It's something my boss mentioned last time I had a meeting with them,said it would speed things up and get me back to work quicker
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Then, as Suzi says, they’ll have to pay
Many, many years ago the place my husband was working for were brilliant during his first breakdown. They had a private insurance scheme which paid for him to have a counsellor who came out to him at home after seeing a psych in Harley Street. They couldn't have done more to try to help because they cared, rather than for anything else....
It's been a while so thought I'd post an update as I don't really have anyone to talk to.
I've been switched onto duloxetine 60mg and have been taking them for the past month or so.
I'm still waiting on the let's talk I've finally got an appointment for this coming Monday after waiting since June the I sometimes wondered why I bothered to go to them for help.My moods still all over the place usually worse at night.
I've been trying to exercise to stay positive.Im still finding it tough to talk to friends and have completely cut myself off mainly because I'm embarrassed and feel ashamed about the situation.
I've a meeting with work on Friday about how they can help me get bk they mentioned working days for a few hours just to get myself bk into the business and talking to people.I worried there going to put pressure on me at the meeting to accept that,although they've been great so far.I don't feel ready to do that yet and would like to wait until I've seen the councillor.Im really terrified about going into the place on Friday as I don't want all the questions and the I haven't a clue what to say
What are you embarrassed and ashamed of lovely?
When did you last see someone for a meds review? Do you not feel these are helping much?
Can you reschedule Friday??
I'm embarrassed and ashamed about the way i feel,the amount of time i've been off work,what my friends & colleagues will think,half the time i feel like i don't fit in.
My meds were changed about a month & half ago this is the 4th time they've been changed.I feel like none of them are working as i still feel low almost everyday.
No i can't reschedule friday,they agreed to meet me elsewhere if it was easier but i want to meet at work as i have to go in there at some point and i feel like im just putting off the inevitable.It's just an idea so i was told over the phone to think about and that the meeting was in no way formal etc its just to see how i am and if they can do anything to help although there's going to be somebody else there taking notes??. I just hope i don't feel pressured,i'm not the most confident, i told them over the phone i've finally got a date to talk to a Councillor 28th and i'm about to start my sessions so ideally does it sound bad if i say my heads not right and i'd like to see how the counselling sessions go before making a decision about returning to work?
Sweetheart you are poorly. Would you be so embarrassed if it was something you could physically see? You really have no reason to be embarrassed or ashamed. Illness is illness....
Did you have a break between the medications? 6 weeks isn't long enough to see if it's going to help, especially if you are decreasing another one too at the same time.
I'm not sure the people at work will all see it like that...
I just switched tabs straight away so far I've been on
Sertraline 50mg
Sertraline 100mg
Mirtazapine 15mg
Duciltia 30mg
Duloxetine 60mg
I'm still having quite bad thoughts almost daily I was hoping for a tablet that would immediately make me feel happy
There isn't a magic cure all pill I'm afraid..
How long have you been on each one? Just straight swap from one to the next?
No wonder you feel rubbish! It takes 4 - 8 weeks to get into your system and the same for each dose change - both up, down and stopping! So you haven't been able to properly try any of them as you still had the other one getting into/out of your system!
Thought I'd post an update I've finally managed to get in with the well being councillors and have been to 5 sessions so far.
My anxiety has gone down since but my mood is still low,everyone I mention this to the councillor that I'm constantly feeling down and everything seems like a struggle she doesn't really seem to reply. It feels like her main aim is for me to get back into work but I'm worried as it feels like nothings changed and the fact I'm still feeling down, having regular suicidal thoughts
I spoke to my doctor on Monday and he mentioned he could up the dosage of duloxetine I'm currently on 60mg so that's an option.
I'm just concerned as I've never had therapy before so don't really know what to expect I was hoping they'd help with the thoughts I've been having but all I've been told to do is write a daily diary about what I'm doing for the last 4 weeks.
It often takes time for therapy to be effective. Carry on being as honest as you can
That seems like a good aim to start with. Jaq’s right, therapy takes time. It may seem that progress is slow but there is progress - your anxiety is already improved. The rest will come, sweetie, I’m sure of it (bear)
There is nothing to feel embarrassed about, you’re ill, you won’t be saying anything they won’t have heard before
I completely agree with Jaq and Paula. It takes time, but if you are struggling do talk to your dr again about upping your meds then do so lovely.
A trip back to the doctor seems to be on the cards. You are doing great as you are. Try every day to just keep going forward. I believe you can make it.
