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    T called me mum. No idea how I didn't cry...
    Oh wow! That’s huge!

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    Wow! That’s awesome! And wonderful!
    The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.

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    He obviously loves you very, very much.
    Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!


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    I didn't know what to say so I just hugged him. He's told a friend at school that he wishes I was his real mum. It's not as if I never tell him off either, I'm quite firm with them both and make it clear that I have expectations for their behaviour, I try and teach them that there are consequences to their actions.
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    Yip and they know where they stand with you.....kids love and thrive on consistency.
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    Yeah, kids respond to boundaries
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    You've earned his respect which is one of the greatest compliments a child can give you. You've also earned your new title! That's lovely! They sound lovely kids. Will this be your first Christmas as a family?

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    Don't shoot me and please hear me out before judging me... but I've been thinking about this a lot today with T calling you "Mum." Whilst I love that he feels that much love, respect, and that comfortable the fact he's referring to you as mum bothers me. For me, I think that if Cruella finds out she will not only be really hurt, but I think it'll be a red rag to a bull and I think it will be really horrible for him and for you and J with the fall out...
    This is why a while ago I suggested that you and J sit down with them and come up with your own name that they can call you - maybe a different derivative of Mum - mam, mama, or something completely different. I know that you are more of a maternal influence putting them at the top of your list, that you do so much with them, love them etc but it's a difficult thing.
    I've not been in your position, but I have had friends who have who have always said that the "Mum" and "Dad" are only reserved for the biological parents... Does that make sense? I'm really not trying to undermine you, or upset you, and I'm sorry if I have, but I thought you'd rather hear it from me rather than Cruella...
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    I completely agree with what you've said. I don't think it matters what they call me, she hates that I'm in their life and will always find someway to be awkward. Generally, when she's civil it's because she wants something. I have a feeling it was because he was feeling very unsure as my parents were here for tea, and although they've met them before, they've not spent any proper time with them before last night and he was very nervous and clingy.
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