Agreed Selena you're very strong lady coping with depression on a day to day basis requires a great inner strength which goes unseen.
You should be proud with how you cope with life. (panda)
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Agreed Selena you're very strong lady coping with depression on a day to day basis requires a great inner strength which goes unseen.
You should be proud with how you cope with life. (panda)
I think I survived in great part due to your support too. Because there were many hard moments filled with sorrow.
True, but try not to downplay your own strenght. If that would not be present then the support alone would not be enough. You are strong and the support makes you even stronger.
How are you doing?
Thanks, slowly, but it's good that the last week high anxiety slowed down a little.
That is good. And are you doing nice things for yourself to relax a little?
Not too much, but I have been today to a nice cosy cafee and had some good time.
Thats nice. Its so important to do things like that. Even more so for people that have depression or mental health issues.
I want your opinion on something.
You know, I always appreciate your opinions on no matter what...
Should I feel guilty because I'm unwilling to visit a certain place or someone I share blood ties with?
Do you mean my opinion or from the others?
Yours too.
Sorry. Double post. Its all in the other one.
Well from reading your posts in the past I see that we both have depression and low self esteem. This sadly males it easier to feel guilty about situations and questions people ask.
But i dont think you should feel guilty at all about those two things. Whatever reasons you may have they are reasons. And they are true to you. I dont think it would be good doing things out of guilt. That will only make things worse.
People like us need to look out for ourselfs a bit more. And there is defenitly no guilt in that.
Definitely not feel guilty... We've had similar conversations in my house about Marc's Dad and that none of my children want to see him. He doesn't bother with them and is an alcoholic so why should they have to have contact if they aren't going to get anything positive from him? If they change their minds we will always make it happen, but sometimes the kindest thing for you is to not see them and to focus more on your own self care.
How are you feeling? Did the advice people gave here help a little?
Of course, it helped a lot (as usually!)!
How are you lovely?
Definitely better, because had a quiter week and a nice week-end with more rest and no extra translations to be done.
Good, I'm glad!
How are you doing?
I'm fine, thanks, or let's say, I'm coping now.
My mother instead has had fever today. Tomorrow she will have an appointment with her doctor at hospital and will pass ultra sound exam.
Still hope nothing serious occurred, 6 months nearly passed since her last surgery.
Thats good to hear, coping is sometimes the best we can do.
I do hope that things for your mum will be good. I know how it feels to worry about a parent feeling unwell.
(bear) I hope your Mum is OK lovely....
I'm very sad about the last news we've got.
When I returned home, I read the medical conclusion (ultra sound scan). It states: "Multiple liver Mts.".
It means this nightmare came back anyway. Although it's logically understandable, as it's continuation of her disease, but it still hurts a lot. I talked to her doctor over phone and he suggested that maybe she can consider chemo therapy.
When he saw her, he mentioned she does not look bad for her condition anyway. But he suggested to take prescription for painkillers, because they might be needed sooner or later.
However, she is in a very good mood and happy, although rejects chemo (as she considers she will slow down fast after this, maybe she is right, as there are people who had harsh side effects and died soon after it). She believes in God and church.
I'm feeling very discouraged, maybe I should consider in a short time working free lance.
Oh sweetheart, I’m so sorry (panda)
What impact does the doctor think chemo will have? Is he hoping it will get rid of the mets or just slow down their progress?
He said all cancer patients are recommended chemo. But, of course, her case is very particular.
She is against, she said she had gone so far through too much pain and it will kill her fast.
I can only imagine how it must hit hard this kind of news. Is there enough support for your mum and for you?
Well, here there are no specific programs. However, there is one hospice for last stage cancer patients, financed by foreign organization. But I have hoped not to get on this stage soon.
(panda)
I'm sorry lovely. If she won't consider chemo what is she prepared to do?
I am concerned that she will only believe in God and the church, reject all scientific help and that she will start saying horrible and unkind things to you again. You don't deserve that...
I hope your mum makes the decision to have more treatment if it's offered. She has nothing to lose. But you make sure to look after yourself too. You're such a supportive daughter and she's so lucky to have you. (panda)
(bear) (panda)
Thank you everybody for support.
She talked to the oncologist, he is reserved for chemo treatment in her case, as she had three surgeries and her organs underwent resection.
This conclusion of "Multiple Mts" really stands in my mind. Now I think about whether to consider home work for my office. My mind is really troubled now.
What exactly did the oncologist say? Are there any treatment options or is he saying palliative care only?
He did not specify anything concretely, maybe because he is of older generation and we have a few specialists of this profile.
Her surgeon thinks instead she should and can require chemo treatment in connection with Mts.
She found out about possible side effects and does not want any pain because she had already undergone three surgeries and knows that chemo might slow down her health fast.
But chemo could give her a longer life too?
Obviously she can only be guided by her medical team as to what is the right path for her... Please though, take care of you.
Yesterday she had fever, a high temperature, in fact 39.2 C. She took medications and antibiotics prescribed by her doctor. Her condition got better. But tomorrow she wants to go to church and doesn't want to get some more rest home.
She doesn't want to obey and have some rest.
Thing is, she is an adult and she has to make her own choices. It's hard, but you can't lock her in...