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    TCEE
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    Unhappy Hello im new and messed up

    Hello, i find myself struggling
    At a young age i was jumped by a gang , had my jaw broke in 3 places and the mental issue came, i developed anxiety, depression, ptsd, short term memory loss and paranoia, i find myself at the stage where i ruin everything i touch and ruin relationships with everyone due to speaking before i think, i want to try harder and work on my problems but feel like i end up back at the start, i beat myself up over everything negative that i do or say, sadly my girlfriend has to oit up with everything and although she says shes more than happy to help i feel a burden and a factor that adds to her depression and anxiety when all i want is to make her happy and full of love and life , i really want to work on things but dont know where to start and find it hard talking to certain people

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    Hi and welcome to DWD. You will never be judged here. Everyone here has their own experiences of depression and mental health illness - either through their own experiences or those of a loved one.
    I know you personally, so my reply will be more personalised....
    I am more than sure that your girlfriend doesn't feel that you are a burden to her at all. You need to talk to her, be honest with her and tell her what's in your head - she won't judge you, she will just hold you closer and help you through it. She adores you just as much as you adore her. You both have your own issues and the only way you can get through things together is to keep talking to each other.

    I think it might be an idea to keep an accurate mood diary and to see how things genuinely are and then maybe think about speaking to your Dr?

    By the way, it's good to see you here... You're a great guy.
    Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!


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    Thank you very much, i feel that my problem may be in the fact im not to knowledgeable in my illnesses , growing up
    In a family where you are expected to be strong and not aloud to feel down never enabled me to learn how to deal with things and what causes what

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    Princess Sparkles Paula's Avatar
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    Hi and welcome . The biggest part of being in a relationship is that you’re in it together. And it sounds to me that’s exactly what you are. So please, please keep talking and trusting each other
    The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.

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    Paula's right. You two make a great couple. The way that you look at each other shows anyone how much you love each other.
    Paula's also written some brilliant factsheets on different mental health illness which are worth a read. But you can ask pretty much anything here and someone will be along to help..
    Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!


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    Hi and welcome. The biggest thing is to communicate. My partner also has severe depression so we find we need to talk to each other all the more as we both try and protect the other when we're struggling. It never works as we can read each other like a book but we do it anyway.

    Do you have any support other than your gf? From your gp or counselling?
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    Thank you all so much , im going to continue working on myself and my relationship, sadly i only have my girlfriend to talk to as my parents are narrow minded and i find it hard to talk to gps and counsellors

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    Hi TCEE welcome to DWD
    77 and counting, less of the "Old" call me "Mike"

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    Hi and welcome. I know how it feels to be a burden to certain people. But it seems like she wants to help. Try and believe that if you can. I am sure you would do the same for her and that would not be a burden on you I assume?

    And this forum is also a safe warm place to talk and write about how you feel. Its not a substitute for proffesional help but it can be a place to feel accepted.

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    Hi TCEE, welcome to this lovely place.

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