I have Aspergers, ADD, depression, anxiety disorder, migraine and some issues caused by a damaged kidney caused by medication completely wrong for me. I have no real clue how much these add up to each others, but to cheer up myself I always say... If I gotta be a mess, at least let me be a hot mess. Le Boyfriend really has great nerves being able to deal with the nutjob I occasionally can be. And because we can get through things mainly with really dark humour, we all including the kids call this family "mixed nuts". It is sorta comforting knowing sarcasm and joke can carry us so far. In my language we have few termos for a person who can stay completely cool through almost anything. That's how my guy is. In my language we say "lehmn hermot", meaning having nerves of a cow. No matter what sort of a meltdown me or the kids get, he will walk us through it, and never get angry. We would be completely lost without him.