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    What's the point?

    Hello everyone, I hope you're doing as well as possible.

    It's been a while since I posted. Firstly I wanted to thank everyone (Suzi and Paula hugely) for previous support

    Iv'e been really struggling with my mood and anxiety for the last week. Have been ruminating and very down. I had been house sitting for my sister in a large house with a garden forms few weeks and now I've returned to my very small flat. My morning mood is awful.

    The contrast has made me very depressed. I don't want to wake up every morning. I don't get any pleasure from anything. I very rarely see anyone else and have social anxiety. I feel lost and very isolated.

    Even last month I had a panic attack on my way to a trip abroad at the airport and cancelled my trip. Last night I went drinking and stupidly fell off my bicycle on the way home and injured my shoulder. I do not know how to he out of this mind set. I saw my Psychiatrist yesterday and we have decided to change my meds soon.

    Can you help please.

    Matt

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    Princess Sparkles Paula's Avatar
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    Hi Matt and welcome back. I’m so sorry you’re struggling so badly but well done for being proactive and getting to see your psychiatrist. Did your doctor talk about other support in helping you to socialise a bit more? Have you thought about talking therapies like CBT?

    I’m going to nag a little bit here - alcohol is a depressant and will make you feel worse, along with reducing the positive effects of your ADs. And, as you found last night, often ends up with physical injuries .......
    The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.

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    Hi Paula,

    Thanks for the quick reply.

    Nagging appropriate and well taken. I hadn't drunk for a while and got a bit carried away. I know its not good but sometimes I use it as a temporary anti anxiety measure. Not as much as I used too.

    I have done a lot of CBT over the years and still have all my notes although I do tend to forget the exercises without refreshing. I've actually recently completed a 3 month course of ACT too. This is a work in progress. I just have no inclination to interact with people as I find it an unpleasant experience, unless drinking, but am lonely at times too. That's the paradox. I need to have some goals, live healthy and socialise. But its easier said than done when one is apathetic and listless.

    Thank you. Hope you're well.

    M

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    Cor you got away lightly with Paula's alcohol nag - mine is well rehearsed and much longer!

    ACT is a great therapy - my husband has completed a very long course of psychotherapy and act. It's changed our lives so much!

    What do you do to get out and meet people? What hobbies do you have?
    Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!


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    Princess Sparkles Paula's Avatar
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    Do you think it was the space you had at your sisters house that helped, or the garden? Could you look at getting an allotment or maybe volunteering for gardening duties at a local national trust property?
    The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.

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    Just got back from hospital yesterday. Snapped my collar bone in two, what a doofus. Funny thing I have just applied to do some gardening with the council in allotments and old folks homes but am now out of action.

    Think the contrast from my sisters large house/garden to my small flat but feel a bit more phlegmatic. I have a book by Russ Harris and trying to implement decision currently.

    I'm pretty shy and anti social unless drinking. Pretty sure self esteem/anxiety is the root cause.

    Hope you're grand.

    M

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    Hey there, I am rather new forum user and we probably don't know each other at all yet. I don't want to nag about alcohol since others already mentioned it, I simply say I kinda see it lifts your selfesteem and pushes away feelings. But then that all comes back morning after.

    I think you had a good idea in helping others in gardening, because every one needs that feeling their work - no matter what kind of work- is needed. Recover from your minor meeting with the ground and then do what you were planning to. Pretty much every one has done something not so smart while drunk, so let's say that was one of those things in life my guy (I refer to him as Le dude) calls "oh sh*t moments". Le dude is a heavy drinker and injures him self alot while drinking, so sadly I am abit too familiar with those injuries.

    But hope your medication is changed to something that better helps you, and you get to do something that makes you feel joy again. To me it has been taking care of animals. When I was just diagnosed and no medication I had tried that far had helped me, I spent most of my time volunteerily working in local cat shelter. It made a difference. Not only to cats, but to the shelter staff and myself as well. That's where I got my crazy cat lady starter kit, and realised what was the thing in life I needed for my own happiness. So more than anything else right now I hope you find that sparkle for you. Let it be gardening, helping people, or anything that makes you feel good. And please let us try to support you. Not only because it hopefully helps you, but it helps us others as well.

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    That's a marvelous post Sissy and I echo all you said
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    Ouch! Try to take it easy, hunni
    The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.

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    Hope you're being kind to yourself....
    Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!


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