Diary of a book addict

[Suzi]

She's been a big part of his life - and he has to grieve for the future he isn't going to have - I'm sure in his head he had seen them getting old together etc and as you know it doesn't matter how crap that relationship was, you still grieve for it..... But he's had over 2 years to deal with that....

[Jaquaia]

They only actually split up a year ago...

I need to try and stop overthinking things

[Paula]

I struggled when Katies dad remarried, even though I’d remarried and we had Jess. As Suzi says, it’s normal to feel that grief for what could have been. But of course it’s tough for you . Thankfully, though, this is one of the final ‘events’ in their relationship that will affect him

Why wait til before Christmas? Particularly as kids are overly excited and emotional during December. Why can’t he tell them now?

[Jaquaia]

I don't know. My worry is it will go the same way as telling her went as I know she wouldn't know about me if she hadn't told him she was seeing someone first. I have said that he can let her go first if he wants as I think they will know about her new guy by the end of next month...

[Suzi]

But you two have been together for 2 years now isn't it? Why doesn't he see how much this kind of secrecy is so hard on you?

[Jaquaia]

I think he does see, he's just so used to avoiding dealing with things

[Paula]

Then maybe you need to push him?

[Jaquaia]

I think one way to do it is to get him to talk it through with his parents and see what they think...

[Paula]

Good plan.

[Suzi]

Absolutely. His parents seem like they have their heads screwed on sensibly and actually just want the best for him... They can obviously see that is you!