Picking up the pieces again *SU Trigger*

[Strugglingmum]

this morning I woke up a bit grumpy. I'm tired and I didn't sleep great with nightmares. I was whinging to myself because my day was taken up with having to run my teens around to work, college, bus stops etc and I found myself saying, I wish I Could have a day just for me to do exactly what I want without having to think of being mum or housewife or wife. then it struck me.... today I actually thought enough of myself to think I need a day to me. Today I believed that I'm important enough to have a day to enjoy, not sort everyone else out. That may sound silly but for so long I have felt so unworthy of consideration undeserving of anything nice. I may not get that day, but at least today I thought enough of myself to think I deserved one.
Sorry if this sounds rambly and selfish. I really do love my family and don't mind looking after them.

[Paula]

That doesn’t sound silly, ramble or selfish. That sounds wonderful!

[Angie]

What Paula said x

[Suzi]

Definitely not silly to me - in fact I had a similar conversation with my pain psychologist today.... I'm proud of you!

[magie06]

That's not silly at all. The best annology I've ever heard, when you are on an airplane, you are told to put your own mask on first, before helping babies and children. This is because if you don't, you won't be able to help anyone.
The same applies to family. You can't pour from an empty jug. If you are burnt out, you are no good to anyone.

[Flo]

I agree with Magie's analogy! You wouldn't be normal if you didn't have thoughts like that. You have a lot of people depending on you - dare I say hubby included? - mums and wives are the mental and emotional mainstay of most families. Can you farm the kids out on sleepovers? Can hubby go away for the night with his mates? OR...can you go with a friend for the night to a Spa and let hubby look after the kids?

[Strugglingmum]

Back to psychology today.
Was a tough session and I'm feeling a bit flat, in fact have been for a couple of days.
Keeping busy and distracting.

[Mira]

What are you doing to keep busy? And what do you do ro distract?

Eventhough it was tough I hope it helped.

[Jaquaia]

[Paula]

A tough session, but do you think it’s helping you deal with things?