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    Tia
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    New year new start ?

    Despite having a little set back over Christmas in the way of a fine I have decided to change some things in the new year. Firstly I am sick to death of being alone , yes I have teenagers, they have their own lives. Having depression makes relationships seem impossible due to the fact I crave love and affection but on a bad day people make me feel worse. Well I am going to give it a go so back to the drawing board. Where on earth do I find a nice , caring genuine man ?

    Secondly its time to get rid of those disgusting spanx. I am sick of being dumpy. No more binge eating. This is going to take sheer determination and will power. Why is chocolate so good ? Slimming word is calling or I could do my own healthy eating plan. I have done it before and I can do it again .

    Has anyone made any new year resolutions ? What plans have you made for next year ?

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    I'm going to continue going to Weight Watchers and seeing myself get smaller and smaller. I reached goal the week I got married many many years ago, and I intend on reaching goal again this year. I've only got something like 4 stone more to go. I've already lost 3 and a half stone but I had put on so much weight since my diagnosis with depression, that it's actually twice as hard to lose it this time. Of course I'm 20 years older, have various things wrong with me now compared to then and I'm on a lot more meds.

    I'm also trying to be a better mother, wife and friend this year.

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    What was the fine for?
    Yup, I'm back on the wagon for dieting too and more exercise. I'm going to pound my treadmill lol
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    Lol a trip to the dentist I didn't take a valid exemption card. Life is hard when you have depression combined with the start of menopause. I forget things on a regular basis. I am with you on the exercises .......Thinking of getting a cross trainer. Can I afford one ? ......nope . Do I need one ? Yes . Quite enjoyed using this one piece of equipment when I had a gym membership.

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    Try ebay - that's where I got my treadmill from Or preloved is good or gumtree?
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    Thanks I never thought of those sites but I will have a good look around when I finish work tomorrow.

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    Or on your local freegle or facebook selling groups?
    Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!


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    Quote Originally Posted by Tia View Post
    Firstly I am sick to death of being alone Having depression makes relationships seem impossible due to the fact I crave love and affection but on a bad day people make me feel worse.
    I relate to that, it's a vicious circle I'm trapped in where part of me desperately craves company and the other part wants to shut myself off from the world. I have lost all my friends because of this and have only myself to blame.
    But I have also noticed that people tend to distance themselves as soon as they realise I have issues. This in my experience makes keeping a relationship going virtually impossible, though I suspect not meeting the right person doesn't help.

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    I don't think for one second that keeping a relationship with someone else is "virtually impossible." I know that my husband (with mental health issues) and I (with multiple physical disabilities) are still together and stronger now than ever before have been together for almost 19 years.
    Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!


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    Tia
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    I do know people who have physical disabilities, autism and other health problems they all seem happy and content in their relationships. All I think is lucky people. If I do manage to meet someone you can rest assured that I wouldn't tell them about my depression until I knew they were genuine and could handle my bad days. I am an expert at covering up my inner demons . I have a lot to offer to the right person . As soon as you mention the word 'depression ' people think that you don't work, don't socialise and are sat rocking in a corner. Nothing could be further from the truth. It would be good to have a partner again but ......its not the be all and end all. Much rather be on my own than in another abusive relationship.

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