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Everyone has made really valid points. There are different AD's that you can try.I agree with suzi re the anxiety. I've experienced the same as you (many people do). Anxiety feeds off itself itms. The fear, nausea, dry mouth, panic, hyperventilation etc., intensifies when you think you're going out of your mind! Lack of sleep doesn't help. What can help is to get hold of a paper bag that's big enough for you to comfortably breathe in and out of. This way, instead of breathing too much oxygen which feeds the anxiety, breathing in your own carbon dioxide will quieten the anxiety. I've been in the state you are in and it's no picnic...it's terrifying! But clever you to realise that the depression and the thoughts just ISN'T you...it will pass. Something else that might help - well it helped me and helps my son - go on to Amazon and find relaxation CD's. There is one where you can listen to waves breaking on the shore. Get your partner or whoever to buy you some earplugs from a chemist. Open your windows but close the curtains. Concentrate on the CD while breathing in long even breaths. This should help with the panic etc. is there any way or could you afford to make an appointment with a private therapist? A lot of them concentrate on anxiety and depression. I did this for about 8 weeks and it helped me enormously. You won't be in a queue either! The cost varies but it's around £45 an hour depending on where you live. Google them in your area. I understand that not everyone can afford this type of money but even seeing someone once can change things around. It's a case of prioritising sometimes. Keep posting love. you aren't a nuisance...everything you have explained could be me or any of us.(panda)
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Thank you. I definitely do need to look into relaxation. I'll have a look on YouTube first and see what free ones are available. There are apps as well that I'll check out that may help with the tinitus.
I didn't go to work today. I didn't feel strong enough to drive in especially in this heat. I knew it would make me feel worse. My manager is so understanding. He told me to just do the minimum from home and not to worry.
I am feeling slightly better than yesterday. I slept more than the previous night. Once the storm started at midnight the neighbours went in and it was quieter.
Suzi I just found the withdrawal from venalfaxine really tough and when I was on it I struggled with side effects. However I know it help me loads. I won't rule it out but I do think a Dr experienced in mental health will be better to advise. The gp with an interest in mental health isn't working this week. I'll try to speak to him when he is back in. I've no idea how long the referral to mental health services are. 9 years ago I got seen quickly because I had presented myself in A&E in crisis and I was straight away with the crisis team who referred me to physciatrist. It was the physciatrist that sorted my meds
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What side effects did you have to deal with?
If you're struggling with suicidal thoughts, will you go to A+E?
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I will do thanks. Im feeling a little better today than yesterday. I've put a blanket in the shade and sitting outside. It's hot but It feels hotter inside. One of my sunflowers opened up today that I planted in march. It's the first time I've done this and it made me happy today to see the gorgeous flower opening up. We have three more to open
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That's brilliant. Looking for the positives will help...
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Sunflowers are fab aren't they! they make me smile just to look at them. They are such happy flowers. Hope the others open soon so you have a sea of faces smiling at you.
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Sunflowers are my OH's favourite flower..you can't help but smile at them can you? Glad you're feeling a little better.
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How are you this morning?
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I made it to work this morning. Really struggled to get up as I had another bad night sleep but I wanted to push myself. Apart from it being hot and humid at work I managed to cope ok. I now have 8 working days off as annual leave so hopefully I can switch off from work. I've collapsed on the sofa now and really exhausted.
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Well done for getting into work lovely. Are you planning on doing anything nice whilst you are off?
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Well done going into work today and so wonderful to have a break now. Any nice day trips planned or meeting up with friends? Enjoy resting and relaxing. (bear)
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SM has said it all..well done you going to work....have a restful weekend.
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No trips planned yet. Hoping to go somewhere Wednesday. I'm just finding it hard to plan anything.
Last night was a bad night. I woke up about 2.30. couldn't get back to sleep till after 6 which meant I struggled to get out of bed till 11. I watched a funeral on zoom which was really sad and I've been thinking about it alot today.
My escape method today was continuing teaching myself keyboard. I remember as a teenager I played the violin and this was my escape back then. If I needed to distract myself then I would play music. It helped to lift my mood.
