Ok, but what do you want to do?
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Ok, but what do you want to do?
I want to live my life. I want to build the career I want and have a home with the man I love. I want to be debt free. I don't want to have to rely on my mum and dad to keep me. I don't want the responsibility for everything to fall on my shoulders. I don't want to have to keep fighting with my mum to get her to take her medication properly. I don't want to have to put up with my dads drinking. And I don't want the constant assumption that I will be free to go to all my mums appointments
One of the things we talked about in Bath was looking at the values in our life - the things that are most important (family, relationships etc) and what we can do to achieve goals that contribute to those values. I’ve found that really helpful in prioritising what I do now to work towards what is most important to me. So, if you could only have one of the items on your list, what would it be?
Then as selfish as it sounds, I want to be able to live my life. I spend so much time doing things for others, I have for most of my life. I feel like I have missed out on so much. I want to live rather than exist
Then what do you need to change to make that happen?
By doing what I am doing, getting qualified, learning to drive and paying off my debts.
But can you work out a fairer distribution of chores around the house?
I'm not sure how. I don't know how much of it is pain with my mum and how much of it is apathy. Just like with my dad, I don't know how much of it is pain and discomfort and how much is apathy. I don't pay board so I expect to do a fair bit, it's just exhausting some days.
Surely they could do something every other day or something?