Sweetheart could you be trying too hard?
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Sweetheart could you be trying too hard?
Love you presents are a thing in our family... We often do things like that but admittedly I hadn't done it for a while....
Would it be a bad thing if I was trying too hard either way..?
It might be a bit smothering?
I see what you're saying....
I am not sure what to do then.. I am a very affectionate and caring person... I've toned down the affection and am trying not to be too much....
I just don't want to change who I am completely... I've toned things down a lot and am still trying to remain the pulled back but I am worried now that it's still too much....
How about just be you?
Hunni, this is not a criticism, just a possible insight. I’m a very, very affectionate, tactile person (which my teenager hates!). Yet when I’m in crisis I find it very difficult to cope with affection, hugs etc. That’s not to say that my family have to completely stop showing me they love me, they, and their love for me, are the reason I’m still here, just that they have learnt over the years what I can cope with, how much I can cope with and when they need to step back. Maybe that’s something you and your OH are going to have to learn, together.
I've toned it down quite a bit.. As much as I hate not being able to give him a hug in bed or a kiss goodnight I am trying to not overload him....
He hasn't said anything about how I am being and he's normally the type of person to do so.. I've asked him if he wants me to back off and stop it but he's said no.. I am just not sure what I am doing right or wrong...
I am just trying to be positive and cheerful... Stepping back with my affections but otherwise normal....
Sweetheart he fell in love with you as you. Don't try to be someone else.
I am trying not to be.. But like you say I don't want to be smothering either.....
Sweetheart you are going to drive yourself mad second guessing yourself and what you are doing all the time!