It's good but at the same time I'm not dealing well with myself. I'm struggling massively with self esteem and image amongst so many other things. I find it hard and painful to talk about this. I've also put on over a st since march from binge eating junk which isn't helping with my self image. My eating habits are bad at the moment so I have myself to blame
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Sorry you're not sleeping well. Try and take it easy and be kind to yourself. Your lack of self esteem and self worth etc. are typical of depression. As for the extra weight you've gained since March, I think most people and their grandmother have gained quite a bit, myself included! It's a comfort thing together with not being able to get out I think. Why on earth were you watching a funeral on zoom?! Someone you knew or morbid curiosity? With bouts of depression the last thing you need is doing or watching anything that brings you down. If you watch tv watch something uplifting, watch a funny film, do things that make you feel good like your keyboard.Go for a walk with a friend to somewhere nice. Plan any little trips to somewhere interesting and new. You'll get through this but it takes a little time. Meanwhile, do some nice things. Be good to yourself.(bear)
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You've mentioned a few things which are really helpful. I love that you find music lifts your mood. Indulge in playing as much as you can. Also just having the radio on or a good playlist on spotify even if you dont realise you're listening to it, having it on in the background will help give you a lift.
You are not alone in having put on weight over lockdown and you are right, it doesn't help with self esteem issues. What does help is being pro active. Can you set yourself a goal to
brisk walk 10 minutes every day? It helps with routine...fantastic for recovery, it helps with helping you feel more energised and will help with your self esteem issues.
It's most important that you learn to be kind to yourself. You are not well and need time to recover. There is a great fact sheet on the forum on self care. Prioritise the things that help, especially while off on leave. Yes, other things need done too, I know, but looking after you helps get you through the mundane or downright horrible.
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Hey hunni, how are you today? I agree with Flo, why did you go to the funeral? Someone you knew?
How's the getting up, washed, dressed, eating and drinking going?
With regard to your sleeping I think one of the worst things you can be dong now is staying in bed late because that then has a knock on to the following night. The best thing to gte a sleeping pattern back into control is to make sure you continue to get up at a sensible time (9ish) and then you'll be tired for that night itms?
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The funeral was a close family friend. Due to covid restrictions we couldn't go so they made it accessable for people to join in on zoom.
We just booked a one night away trip to Blackpool later this week. I used Tesco clubcard to buy tickets for the pleasure beach. I really didn't want to go but hubby talked me into it saying we really have to get away for one night. Kids will love the theme park even if I don't go on the rides with them. Big rides frighten me. Last year I went with just my daughter and she was happy going on big rides herself. I'm worried about the social distancing and hope I don't get too anxious there. I wanted to go near the sea as I find sea air so relaxing. So the first day we will walk along the sea maybe on st Anne's and second day at the theme park
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You'll have a lovely time. Try and think on the positives of going and the new things you'll see, plus a nice walk by the beach. I'm sure it will lift your spirits.;)
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Absolutely agree with Flo. I know you've been struggling with anxiety, but you can get some great fresh air, and you have tools to help you along the way. It'll be a great time.
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That sounds like a lovely thing to do. I’ve just come back from a few days at Bath and I was anxious too before we left. But once we got there and started doing all the touristy stuff, I allowed myself to enjoy it. I hope you can manage that too ;)
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I think you're dead right Paula.....it's the thought of going, and what's going to happen that's the stumbling block. I'm the same...but when you're on the road it get's exciting and all the new sights etc., cancel out the anxiety. You'll have a great time AA.
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How are you doing lovely? You've gone quiet...
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It was great getting away from home. Unfortunately one night wasn't enough and once we got he last night I crashed as was so exhausted. On the positive side last night was the first time in ages I slept through without waking. My husband said it was the sea air. But I'm having such a downer today. Still not got dressed and can't shift this low mood
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Glad you had a good time. Could you plan to go again for a weekend or something?
Get up, get dressed and go and be with your family. It WILL help lovely....
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Im struggling to plan much at the moment.
There are a lot of things triggering my emotions at the moment that I don't feel comfortable talking on an open forum. I'm also in alot of pain today which isn't helping my mood.
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So glad you enjoyed yourself. Its natural to feel a bit low after coming home, added in the tiredness of travel etc. Suzi is right though, how about a short family walk, get some fresh air. It will help give you a lift.
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It was exhausting because I had to do all the driving. The weather on Wednesday wasn't good but we still managed to sit on the beach for a few minutes before the rain came then we found a costa and had half price drinks. I found the pleasure beach quite stressful yesterday and not relaxing. My son enjoyed but my hubby had to take my daughter out for two hours as she struggled wut noise and crowds. I was surprised how many people were allowed into the park. The park itself had done a good job with arranging one way systems and social distancing measures and masks on rides but it was impossible to completely keep distancing from crowd's. At one point I took myself off to a quiet cafe for a cold drink. I was glad to have been away from home. Wednesday was relaxing but yesterday far from it
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You'd be welcome to rejoin the over 18's section and the womans only group if you'd like.
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I've made those changes, please sign in on those sections roll call.