Abuse **Triggers**

[purplefan]

There has been a lot in the news recently about sex abuse at football clubs and although i was NEVER abused myself an incident has come to mind that happened when i was 13 or 14.
I loved P.E. And i played in the school football team from 1st year to 3rd year and one day i was getting changed with the other boys and w went into the gym. I forgot something and i returned to the changing room and i saw the P.E. teacher looking at a pair of boys undrpants he obviously took out his his kit bag. He quickly returned the item and said, They were lying on the floor but the more i thought about it would you be holding a pair of pants up near your face if they fell on the floor? It was an incident i put to the back of my mind, but when all this abuse came out it brought it back again. Like i said i was never physically touched by anyone but there is other forms of abuse. And if you have been Abuse please don't keep it to yourself. Shar your story with someone and get help.
Child abuse is at epidemic proportions and it must be stamped out. So please dont keep it to yourself. Tell someone. It is never too late!

[Suzi]

We have a separate section regarding abuse - Abuse Survivors which people can join and talk things through, but it's only available through pming me and I make a decision as it's a vulnerable part of the site..

[purplefan]

That's good to know because part of the problem is that no one can talk about it. A safe environment is vital and i hope people will use it. Staying silent is not the answer no matter how long ago it happened.

[Angie]

Your right staying silent isn't the answer PF, but it is far from easy and can be very complex for people to open up and talk about aswell which is why a lot of people dont. The private section does give people a safer enviroment to open up and talk

[purplefan]

I hope that on good thing comes out of this Angie and that is people who have suffered not just sexual abuse but psychological and physical and financial abuse will be able to proudly speak about their experience without feeling like a victim.

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I hope that on good thing comes out of this Angie and that is people who have suffered not just sexual abuse but psychological and physical and financial abuse will be able to proudly speak about their experience without feeling like a victim.

Please tell me you're kidding?

[Jaquaia]

I hope that on good thing comes out of this Angie and that is people who have suffered not just sexual abuse but psychological and physical and financial abuse will be able to proudly speak about their experience without feeling like a victim.

I think you've chosen the wrong word there PF. I don't proudly speak about my experiences at all. They are some of the most traumatic experiences I've had. I'm not proud of them, no one is proud of them. Most victims of these crimes feel deep shame. I know I do. And you know what? I am a victim. Speaking from my own experience, I had crimes commited against me. I am a victim of these crimes, just like someone who had their lights punched out would be a victim of assault. I rarely talk about it, even in the private sections I don't often talk about the abuse I've been put through.

What I should be proud of is living through my experiences and coming out the other side. Speaking about my experiences is incredibly hard and always will be, but I'm proud of being a survivor.

[purplefan]

I understand that Jaquaia and i am deeply sorry for upsetting you. My spell checker gives me a list of words, and i accidently clicked on th wrong one.

I think you've chosen the wrong word there PF. I don't proudly speak about my experiences at all. They are some of the most traumatic experiences I've had. I'm not proud of them, no one is proud of them. Most victims of these crimes feel deep shame. I know I do. And you know what? I am a victim. Speaking from my own experience, I had crimes commited against me. I am a victim of these crimes, just like someone who had their lights punched out would be a victim of assault. I rarely talk about it, even in the private sections I don't often talk about the abuse I've been put through.

What I should be proud of is living through my experiences and coming out the other side. Speaking about my experiences is incredibly hard and always will be, but I'm proud of being a survivor.

[rose]

Purple, you probably mean 'safely' rather than 'proudly' didn't you?

[purplefan]

sorry i clicked on the wrong word. Opps.

Purple, you probably mean 'safely' rather than 'proudly' didn't you?