Feeling depressed due to turning 30 and having alw

[Jarre]

Hi Lundi and welcome to the forum. Boy does this remind me of me when i was your age ( i turned 40 last week) blokes are complete knobs when the subject of "have you done it" comes up in sometimes childish ways and I must tell you to preseve and ignore, a high proportion of men who have lost it at a younger age could fall into many categories and I can assure you it may have been memerable for ways they do not wish to be known or can't even remember it becuase they were drunk or not wanting to. Society is wrong to put so much pressure on a person should have done it by x time as it basically takes away the passion and experience when a mindset is on to get it over with as quick as possible and a high percentage of times the first time is with someone they wont have a relationship with. Now don't get me wrong this is not always the case, but this is what I have seen with my own eyes and have dealt with the aftermath of. My first and only tiem was with a friend who offered to help me get it over with and it was then that I understood what I really wanted in life and it wasn't just someone to sleep with and do the deed I actually just wanted a person to snuggle up to and feel safe with, sex was a bonus not a necessity and I was to focused on getting it done than the real want. So what if it takes some time to find a partner for the deed but make it to find someone you can love and who will love you then when the time is right the deed can follow but would be in such a better atmosphere and special rather than finding someone quick who you don't share anything with just to say you screwed someone. Men are dicks we know that so ignore them they will most likely have stories they don't want to be known and women are jsut as bad with other women on the subject. Sex is something to enjoy and feel relaxed doing, the world these days sees it differently and the whole act is just pushed as something else