Yes, that is true, although hard.
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Yes, that is true, although hard.
It IS really hard. I wish there was an easy answer for you....
What did she decide to do?
Sometimes, though, we need to do the things our doctors would like us not to do- the mental encouragement we get from things like going to church and seeing friends can make us feel a lot better than lying in bed can do
She thinks if there is not much choice left, Church is her healing anyway.
Well, we have gone to church today together.
I have panic attacks in crowded places (currently the local churches are rather crowded because of Lent period). So I remained closer to the exit, so that I can breathe in some fresh air, but she stayed in a rather crowded place. Although we had some misunderstandings these days, she felt better today.
Make sure you look after you too please lovely
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These do sound like troubling times. The best thing to do is support your mum as best you can. And I think you are doing that already. One of the best ways to do that though is look after yourself as well.
How are things going for you?
I'm not in the best mood now. I have to pretend that everything is ok before others.
My boss has again her crisis. But my mom feels better.
You don't have to pretend here
Good that your mom is feeling better. And Jaquaia is so right. Here you can be yourself. Good mood, thats great. Glad you are ok. Not a good mood, talk about it here (panda)
What's up with your boss?
Like usually, she sucks out everything from the people around.
She calmed down.
I have a question. If my mom is ill, do you think she is right trying not to let me go somewhere?
Hi Selena, I do not know the whole situation. If its going for a night out or going some days?
But I think you do your best to care for your mother. And even with all the care someone can give its important to have moments for yourself. To recharge and give yourself a breather.
I have to agree with Mira. If you feel that you need a break and she's well enough then there's no reason for you not to go.
Are you planning on going away for a week or a weekend?
A very difficult question Selena, I can see no reason why you can't have a few days away if your mum seems to be settled, it's your decision in the end. (panda)Quote:
Originally Posted by Selena
Your mum is ill, we all know that and you are her carer - but every carer has the right to have a break, and actually its super important that they have those breaks. Continuous caring with no respite takes its toll and, tbh, will eventually mean the carer can’t continue to carry out that care.
Hunni, you need to ask for help, maybe from the congregation at the church?. The lack of support you have is going to break you
Hi, how are things going for you at the moment?
My Mom calmed down and there are not so many disagreements between us.
This week has been tough for me, because I've been feeling very tired and a little bit ill, maybe due to weather, my blood pressure got around 147/87.
I did a translation in the last holiday I had. A colleague told me that I need a vacation without any work, that all illnesses came back and appear due to this.
Your colleague is right. You need time to just rest
Yes I think so too. A little time for yourself where you do something you want to do. But be away from work for a while and just focus on yourself. You more then deserve it Selena.
Your colleague is completely spot on. You need to rest and be away from all work.
I agree too, when have you had time just for you?
In June, the beginning of June, hope everything will be all right by then
Ok thats not to long from now. But please remember to do something just for you. And try not to work then :)
Are you working at weekends and in the evenings too?
This weekend not, but it happens sometimes.
When was the last time you had a proper break where you weren't working too?
Last November, I had a week vacation, but it was after my mom's return from hospital and grandmother's death.
Which wasn’t a break, lovely. Do you think that, if you actually book a holiday now for June, you’d actually go? Because my concern about ‘hoping things will be ok in June’, by the time you get to June something will come up that will stop you going
I agree with Paula. You need to look out for the most inportant person in the world to you. Yourself. Being kind to yourself. Having a vacation and relax. So you are recharged to care for others.
You do deserve it.
Today I've been to church with my mom. It's Palm Sunday in the Eastern Orthodox Church.
I've had a break, but still feeling rather low, with vertigo, headaches and numbness.
And thanks, I agree that I should finally have a normal holiday.
Have you seen the Dr about how you are feeling?
Not yet.
I had some problems around 2 months ago, the tests did not show anything suspect, but blood pressure and vertigo still remains a harsh issue...
Then sweetheart you HAVE to go and get checked out...
^^^wss blood pressure is not something you can ignore (and can cause vertigo)
Yep Selena high blood pressure and for that matter low blood pressure needs checking out by your doctor (panda)
Ofcourse I agree with the others on this.
I'm feeling better, will try to put down more details tomorrow.
Thank you everybody for support.
Did you go and see your Dr?