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    Oh Sissy I'm so sorry.
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    Oh sweetie I am so sorry xx
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    Oh hunni, Im so sorry, for all of you
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    You OK love? How's he taken it? It's horrific to find someone like that. I hope he listens and doesn't turn to alcohol....
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    He came home faced drunk. I am losing My will to fight for this.

    I understand it is horrible to find someone like that. He had been dead for few days by then, he had stumbled and fallen down stairs. They found him laying face down under the stairs. He is taking this bad, but so am I. I can't live fearing for someone elses sake all the time.
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    Omg! That is horrendous for anybody and I know this isn’t a popular opinion but it’s almost normal to react badly and if alcohol is your coping mechanism to go straight to the booze. This is a huge deal and I totally get why you man has gone to the one thing he knows will numb the pain. We all know this is a bad reaction and not the best thing for him at all but this is a big deal. He’s had his blow out and now he needs to sleep it off and then talk it out and deal with it in a more productive way. It’s times like this he needs even more support than ever.

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    I'm so sorry Sissy....but what a terrible thing for Le Dude to find! Have to agree with Stella, it's the only thing he knows that will dull the shock and numb the pain! It's bad for you too, but when he's sober again and got over the initial shock, sit quietly with him and go over everything calmly. It's not the end of the world.....he can turn things around again and start from square one. A little bit of time and patience.

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    I can see why you feel the way you do, and I know that Marc and I have completely different coping mechanisms - I talk and eat, he internalises everything and doesn't eat. He'll drink a bit more than normal, but then be paranoid about whether he "wants" or "needs" each drink because the men going back about 2 generations in his family have been full on alcoholics and it's been alcohol which has killed them - and young too....
    Thing is, I see things a bit differently to most and whilst I too would be beyond upset that not only has this happened, but he's broken his promise to you about drinking I'm not sure I could kick him out because of it right now. He has had a massive shock to have found someone he cares about in that horrible condition, but I know for me I would be concerned that if I did kick him out, then he'd just carry on drinking. Right now you are a reason for him to stop..
    However, with any addict, alcoholics are very good at making everyone else or any other event a "reason" to drink...
    I also totally understand why enough is enough.

    My heart goes out to you lovely. I wish I could wave a magic wand and it all be OK for you.
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    I am simply tired. He found his own brother dead 8ish years ago, alcohol poisoning. Now he found a friends dead because of too much drinking. He won't talk. He refuses getting any real help. I am angry, sad, disapointed and losing all My trust. Sometimes love alone is not enough.
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