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    Jhalex14
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    Hello

    Not sure what to say. I am 46 and from Sheffield. I am starting to get depression again. Also I think I may have BPD, all the signs are there but unfortunately getting a formal diagnosis seems an uphill struggle. Thanks for reading

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    Mira
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    Hello, nice to meet you.

    Are you talking things through with your gp?

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    Jhalex14
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    Hello Mira.

    I am and I asked to see an IAPT counselor but they fobbed me off and instead put me on a four week course in a group for low moods. It's not for me. I feel frustrated by all this.

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    Hi welcome to DWD, I'm sure you'll find here a very friendly place.
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    Mira
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    I know how that can feel. But try seeing it this way. Give this a go. Even if you only pick up one thing. Its a win. And maybe the whole experience will help. And if not you can go back to your gp and talk things through.

    I met with 4 different specialists before we found the right fit for my tiredness proplems.

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    Hi and welcome. Mira is right. It's great you're talking to your GP, and I know this doesn't feel like it's helpful, but sometimes it's a case of doing 1 course then being referred elsewhere after.
    Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!


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    Jhalex14
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    Hello and thanks for the warm welcome.

    I will try this course for sure and see how it goes but regarding my possible BPD, I think I need an appointment to see a specialist regarding that. It is affecting my work. Currently I am on a medical discharge under investigation into possible gross misconduct. I will know the outcome of that by the end of this month.

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    Hi and welcome

    Unfortunately, BPD can take time to diagnose and it’s often step by step so, yes definitely Mira is right, take this step and go from there.

    I’m sorry about the investigation, are you able to tell us what happened? (Don’t worry if not)
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    Jhalex14
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    Hello Paula.

    Yes sure. What happened is I had 2 incidents at work within a month. Both times I lost my temper and swore and used abusive language and also raised my voice. One situation was with a supervisor and the other with a work colleague.

    The problem is, the environment I worked in was a food production place and it was akin to a factory environment. Alot of the people who worked there had been there years and were used to behaving a certain way and getting away with or a blind eye being turned to it. As a newcomer to the workplace I felt that the older staff were neither patient with newcomers and also felt they could intimidate, boss around new staff like myself whilst also being abit of a skiver at the same time. The skiving mentality there was endemic and engrained.

    With my stress levels and anxiety and possible BPD it was only a matter of time till I snapped and I did big time. I am not proud of my actions of course as it also portrays me as the bad guy and those individuals as victims.

    I took measures to combat my stress by reducing my hrs there to part time, telling management and supervisors I was stressed and attending a stress management course also.

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    Are you doing a stress management course?
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