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    Princess Sparkles Paula's Avatar
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    When she’s as low as she is, you might find that she responds better to ‘I love you, I’m here for you’, rather than you trying to find a solution to all this. When you can’t see any light at the end of the tunnel, it feels like there’s no point in even thinking of a way out.
    Sometimes the best thing you can do is not think, not wonder, not imagine, not obsess. Just breathe and have faith that everything will work out for the best.

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    Not "nagging" really... Suzi's Avatar
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    Have you told her that you love her, you want to be there with her to help her fight this together? Does she think that this is a place of doom and gloom? I like to think of this as a positive place and a place where friendships form too....
    Today I aim to be the best person I can be.
    That mean that yesterday or tomorrow I might be a better person,
    but today's best is more than good enough for today.

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    This is definitely a place where we can have a laugh and a giggle as well as discuss more serious stuff and has helped me no end.

    Just tell her you love her and are there for her.
    71 and counting, less of the "Old" call me "Mike"
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    Of course I have told her that I love her (every day), and also that we are going to get this all fine together. She is worried that she will not find any friends if she isn’t working, as people will judge you for it which I guess they do. In the last couple off days she has been stressing a lot and trying to find jobs and didn’t get any positive feedback, which is why I tried to suggest different approaches. I told her that I don’t expect her to work and that it’s something she needs to do/ decide for herself (we are ok money wise), but a few stupid people’s comments have made her anxious about how she is seen. I feel that I need to help her because she is so distraught and I think we came up with a good plan but everything is so hard

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    Not "nagging" really... Suzi's Avatar
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    I love that you're being so loving and supportive! I also know how hard that role is, so remember to be kind to yourself too...
    Today I aim to be the best person I can be.
    That mean that yesterday or tomorrow I might be a better person,
    but today's best is more than good enough for today.

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    There will be good and bad days I guess. Thank you all for your kind words, and helping me when I felt hopeless myself. Things have been better in the last week and I hope you are all keeping well, too. I just logged on to wish you a nice day because you are a great little group here

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    Not "nagging" really... Suzi's Avatar
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    Glad things are going OK atm! Long may it last!
    Today I aim to be the best person I can be.
    That mean that yesterday or tomorrow I might be a better person,
    but today's best is more than good enough for today.

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    Princess Sparkles Paula's Avatar
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    Thanks for keeping us up to date. I hope things continue to get better
    Sometimes the best thing you can do is not think, not wonder, not imagine, not obsess. Just breathe and have faith that everything will work out for the best.

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    Thanks for the heads up, I'm glad you've had a better week and long may it be so.
    71 and counting, less of the "Old" call me "Mike"
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