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Hello there
Hello friends
Well it has been a while(nod) It has been quite an eventful year. In March I started a relationship with a wonderful lady. We are so very happy together (inlove) In May I bought a new house which we all love. Shortly after that, my step dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer and in August he went into a nursing home. Sadly, he lost his battle on 13th October & the funeral was on Monday. It all feels surreal at the moment. Mum needs a lot of support, although she has a lot of friends too. I’m trying to pace myself (my partner helps me to do this too) Just trying to take each day as it comes. I’m still on my meds, especially grateful for the night time stuff to switch my brain off! I am seeing my counsellor once a month too, and still swim regularly.
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Hey hunni! I've missed you! It's lovely to see you!
I'm so sorry about your StepDad lovely... I hope the funeral went as well as it could do. Is once a month enough for the moment with your counsellor?
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It's good to see you! I'm sorry about your stepdad (panda)
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Hey sweetie, good to see you :). I’m so sorry about your stepdad (bear)
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It's good to see you sweetie, I am sorry about your stepdad xx
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So sorry about your stepdad, glad to hear from you again Arty.
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Sorry to hear of your loss xx
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Hello,
I had a good morning but at lunchtime I reversed my car into a wall :( Thankfully I am insured but I have to pay the excess. I feel very shaken up tonight. I am seeing my counsellor on Monday at 5pm which is really good. I can always book another one for a fortnight's time, thanks Suzi for your advice. Tomorrow I will go for a swim which will help. My partner and Mum have been really good/understanding today and have pointed out that mistakes happen and I must not beat myself up.
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Awww am sorry about the car but as long as you are not hurt that is the main thing. I'm glad you have had support aswell x
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They’re absolutely right - accidents happen to all of us. The important thing is you are all right - cars are hunks of metal that can be fixed
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Marc used to work in car repairs and restoration. One day he told me to drive his pride and joy (old shape BMW325ise in gunmetal grey. I loved that car) and I was terrified. He told me something then that has stayed with me forever. "It's a hunk of metal that can be reshaped or replaced. It's the soft and the squishy bit - that's you - that's important".... He was so right (but don't tell him I said that!)..
Make sure you are kind to you, you've been through a lot recently lovely..
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It is so good to be back on the forum. Thanks for your lovely comments xx
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Sorry for your loss. This is such a great place for extra support.
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It's good to have you back! :)
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I'm crocheting again (inlove) I'm making a wreath with daisies and butterflies on it. I've been for a swim this morning & I feel calmer this afternoon x
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Sounds like a really good day sweetie and the wreath sounds lovely xx
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That sounds fun! I'm doing the Rosetta CAL which I'm loving!
Would love to see your wreath when it's done!
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Hello folks,
It's anxious of Somersetshire here again! I start a new job on Monday and feel absolutely terrified. Thankfully my wonderful partner is talking me though things and I have spoken to the Samaritans today too x
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Hey congrats on the job! What are you going to be doing?
I'm glad you've used the tools you have - do you want to talk about what's in your head here?
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Hi Suzi,
The job is a part time care assistant (21 hours per week)
I am worried that I won’t be able to cope with it basically. It is the fear of the unknown. The people seem lovely there and were *really* keen to take me on. Today I am very tired and my head is full of self doubt. I am terrified of getting ill again. My partner has put me into bed to rest. I have had a few tears (which always releases stuff for me) x
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I’m sure you’ll be great at it but it’s always difficult going into a new job. As your signature says, one day at a time. Try not to borrow trouble - I’m betting you’ll love it.
What are you doing to help ease the anxiety? Are you sleeping, eating, drinking?
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Yes to the above and taking my meds. I have tried various distraction techniques during the evening. My brain is struggling to switch off tonight.Thank you for your words of encouragement Paula x
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Hey, you'll be brilliant as a carer. How are the hours split over the week? Do you get time off in between to recharge?
What things have you put in place for self care?
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Morning, lovely, how are you?
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Despite having a bad night, I got up, walked the dogs and then came to pottery. I have had a small swim too. The shifts will vary but this week I am doing Mon-Weds 7:30/8-2.30. My partner is not working this week so she and the girls are going to look after the house/tea x I will have a swim Tuesday after work x
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Hope you're loving your first day!
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Aww thank you ladies. Day 1 done! Really felt like running away half way through but saw it through
My days have been changed and I am now working Thursday & Friday morning instead of Tuesday & Wednesday. I think this is better as I have 2 rest days now xx
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Well done - you did it! (party)
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Monday, Thursday and Friday sounds much better... Did you enjoy it?
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I did thanks Suzi. Hard work and a lot of information to take in but I can see that the work is very rewarding. I have taken the dogs for a walk this morning, been for a swim and am now watching old episodes of Call the Midwife (my go to chill out TV) My crochet hook is coming out too (nod)(inlove)x
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Sounds like a good way to spend your day.
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Sounds like a lovely day...