Ouch! I wish I had a solution for you
Ouch! I wish I had a solution for you
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Had another email from Jess’s teacher - the essay which was over a week overdue was not good enough - getting only 13 mark’s out of 30. I was on the phone to Si earlier and he was saying we need to do this and that, and I had absolutely nothing I could say about it.
Everything feels so hard right now - I feel like I’ve been tightly wrapped up in cling film and can barely breathe. I feel like I’m failing. When Si was fighting with Katie last night he was shouting that he’s under so much stress to keep our family going, looking after me, making enough money to pay the bills etc etc
The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.
Oh sweetheart. That must really hurt. Does he realise you heard that?
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I don’t know. I feel so guilty
The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.
I know. And I know it's no good telling you not to feel like that as it will make absolutely no difference. I do think you need to speak to Si about it so it doesn't fester. But I can also appreciate you may want to protect him from feeling guilty about it.
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I agree, definitely talk to Si about what you heard and how you are feeling.
I've been trying to leave you be so you can work through it, but do you want me to pester you a bit more? Might it help?
Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!
Love you guys. At this point I have no idea what’ll help tbh
The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.
Is it out of character for Jess to fall behind with work and get low marks? Is there something worrying her that she isn't talking to you about? With regard to Si's outburst, or frustration and letting off steam - it's a shame you heard it, and it's a shame you're feeling bad about it, but I bet if you had a fiver for every time he, or any other man with a partner/family screamed about keeping the family together, trying to make enough money for bills etc. etc...you'd be a wealthy woman! When there's a problem or argument about kids or anything else they don't have much control over, it ends up with the above dramatic comments! Don't feel bad love, don't feel guilty, don't feel ungrateful and don't feel useless or powerless. Along with a lot of others here, you are the epitome of strength, and a lovely wife and mum. Si didn't mean it. Ian never means it, and most other husbands and partners don't either! So there.....-.gif ")")
OldMike (26-04-18)
Hey, shall I try sending you motivational and cheerleading texts to see if it helps?
Want an example?
Go Paula, go Paula, you can do it, you are awesome, go Paula, go Paula!
Helping yet? I've got loads more....
Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!
77 and counting, less of the "Old" call me "Mike"
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