That makes sense. Maybe she could call the dr for you if you can't?
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That makes sense. Maybe she could call the dr for you if you can't?
I'm sorry, I didn't know how to start the sentence. I've been calling the doctor again this morning but the line is still busy each time. I'll try talking to my wife again tonight if I can't get an answer before 9am.
I think you need to speak to your wife regardless, it’s not just about getting the doctors appt, it’s also about having the support only your loved ones can give
How about something like...
"I need to talk to you about something. You know I've been struggling with depression? Well it's got more serious and I am ..... "? She's your wife. Presumably you love her and she loves you. She will know something's going on - trust me, I did with Marc way before he went to the drs or talked to me about it - but I was imagining so many other things that would cause similar symptoms. Talk to her.
I tried talking to her about it last night and she didn't seem impressed that I was seeking medical help again after what happened last time.
A few years ago I was on sertraline. After a few months I felt like I could be neither happy or sad, my memory problems got even worse and I was falling asleep at my desk. Faced with the same manager's attitude to medical appointments then as now (Is it really necessary?), I just didn't go back and stopped taking the tablets when they ran out.
Then a few months later I started seeing my friends at work (who I've been told not to talk to since September 2017) and they helped me to motivate myself, but without them it's gotten worse.
Today I've been trying not to act on my urges to cope, but in the end I've caved in and eaten a small amount of chocolate and sat shaking behind my desk.
Does it matter if you've eaten some chocolate?
I really think you need to talk to your wife again. You obviously need help....
Normally I'd eat a whole pack, but I was trying to avoid it because I've been putting a lot of weight on from comfort eating.
I'll try talking to her again tonight.
Try using things like www.time-to-change.org.uk It's got some great ideas for conversation starters or ways of explaining things.
I wouldn’t worry too much about comfort evening right now, especially if it helps
She says I should stop screaming in the store room and stop snacking. I haven't told her about the cutting.
Somebody's put a complaint in which is likely to get me sacked during next week's review meeting.
I'm going to give up phoning the doctors from 8am until 9, the 21st is less than a week away now.
What is the complaint? Have you contacted your union rep?
The complaint was about some perfectly good equipment that wasn't replaced. I was told to replace it with some slightly older equipment, which I discovered wasn't fit for purpose. I told him this, but he's complained any way.
My union rep is back in tomorrow, so I'll tell her about it in the morning.
Make sure you do...
Please do, that really doesn’t sound like grounds for disciplinary action ...
I'm already in trouble for not communicating properly and for marking incomplete requests and repairs as finished. But more often than not, when I've marked an incomplete job as finished it's because it can't be fixed or performing the job will only make things worse.
So they aren't really finished then? I can see why that could cause a problem....
And as far as I can tell (because the tasks are registered online) there's no option to mark a task as "unable to resolve". I've been told to upgrade the unfit equipment with parts in storage, but I've just now explained to him that these are the wrong size. I'll see what comes out of this.
Did you talk to your rep?
I think she was ill today. If she's not back tomorrow I'll email her to let her know.
Why not email her today?
I prefer to talk to her face to face to avoid misunderstandings. She's in today and I've given her the details, so she knows what they'll be talking about on Wednesday. Thankfully my doctor's appointment is before then.
Why would there be misunderstandings if you are typing facts to her?
Sometimes I'll make assumptions about what the email recipient knows and miss out important details. Speaking face to face generally works better for me because I can fix mis-understandings much faster.
This may be the sort of communication issues my manager is referring to.
Sorry about the double post, but I got back from the doctor and she's diagnosed me with work related stress. I've been given an official looking form which tells my employer that my workload should be reduced for 4 week.
Assuming I still have a job in 4 weeks' time, anything I don't get done will still be waiting for me at the end of the reduction, on top of the regular workload I'm dealing with now.
Glad you're being seen and given some reduction in workload....
Nothing about depression? Therapy? Medication?
Nothing about depression. I must not be suffering enough.
Were you completely honest about everything?
Did you tell her that you are struggling with those elements too? Did you volunteer that info or did you just say that you were having a hard time at work?
I had written a list of what I'm doing and what symptoms I'm experiencing, but I only managed to get about a third of the way through it before she asked about my work situation, after which she told me I didn't have depression.
Have you previously had a diagnosis?
She has no authority (unless she is a doctor ....) to make that statement and could get in trouble for doing so. Id be very surprised if that’s what she meant
I have about 3 or 4 years ago and they put me on sertraline, but that made me feel even worse so I stopped taking it.
Did you stop it after talking to your gp? How long did you take it for?
Did you ever go back and tell them it was making you feel worse?
Sorry, I may have gotten some messages mixed up. I'll back up a bit.
My GP says I don't have depression. She's a different doctor to the one who prescribed sertraline before.
I didn't go to my GP when the sertraline ran out. I was so scared about what another medication might do that I didn't go back for over a year, and that was for a different health issue.
My union rep will be assisting me tomorrow morning with my capability review. I know she'll do her best, but it also depends on how determined management are to get rid of me.
I've applied for another job today, so hopefully I'll have somewhere to go in 4 week's time.
There's a lot of confusion about what my doctor's note would mean with regards reduced workload. I'm the only person on site who deals with equipment problems and recently when I've had medical appointments and job interviews there's been nobody to cover for me.
If I have 4 weeks on reduced workload, then anything I haven't done in that time will be waiting for me when the note expires, plus my regular workload.
Next week I'll be on holiday for 5 days, so I should get a rest (in theory). But then that's another 5 day's work not done at all that I'll have to catch up on upon my return.
Did you tell your dr everything about how you are feeling?
I tried to tell her, but she didn't let me finish reading from my list before she said it was work related stress. Maybe I should have just given the list to her.
That's always a good idea. Maybe try to go back?
My manager and union rep have asked me to confirm what the note she wrote about "adjusted responsibilities" means, so I'll go back as soon as I can get another appointment.
Can you call and get a telephone appointment? That might be quicker than a full on appointment.