Paula does make a good point. You are important too. So you should be able to voice your thoughts and ideas.
Paula does make a good point. You are important too. So you should be able to voice your thoughts and ideas.
I can totally see why you are feeling like that. I agree, what about you? You are important and you matter.Originally Posted by Jaquaia
You need to take back some of that control. I'm not sure why you two aren't living together already, why things haven't moved forward with the children etc.... I don't understand why he's dragging his heels on all of this.I hate not knowing. It makes me feel like everyone has control over my life but me.
Ahh, see Paula and I agree!-.gif ")")
Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!
How can we live together when the children have only just found out about me and it sounds like I won't be meeting them any time soon? Though apparently she's already at the stage where he's staying over when she has the children and looking after them on his own...
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Then insist on meeting them. He’s not the only one that gets to decide your future!
The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.
I think Paula is right.
There is a time and place for everything. But this feels like something that should be one of the first things to do. It is better for everybody. I remember people always saying that kids are flexible. And that is true but only so far. And this is a big change for everybody.
You wrote as a reply that it never gets you anywhere. That sounded so sad to me. You are with the man you love and you made some great plans. But you are doing that together. And now it feels as if you are a bit more in the background in this situation. And I do think its best for everyone if you meet as soon as possible.
Have you asked him why he's so reluctant to move things forward? I agree, you do sound sad and almost accepting of the situation...
Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!
He said he's trying to work out the best way to do it for everyone
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The only best way where kids are concerned is to not question their intelligence and just get on it. T is 10, loads of his friends will be in the same situation and he will start to question why he hasn’t met you
The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.
Well she's rushing things. They've stayed at his a few times and they're meeting his daughter on saturday and Thomas is struggling with it. But as I pointed out, I'm not expecting to be staying over within a month...
He said he wants me to meet them before Christmas, he's just working out the best way to do it for everyone.
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Somehow it feels to me as if it is waiting for the perfect timing. But that is not going to happen. So the best thing is to do it. I can imagine that the kids are now also waiting on meeting you more often and may even be curious. So why wait.
That being said I can see how this must be for you. And how you might not want to push or pressure anything. I just want to see you happy and free of worries
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