Had a chat with the Dr about how i was feeling on Monday. I told him about my moods being up & down,mainly down at night when i've got too much time to think, and im still having a lot of thoughts about maybe it would be better and easier if i wasn't here.He suggested maybe upping the meds but the main problem im having with duloxetine 60mg was it was causing me to sweat from just walking my dog and im dreading the summer when it actually gets warm!!. I'm staying on 60mg at the moment and will see how i feel next visit.
I've got a meeting with Work next week which has already set my anxiety off panicking about what will happen feeling sick etc.Last time they offered to give me reduced hours etc but i hadn't started the counselling and wanted to try that before going back to work.To be honest the counselling has given me the option to talk to somebody which i needed,but i'm still waiting for the magical answers for how do i make myself feel happier?.
Truth is its easier for me to hide away at home then having to deal with people at work,I still don't know how to deal with the situation when people ask where i've been, whats been wrong etc
When do you see the doctor next? If you haven’t got a time frame, can I suggest you don’t leave it much longer than a few weeks?
Wrt counselling, of course it can make a big difference but there is no magical solution to depression, I’m afraid.....
I agree with Paula - there is no magic "woohoo you're going to be happy from now on".. I wish there was. But then no one is happy all of the time. Everyone has blue days... I think it's a case of feeling brighter than you were and reducing/removing the dark thoughts...
Do you think that going back to work on a phased return or something similar might help move things forward?
Hi I'm seeing my doctor again in 4 weeks.
Yes I'd like to go back to work but like I said it's easier to hide away that way I won't have to deal with all the questions from colleagues and the paranoia wondering if they know why I've been off etc.
I'd been feeling miserable for a long time and that's the main reason I went doctors at the minute it doesn't feel as though I've made any progress my worry is I'll go bk to work and just get worse
You could be honest with your colleagues about why you have been off?
Is work a trigger for you? Why would you get worse by going back?
I've thought about being honest some days I think yeah that'll be fine but then other days I get doubts about if I'll be looked at different.
I just think by going back to work it'll be forgotten about and I'll just be expected to get on with things.
It feels like I haven't gotten anywhere in the time I've been off.I was looking today at support groups in my area.
Is this the first time you've been looking at support groups?
Have you contacted your local mind group?
Thought I'd post an update
I've made a few steps in the right direction over the past 2 weeks started to talk to my friends again I've been into work and had a chat with colleagues which left me feeling relived.
I'm planning on going back on a phased return but work want me to work 1hour X 5 days a week and gradually increase but I can't survive on that money come the end of the month if I'm loosing my ESA payments.
The only negative I can think of if finding out 1 of my close work friends has got engaged which made me feel sick and start worrying that he'll be leaving soon,and that my life seems to be going nowhere. I don't know why I feel like this, I should be happy right? I've always had trouble dealing with friends moving on or leaving right back to school it seems to set me panicking that I'll be alone.
Well done for talking to people! That's a huge step forward!
Call ESA, I'm sure I read somewhere that it will stay paying if you are working under a certain hours and payment threshold...
Why do you automatically assume your friend will be leaving you now he is engaged?
Suzi’s right, under ESA, you should be allowed to do what’s called Permitted Work. If you working less than 16 hours per week and earning less than £131.50, you won’t lose your benefit (https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/be...e-getting-esa/).
All you need to do is complete the relevant form and submit to the job centre
Thanks for the reply's sorry I'm late replying.
Been into work a few times since I last posted which made me feel good.
I wish I didn't feel bad about finding out my friends got engaged,I should be really happy for him it just sets me off panicking. I seem to struggle with friends leaving or moving on ever since school. He's already mentioned that he'll eventually move to live with her.
I'm going back to work on days a week Tuesday starting off on 2.5 hours a day. I'm nervous as it gets closer it'll just get worse,but I know it's something that'll hopefully get easier.
I've got counseling tomorrow I'm a bit worried as after the last session she hinted that it's near the end as my anxiety levels have come down,which worry's me as I'm still having bad day's and it feels like we haven't really touched on why I'm feeling suicidal,I fill the questions in at the start of the session and I always circle I'm feeling suicidal. Where do I go once the sessions stop?.
Ask them what options there are for after this. What kind of counselling have you had? Have you told them your concerns?
Had my session today only just seen this Ive got another appointment in 2 weeks.
Just talking and doing a daily diary. I might pluck up the courage to ring mind to see if there's anything local.
I'm quite anxious and nervous at the minute the closer it gets to returning to work.
Have you got a date for that yet?
Definitely call them and ask hun...
Well the last 2 days have been hard I'm thinking more and more about returning to work and feeling very anxious and scared about it.
I've been trying to keep busy but in the evenings I tend to try and watch TV and that's when I feel down. Ive not exercises this week due to constantly feeling sick/worried about work.