Sweetheart, don't dismiss those around you...
Sweetheart, don't dismiss those around you...
Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!
When did you last try?
The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.
So weird feeling ...so for now I have ended private CBT course, maybe I will come back to attend after a while.
But it helped, mainly in the terms of self-respect. I think I need some time, but I am feeling happy communicating with other people, especially with one man.
Now I understand my mistakes and that some things should not be tolerated since the beginning and that communication (even romantic) is just a step towards a relationship.
I am being ashamed of myself that after my mom's death I probably had become too emotional and did not realize ghosting...
And that skyping 4 times in a year was not enough! Exchanging pics (everybody can like) or words are not enough. That if someone is interested, he can find some time during a day. And that I exaggerated his good role, of the person I have never met.
Also - that now I find more attractive first man's intelligence and attitude towards me. And it's nice when someone finds some time for me and asks if I have properly eaten or got some relax.
I am still not very ready for dating, but I am delighted to feel loved (in a minimal meaning of this word) and cared about and share these feelings.
It's interesting that the men told me I should smile more, I have a beatiful smile, but it is a bit hard for me.
Sounds like a good friendship. Respectful friendship can lead to a beautiful romance but if it doesn't, you still have a good friend.
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selena (07-02-21)
Yes, he is a very good friend and I am being myself with him.
Why have you ended your CBT? How many sessions did you have in the end?
You weren't "too emotional" after your Mum's death. That's a ridiculous thing to think.. What do you mean about ghosting?
Hunni, you seem to fall quite hard and fast for men you talk to online. Please, please, please, please, please be careful.
Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!
I will wait for my salary, it is not unfortunately free of charge here. 12.
That man who I had communicated with after my mom's death. He used ghosting: disappearing and not replying to my messages, then reappearing. The CBT specialist helped me to see the situation with this "online relationship" better.
I know you care about me and I am trying to be careful too. Now I just communicate, understanding that this is not a relationship, so I think it is not dangerous.
You've referred to it as falling in love again on FB, I am concerned about you.
I'm glad that your therapist could help you see what we had been trying to tell you too.
Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!
Yes, a kind of, he has been very attentive so far and we have a lot of similar interests.
But, yes, my therapist told me he cannot judge this person, encouraging communication from one side, if it's respectful. However, he warned me to avoid falling for someone, even if he seems to be a good person.
Your therapist seems to talk sense - well he says the same as we do, so he must be right!.gif "(rofl)")
Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!
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