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No. When they move mum and dad wont be able to afford the mortgage so theyll be moving to norfolk and ill have nowhere to live. I cant afford to find my own place, thats the only reason i havent yet.
Have you thought about renting somewhere? What about housing benefit?
Sorry if I'm teaching grandmother to suck eggs, but have you spoken to the council/housing authority?
I'm not familiar with that phrase, but i like it.
I haven't yet, i'm going to try and get round to it tomorrow (got a to-do list as long as my arm, but it's second only to health related things).
I sat down and talked it over with my mum. it's just one viewing, and it's possible it's already gone. but if it's not they'll probably take it. it's not actually available until the end of the month and they haven't even had a response from the letting agency yet. it's a difficult one because sure, i was trying to move out anyway, but it's likely im going to have to give up on the volunteering now and get a full time job, which to a large extent closes a lot of doors career wise. I was talking to a friend whos now working in London and his advice was to just make myself available whenever the prganisations want me, but this is obviously mostly unfeasible. so i don't know what to do.
been getting the odd mouth ulcer and nosebleed from stress it seems.
Have you spoken to your Dr yet?
Are you planning on returning to uni as a student? If so, what about student accommodation?
Glad you have an appointent. Might help to write a bullet point list of what's going on for you - or print out some posts?
Yeah thats a good idea. Im seeing the same doctor i saw before so that should make things easier.
Also kum days she thinks shes come up with a way we can stay here for a little while after theyre gone. My rent would probably have to increase so uts not ideal, but i fuess itd do for the short term. I may have to look into taking a full time job in aomething unrelated to my field which feels like auch a wrong thing to do, but i guess needs must? I dont know. People tell me i have so many options right now but it feels like nothng could be further from the truth.
Are you on benefits now or working? How did it go with the Dr?
Om working but its only part time. The idea was to do that while volunteering for work experience before getting something full time. Not on any benefits myself but im looking into housing benefit.
She gave me information about some local ciunselling services, including the one i was with before that does CBT. She also suggested citalopram, told me to go away and think about it.
Have you taken citalopram before?
Are you going to contact the counselling services?
Havent taken it before. Probably will get in touch with them, though i will also be looking for some CBT stuff i can try at home.
Can I ask why you're not on any benefits?
I know you're not feeling great right now, but at least they listened and they've made some constructive options.
Why not?
They looked at the flat and theyre making an offer/bot/whatever its called. Parents are now saying we should be able to stay eithout me goig full time, but to be honest i dont want to be here much longer anyway. If were going to struggle either way, i may as well get out.
As for the citalopram, ive been told the main side effects are nausea and dizziness at the dtart but id have to be oretty unlucky to get anything else, but i dint know how true that is.
1. If you're looking for work you should be claiming JSA
2. If you're not well enough for work you should be claiming ESA
Totally agree with Paula. You could even claim Pip too...
i'm filling out a council housing application at the moment. struggling with the section asking how my accomodation/living situaton affects my mental illness. i obviously know how it does, but i dont know how to put it in a way that will get across.
we tried PIP ages ago (back when it was DLA) for my eye thing. wasnt eligible. can't see that having changed.
Then why not claim income support? It does still exist - it's just not advertised anymore. https://www.gov.uk/income-support/how-to-claim
can i apply for that if any of the people im living with claim it?
Have you looked to see if you would be?
The thing with most people is they believe they're not eligible but don't have the info to actually make that decision. Until you apply, you just don't know. It's worth sitting down with an Advisor from Citizens Advice or other relevant charities as they'll have more of an idea of what you can claim.
Re PiP, why didn't you apply for DLA re your mental health? MH, depending on how it affects you on a day to day basis, can mean eligibility for PiP. And the claims process, criteria etc are all very different to DLA. It's worth finding out and, again, speaking to a specialist to get support with your claim.
I checked, i am not eligible for income support. i didnt apply fot DLA on mental health grounds because it wasnt an issue at the time, but i didnt qualify on grounds of visual impairment. I can function with the depression (in fact several people have said im a prime example of high functioning depression, if that is indeed a thing), so i can't see me qualifying for it now on those grounds either.
Im putting in an application for council housing at the moment, in which i will mention the mental health. Im aware it probably wont come to anything, but at last i can try.
I'll say this just once again, because I truly hope that you will be able to take this on board. The rules, eligibility and criteria are often very different to what you expect. Please go to your local Citizens Advice and ask for help determining what they (the experts) think you may or may not be entitled to. You may just be surprised.
I never believed I was eligible either but I had nothing to lose by applying and now I'm £100 a week better off for it. When the decision came through I was shocked. It really is worth speaking with the experts because you've got nothing to lose and potentially everything to gain
I'm totally with Paula! Go and get some help and see.. You've got nothing to lose and everything to gain...
Why are you not going to get professional help? You've got so much advice from everyone here, are you afraid of something? What will you lose if you go to investigate?
It's your choice...
So just checking in. Lots been happening. My brother and his harpy have moved out, but due to money troubles and a suicide attempt by my brother in law, he, my sister and my 1 yr old nephew are now moving in. Needless to say, while i fully understand the situation and want to help, im far from happy about it. Suffice to say, i find his brute oafishness oppressive. And thats before you add a baby into the mix. So moving iut looks to be back up there in thw list of priorities.
That said, im going to be atarting a volunteer thing at a bird of prey centee soon so thatll look great on the cv and build connections.
Mood overall? At the moment, pretty good, if a little needy.