When is it gonna be my turn?

[Suzi]

Write him a letter and get your solicitor to pass it to their solicitor and ask for it to be given to him with witnessed....

[Stella180]

Yeah but finding the words...it’s not that simple. There is a lot to consider.

[Paula]

No, it’s not simple but all he really needs to know is that you love him

[Suzi]

Paula's right. You just have to tell him that you love him and you want him to know that, and to know that you want to be there for him whenever you can and if he's willing you'd like to build a relationship with him. Tell him that you don't want to take him away from his grandparents, but you love him too and would love to spend some time with him.

[Paula]

How are you doing?

[Suzi]

Did you sleep?

[Stella180]

Yeah I slept ok. Bit of a strange day today. Father’s Day. 7 yrs since I lost my dad almost to the day so he’s in my thoughts. Also thinking about my boys who have an absent father and how I wish things were different for them. I’ve done some bad things in my life, and made some worse choices. I can’t change any of it but it’s hard to let go of too.

[Suzi]

I know it's a tough day, but it's not all on you that the father of your children walked away and has chosen on multiple occasions not to be in their lives at all...

[Paula]

I’m with Suzi, his actions are not on you and have never been on you

[Stella180]

Yeah I know but they deserve so much better than what they’ve got from life.