boyfriends depression breaking my heart SU trigger

[Suzi]

I think you're doing great lovely! Check out the time-to-change website, it'll give you ways of opening conversations if you need them.

[Hereforyou]

Thank you, it really means a alot to hear that.

One thing he mentioned last night and a couple of times before was thawt he hates that none of the rooms in our home have been fully completed in terms of decorating. So I've organised with my dad that whilst he is at work on Monday I will finish all the decorating in the house so that he comes home to see it's all done and looks much more cosy.

Hopefully that might boost his mood and if that is one of the contributing factors to his depression that should be fixed in a sense.

[Hereforyou]

That****

[Paula]

Just be careful he won’t think it’s the father in law passing comment on his ability to do the decorating ...... would it perhaps be an idea to talk to him about it first?

[Hereforyou]

My dad has helped us out with alot of decorating in the past, he's normally fine with it apart from thinking he doesn't do as good a job as him.

He would know I organised everything and hopefully be cheerful about that.

[Suzi]

I'd still mention it though tbh...

[Hereforyou]

Do you not think it would be a nice surprise?

[Jaquaia]

He might see it as a nice surprise but depression isn't always rational. He could see it as a reflection on himself as Suzi said.

[Paula]

I really think it’d be safer ....

[Hereforyou]

I've mentioned it vaguely so hopefully that'll help him..!

He went out with his friend last night, he said he had a good time and told his friend about his depression. I am glad he did. He was crying this morning though saying he feels messed up. I feel so sad for him.