Miss Sparkles *Triggers*

[Paula]

Mum and dad have now left the frozen wastes of Northumberland and are southerners again! Woohoo!!!!!!!

[Jaquaia]

[Suzi]

I'm so thrilled for you! Welcome back to Southerners Land Mr and Mrs Paula's Mum and Dad!

[Paula]

So, my katie has herself in a wonderful predicament. She has been looking for work and her first interview, she gets the job. She tried to hand her notice in on Sunday but her boss refused her resignation and told her they’d been getting together a new role as Assistant Manager which they planned for her to take on. She works for a hair and beauty salon that also has a retail shop to it - where she’s been working as a sales assistant. She had a meeting with her boss yesterday which gave her lots more info on the job and she has an interview with Head Office this Friday. She’s over the moon as the job sounds exactly her thing

The other job she’s been offered is a telephone based sales job for a tech company. There’s a good career path for those who do well, the hours are 9-5 (no shifts like she does do) and it’s good pay for a 19 yo. She was supposed to be starting next Monday.

The problem is this. Even though she is obviously excited about the promotion with her current employer, her dad and step mum have spent hours arguing with her, telling her she’s much safer taking the tech role, that it’s riskier staying where she is, that she needs to have a ‘proper’ plan at her age blah blah blah. I’m furious but also proud she’s stood her ground. She’s so upset about it all though. It’s so hypocritical of her dad - he swanned around with his career until his mid 30s. He’s got a good job now but hates his job and, at 48, it’s too late for him to have a career he enjoys. Katie loves what she does and now she knows she can have a decent career with it, it’s all she wanted.

[Suzi]

Wow! Congratulations to Katie! That's flipping well awesome!
I'd be furious too! At the end of the day it's her life and if she wanted to work in McDonalds then she should be allowed to do what makes her happy - life's too short! I'd go with the promotion at work if I was her, they obviously have spotted her potential and are willing to support her and develop her skill set.
Well done Katie!

[magie06]

If it were me, I'd take the promotion at work. If it's what she likes then stick with that. The other job doesn't know her and in my opinion would be a bad move for her. Life is short. Do what she likes.

[Angie]

I agree with Suzi and Magie xx

[Paula]

Spent a lovely day with mum - went to hobby craft this morning then spent the rest of the day doing a craft project for her sisters Christmas lunch. Then saw dad for an hour. Though I fell asleep mid crafts lol

I did have a moment though. My friend set up a massive WhatsApp group to keep everyone up to date on her daughters c section (not as odd as it sounds, the baby has a serious heart defect). My ex friend was in the group and I got a shock when I saw her post. Even after all this time it hurts

[Suzi]

It's going to hurt love. It's the same as grief.... You have to give it time and be kind to yourself.

[Paula]

Katie’s been confirmed as the new Assistant Manager. She is over the moon

In other news, I spent the morning at the board meeting for the charity I’d been asked to become a Trustee of. All I will say is, having listened to them all for 2 1/2 hours, they desperately need me. I’m not bragging lol but, as an organisation dedicated to ‘providing information and support to anyone affected by disability in the area’, mental health was not even briefly mentioned the whole time. According to my friend, who’s the vice chair and asked me to consider doing this, until a year ago, their literature lumped mental health in with learning difficulties!