The thing is that there are cases of serious diseases in my family, and I guess this thing frightens her. Then probably the stereotypes of society I'm living in, even being a little different makes the things more difficult.
Thank you, the support I get here in the darkest moments makes me move forward!
Last edited by selena; 01-10-16 at 12:43 PM.
Selena there may be cases of serious illness but that does not mean that you will get a serious illness,
My family has a horrible history of some seriously horrendous illnesses but I do not and wont let that rule my life, I also wont let my family or anyone else do that to me either.
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selena (01-10-16)
My grandma died of bowel cancer, she also had cervical cancer. So did 2 of my aunts. My grandad died of lung cancer, so did another aunt. I have a form of anaemia which I seem to have inherited from my parents, which if left untreated can cause quite serious neurological problems. Should I not live my life because I *might* develop one of those diseases? Should I not live my life because I *might* develop some of those neurological symptoms?
So what if there has been serious illness in your family, it doesn't mean that you're doomed to develop them. You won't find anyone anywhere who hasn't been touched by serious illness in some way.
A good friend of mine died at just 27 of metastatic melanoma. A lovely girl I went right through school with died last year from a stroke. She was only 32. A girl I supported when I worked as a teaching assistant died the year before from cystic fibrosis. She was in her early 20s. They all lived their lives in spite of their illnesses. Stop living in what ifs and focus on getting what you want from life, otherwise you're going to end up old and alone and regretting not taking your chances. Only you can change your life
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You're right, but the pressure around drives me crazy.
We all live with pressure Selena, you need to find a way to manage it that works for you. First steps are getting that depression diagnosis and looking into counselling
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I'm waiting to get referred, but I'm afraid the things won't work out.
By pressure I mean atmosphere at home and my busy schedule at work. This week I enjoy two holidays, but I'm very busy and each day cope with stress at work place.
We seem to be going around in circles. We have been through this before; both the situations at work and at home. We have made countless suggestions to you to deal with both. What have you actually tried? As we can't help you until you start to help yourself.
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Suzi (02-10-16)
The situation at home improved for a while. As far as it concerns my work, the only thing I'll get it's a little holiday in November. The only real thing I can do is to get a private appointment with a psychologist and so quick up the things...
You could sit your mum down and firmly tell her you find her comments extremely hurtful and from that point on she isn't to bring your illness up and if she does you will leave the room. And actually follow through with that. It will eventually stop as she'll get bored of talking to herself.
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Angie (01-10-16)
Jaq and Paula are right lovely, you need to tell those around you. You need to get that appointment to get a proper diagnosis. You have to do this to help yourself and to find a way to get through this and to get some proper help.
Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!
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