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I find Christmas and other 'happy times' very difficult but I must say something I always find cheers me up is summer.
You don't need to be socialising to enjoy it, just sitting in your garden with a book or having a walk in the park is so simple yet so lovely.
I am definitely a summer person!
You could always try asking some of your friends to meet somewhere etc..
ye I go out with my cousin clubbin 1ce a week & the same thing happens over & over; she buggers off with some guy, I stay in town for a bit (feelin like a twat talkin to strangers) then I go home with my tail between my legs. I've just been now actually & its the last fkn time I go until I form legitimate friends of my own. Guys will no doubt relate to this, its the same thing ever year.
We're expected to go out & party every week but u have to be really, really in the mood to dance with strangers. I start off spirited but then depression quickly settles in, triggered by feelin completely lost in a crowd of jubilants. These constant disapointing nights contribute to my low self esteem i'd say (blush)..
Why not fill your nights with things you enjoy then? If you know you're setting yourself up for a trigger, do something else.
Totally agree with Westin.. I've never been a lover of clubbing etc so I did something different..
So why do you keep doing it? I don't mean that aggressively, I really would like to know why. Is it because you don't like the thought of not going out, or because you don't know what other options there are?
ye pretty much the thought of stayin in on a weekend.. especially at summer/christmas. Its every1s favourite past-time on my fb etc so its kinda the natural thing to do. The alternative is stayin in on a weekend which I do everyday. When I'm out though my self-esteem is exposed in a place full of strangers. I'm an attractive guy apparently but i'm ridiculously short! (5'3-'4) (blush).
Even in Turkey last year, despite the lush setting my mood was still overwhelmingly low. I've broken down in tears several times in restaurants/pub toilets etc ;(.. I'm constantly riddled with insecurity - prospects, lack of relationships, low self-image etc. I'm percieved as a 'gd lad' with a gd sense of humour but behind the curtain I'm so unhappy with this miserable life I lead :(..
I'm saying this with the proviso that I've never done this, though know of people who do. Have you ever considered joining one of those groups that arrange outings, doing all sorts of different things, where you can meet like minded people without any pressure? I wonder if it might take you out of the mindset that all there is to do at the weekend is clubbing, which you don't like.
I attended a depression & anxiety support group the other day, I suppose it helped to be with others who can relate. Some of the stories I heard wr really distressing & left me cold & rather disturbed. I think having a consistent daily routine would be the best therapy for me personally. Every day its just me & this black hole of nothingness, shut away in my room with inconceivable despair. These new ADs r a long way from kicking in as well.. I've noticed though when I'm working my depression is alleviated through the adrenaline rush. It would work wonders to work full time but thats so hard to come by :(..
I really do appreciate the support people offer on these forums considerin u've no obligation to do so. I find it to be an invaluable respite in moments of complete hopelessness :).
So glad we can help you hunni.. Are you going to go back to the group?