everyone. I have signed H up to Audible as a reward for her getting dry. I hope it will help her to have something different to listen to which will break routines that she had developed with the drinking. Arty is spending the day with her daughter. I was working this morning but having some me time this afternoon. I am currently in Costa. I have started writing children's poems. No idea why! Hoping that one day I will publish as a book.
    Success is not final, Failure is not fatal.


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    That’s exciting!
    The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.

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    Wow, that's really exciting! Are you doing illustrations for them too?
    Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!


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