You’re doing what you need to, lovely, and I’m so glad you're able to spend some restful time with Pen
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You’re doing what you need to, lovely, and I’m so glad you're able to spend some restful time with Pen
Hi ladies,
Just phoning the doctor as I have had a little spotting the last few days. Really tired today as slept badly again. This morning I managed to help John though and now I am going to rest for the afternoon. There is no way I could be doing the care job at the moment, it was the right decision to quit x
Hope the doctor gets back to you soon
I'm glad you're convinced it was the right decision.. Have you heard from the dr?
Goodness me I am enjoying resting this afternoon (nod) blissful!
Yes, she phoned and she says it should be nothing to worry about - could be stress related but I need to keep an eye on it. X
Good! It's great to hear that you've rested today too...
Hi there,
I helped John for two hours this morning and then I came home and did a job or two. Now resting and doing some drawing x hope you are all well x
How's it going with John? Do you enjoy spending time with him? So glad you're pacing. How's your mood doing?
Yes, today I took him into the garden for the first time (at his new flat) I also sorted out his hearing aid batteries lol. It is good to be making a difference. I slept well last night so determined to pace today to give me another good one ! Pen is doing some gardening, it looks fabulous xx
You sound so much more rested :)
How's he liking his new flat? Does it make life easier for Pen knowing he's looked after?
So glad you're pacing properly lovely...
He really likes the flat - he is much more settled now (nod)
Penny is relieved I am helping him. It is great for me as I get out of the house to do some work but hardly any pressure & just 2 hours at a time.
Penny and I have decided to call this time a staycation. We are making the most of the time we have at home together. The girls are coming for tea today - really looking forward to seeing them x
It's great that he's happier now and Pen knowing you're going in has to be a huge relief for her!
I love the staycation idea! Are you doing all those things around you which you wished you had time for?
Enjoy your time with your girls lovely!
Hi folks,
I’ve got back into yoga again - I am missing my swimming so it is a kind of replacement (nod) I have had 2 consecutive nights of great sleep - woohoo! My girls came for tea last night and it was so lovely (inlove) and on Thursday they are coming over again and staying the night! So happy (talk) Suzi you would be proud of me, I am pacing really well at the moment. I’ve done some jobs in the house but allowed myself some rest in between. X
The positivity beams through that post! I'm so proud of you!!
That’s made me bean from ear to ear! :)
Hey...
I have acquired a second hand bike from FB. Pen has checked it over and we are now going to be going off cycling together! There are lots of great, flat paths around here so really looking forward to getting out.
I really can’t get over the thought that there may be no National Trust days out this summer, or evenings at a pub on the seafront. Struggling as I do in the winter, I am trying to think outside the box of activities we can do! Xx
I know that sadness too.... BUT you have a bike, you have a wonderful partner and so although things aren't going to be as "normal" it still might be one of the best summer's you've had...
You are right Suzi. It is nice to have the time to spend together atm (nod) (inlove) xx
Hello everyone. Hope you are all well. Caring for John is going really well We are enjoying our bike riding. This afternoon I am going to do some painting as I need to recharge my batteries. Pen keeps reminding me to pace! The girls are coming to stay for 3 nights, really looking forward to seeing them. Xx
That all sounds so positive! I'm so pleased for you! :)
That’s wonderful - what a difference in a few weeks. I’m so happy for you
Hi Arty, that's brilliant I'm glad you're enjoying your bike riding and it is good you are doing some painting.
Hi,
Just wanted to reach out as I am feeling really low today. I am beating myself up for everything & feeling so stressed about the future. I know it is just a bad day / 48 hours but I feel weary and sometimes doubt my strength about taking on challenges in the future x
Hey you, do you know what's caused the dip? Are you still taking the full dosage of all your meds?
Don’t ever doubt your strength. You keep fighting this and no one could ask you for more. Whatever the reasons behind this dip, look after yourself, practise some self care and you will get through it
It's strange times with coronavirus and lockdown so it is understandable that you're finding things difficult, Arty as your signature says "one day at a time" which is good advice, I'm sure you'll get through it.
Thanks for all your comments. Yes, life is very strange at the moment, it is the uncertainty of everything. I am resting this afternoon to allow myself to recharge my batteries. The girls are staying with us Weds to Sat every week during the shutdown. I have been caring for John three mornings this week. This morning I ended up taking him for a run in the car, so he could see the village he used to live in. He really enjoyed it (nod) x
Sounds like John's really enjoying having you around ;) How are you finding it with the girls?
Hello, it has been quite full on. They have gone back to their Dad this morning. I have been to John to clean for an hour and am now back at home resting to recallabrate. X
Did you enjoy having the girls with you?
It was good to see them but I have been going downhill for a few days. The worrying thoughts about 5 years time are repeating themselves in my head every 30-60 seconds x
Then I’m glad you’ve got a few days to recup. Do you and Pen have any plans?
Sweetheart what is it that you are worried about? 5 years is a long time away... You need to use this time to get better....
Hi ladies,
It is worry over the maintenance stopping (as usual)
Of course, Penny has reassured me that we will be ok but I guess I am still frightened about income long term.
I will take it steady in the next few days. Pen and I are going to spend time together, maybe a little gardening and some crafts. We have been working on a 5 year vision as a positive thing rather than a negative, doom and gloom thought process. One of the things we have talked about is a mural in the kitchen (inlove) x
Sweetheart I can understand you being concerned, but hunni there is no point making yourself so ill that you are heading to breakdown because of it....
Hello friends,
Thought I would write something on here. I am discovering the joys of daughters having boyfriends (rofl) I feel wrung out tbh. My ex had the girls for 10 days, giving me a break. 2 days ago my eldest finished with her boyf. ( for it turns out, a number of reasons ) It now seems to be back on. I am feeling v.tired, Mum is needing quite a lot of support. It is her b.day today so we invited her over for lunch. When I have conversed with her for a few hours I am completely rung out. I have signed up for a college course for September, which is something for me to look forward to as the autumn draws near. Pen and I have had a few treats, one being the delivery of a cream tea, sooo yummy. I am listening to audio books again and helping out in the studio. Pen’s dad is in hospital sadly, he has been diagnosed with Covid - it seems he caught it there! Pen has been really worried about him, one whole month without seeing a family member ;( From a selfish point of view, it has given me time to focus on getting things done in the house, time to cross stitch etc. x
Oh no poor Pen and her Dad! What a terrible worry for her.
What do you find so challenging about your Mum?
What's the college course?
I feel your pain with girls and their boyfriends!
Sorry about Pen’s dad, is he recovering at all? But I am glad you’re able to enjoy your time at home, relaxing
Thanks ladies.
The course is a teaching's assistant qualification (level 2)
I guess with Mum, she is still in the very early stages of grieving, so I always want to say the right thing. Today is the first birthday she has celebrated since being a widow. I cooked a nice lunch and we gave her some ceramic owls, a Nan mug and a light up tree for the garden x