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    ye you have a point about the samaritans, maybe my mInd was clouded by the great chat I had with them & how lovely they seemed. I'm a very good listener & am not suicidal despite often being in the depths of despair. I may still go to the interview with them but maybe to discuss an admin role as that was my initial intention. I still have the role in an autism hospital but need to re-do my trainin & complete 2 shadow shifts. But now that I've registered with another Teachin agency I'm kinda in limbo as to what to do .

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    https://volunteer.samaritans.org/vol.../other-support

    Have a look through that. It's other ways that they require volunteer support. It might be a better way for you to meet people too and not as emotionally heavy itms? And in time look at building up to a listening volunteer?
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    Quote Originally Posted by SA89 View Post
    am not suicidal despite often being in the depths of despair..
    Which is a good thing, but which also makes me more frustrated with the way that you keep using suicide as a throw away comment...
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    I just attended a comedy night with the meetup group. It was ok but it struck me how physically incapable I am of laughter. To everyone else it comes so natural wereas with me it feels like I'm forcing it caus my depression doesn't allow me to feel joy or emotion . The group organiser for instance has such a hyena belly laugh that makes me envious because I can't possibly express that sense of elation. I really wish I knew how to lift this apathy that smothers me like a dark force.

    Their were 2 comedians that performed; an asian gay lady followed by some bloke from Stockport. The 2nd was funnier tbh. After that half of the group continued the night to a bar in a market hall. I didn't drink caus I was hungry. Felt a bit alienated caus they all had established bonds although I tried to be chatty. It doesn't bother me that they're older than me (40's, 50's) but I feel like I regressed a bit considerin the night I had with the group last time which involved a dance. So ye that's another chapter in my awkward tale of loneliness ..
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    Have you thought any more about going back to the drs and trying another anti d or counselling?
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    Suzi has a point. Depression isn't going to disappear if you don't attempt to treat it. Changing parts of your life is good, so the going out is a good thing, but it's more of a bandage itms? The root causes need to be addressed.

    A quick google and I found this;

    https://www.gmmh.nhs.uk/recovery

    You may find that this is a good place to start.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jaquaia View Post
    Suzi has a point. Depression isn't going to disappear if you don't attempt to treat it. Changing parts of your life is good, so the going out is a good thing, but it's more of a bandage itms? The root causes need to be addressed.

    A quick google and I found this;

    https://www.gmmh.nhs.uk/recovery

    You may find that this is a good place to start.
    Ur right I haven't been addressing the root cause, I've merely been masking it through distraction which is akin to showering a tattered carpet with a hosepipe. But I hate how synthetic drugs are considered the default solution to treating it. Why can't there be a natural solution?. My mum tells me the same, "I don't why u don't take ur meds!". The reason is simple, I don't like drugs in my body. The side effects are in horrible (24/7 drowsiness, nauseousness, blunt emotions, impotence in men..). I know they can subside in time but the tiredness doesn't from my experience & you can't even have a pint on a night out.

    Last night I diagnosed myself through a quick google search. I found that my symptoms are closest to dysthymia (persistent mild depression). I always assumed it was moderate due to the depths of my despair but apparently not. My doctor has never told me this. He's always batted it off as "social anxiety" which demonstrates their lack of mental health training. These GPs have a 10 minute window & they use that time to offer u pills like your a in lab rat being tested for pharmaceutical purposes. I know this is blunt but no one else sheds light on this. I lost all respect for my GP when he rudely cut me short mid sentence upon describing a sensitive issue to whisk me away. It was humiliating caus this guy's been my practitioner ever since I was a kid ...
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    Firstly, you should never use google to diagnose. You aren't medically trained, I have symptoms of bipolar type 2 at times according to google, I have symptoms of PTSD too, but I'm not medically trained so I couldn't possibly diagnose myself. Using google, fairly innocuous things can indicate cancer or other serious things when it's could be something straightforward. Your doctor is medically trained, but it's also worth pointing out that a GP is trained in many areas whereas a specialist is trained to a much higher level in one area. They may have a special interest but their knowledge isn't to the degree of a specialist. Their hands are pretty much tied to talking therapies or medication I'm afraid.

    It's also worth pointing out that medication is proven to work, medication has to go through extensive trials before it is licensed to be used. There are thresholds that have to be met before these drugs can be generally prescribed. So that being said, please be mindful of your language when talking about antidepressants. Many of us on here are only still here because of medication, I know I am. A year ago I was suicidal, now I'm not. The only difference is my medication changed. Comparing being prescribed antidepressants as treating us like lab rats is not very respectful. For many of us on here, medication is what allows us to function and actually have some semblance of a life. It's possible that if you tried one that you haven't tried already, it may actually work, with fewer side effects, and may not be something you need long term. Medication can work and we will always point that out. That being said, we will respect your choice not to take antidepressants. There are other options.

    There is some research that suggests CBD oil, and even turmeric, can have antidepressant qualities. St John's Wart is another one. All natural remedies but something you will need to do a lot of research on yourself and I would advise seeking a medical opinion. The other option is talking therapies, but these only work when you engage in them fully. Have you tried counselling or CBT? What about some of the courses the recovert academy run? Would you be willing to try some of those? You may find that some of their courses will help you manage your anxiety and improve your confidence levels. You could contact your local Mind and see what help they can offer. They often run support groups or courses. There are apps or videos on youtube that help with mindfulness or meditation.

    I think a starting point would be meditation or mindfulness, something to try and get your anxiety under control. Maybe look at those courses too. Sometimes we need to do things step by step.

    It's a case of thinking about what you want to change and then trying to figure out how to change it itms?
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    Jaq's post is totally spot on. I'm not keen on pharmaceuticals either, but without them I can barely move let alone function enough to look after my children, dogs and care for my husband and this place. I choose to take them to help me be the best that I can be. Sometimes that's better than others, but without them I'm a mess... I take about 23 tablets a day and CBD oil too. Do I like it? No. Do I choose to take them to help? Yes.
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    ye I'm aware that medication is a life saver for many people, especially with major depression. It's just frustrating that there are no better natural solutions. I've been cold Turkey for over a year now & my depression has been worse tbh but even on them I wasn't really feeling anything. I guess they take the edge off but for me they made me extremely fatigued & I couldn't even cry.

    I know my emotions are already blunted but least I can feel something, even if it is sadness. On them I feel absolutely nothing. I've been round in circles with the 4 SSRI's (citalopram, mirtazipine, sertraline, fluxotine). I'm really uncomfortable using anything other than those recommended as my doctor doesn't allow it.

    I wish I could express myself freely because I'm passionate about mental health. Personally I feel like a lab rat the way my GP speaks to me. It feels like I'm just another "numbered patient" to him to add to his data entry list. I read an article stating the lack of training these GP's have on mental health which should be mandatory. I've also been round in circles with counselling & cbt, on the waiting list for another. Recently bought some herbal tea which has some sedative effect. I guess the meetup group is a positive step I've made this year .
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