You're definitely doing all the right things and all the hard work! We're just waving pom poms!
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You're definitely doing all the right things and all the hard work! We're just waving pom poms!
It's a long road but you're getting there Drew.
It takes a while but every day you are getting there. You didn't get sick overnight and unfortunately you don't get better overnight either. But I love your positive for the day. Have you looked at our Fab 5 Friday thread.
Hi Drew(hi)...you don't see it yourself because the fog of depression clouds things, but you're doing the right things. Every night when you go to bed, you've survived the day and that in itself is a step towards recovery. Just take it a day at a time and you'll get there. Planning things to do in the future too are signs that positive things are going on. Sometimes you take one step forward and two steps back, but the good news is that you will get better. It's lovely that you feel you can open up to us. We've all been there. You're honest and upfront. It's lovely to read your thread.(bear)
Thanks to everyone for the supportive messages, they are a great help and as such I’ll make them my positive thought for the day.
That's a pretty awesome positive! :) It's good to see you posting regularly - it'll be a good record for you too.
A visit to my solicitors this morning followed by a drive before it got too warm. Mixed feelings but at least I’m dealing with the present and future rather than the past.
Things don’t need to make you beam to be positive - well done for recognising that
Well done for dealing with things. That's really important and really tough. You've done well.
Unexpectedly I laughed for the first time for several weeks - not much of a laugh but it came with a smile too. For me that’s a huge positive for the day.
That is really, really positive! Well done lovely!! What made you smile and laugh?
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My brother called to see me yesterday and was telling me a long and involved story when he said something I found funny. He’s been a great help and has tried to get me to smile for some time, this time he succeeded. I guess it was the distraction of the story which helped but even so I now realise I had been listening to what he had to say and not thinking about my own problems.
That's very positive Drew, I so know the feeling when someone's talking and to you and your mind isn't really with it because of your own thoughts. So it's absolutely great that you were tuned in to what he was saying.
I think it's fab that you seem to have a lot of support and love from your family!
A quiet day today. There were no great positives to report but equally there were no great negatives either. Lesson learned? You can’t win every day but if you win more than you lose you are making progress.
So true! It's not always about a "wow moment" as my last psychologist said, sometimes just getting through the day fairly level is a huge success in itself!
Today I was thinking about what I could do to keep myself occupied and remembered I had taken part in a number of courses through FutureLearn. The basic courses are free but you can get additional benefits for a fee.
When I looked at the FutureLearn website one of the first course I spotted was Mindfulness for Wellbeing and Peak Performance. I’ve decided to enrol and have already started the course which takes about three hours per week for 4 weeks. I hope my studies will be a welcome distraction and a useful tool for the future.
FutureLearn have a wide range of courses and you can get more information from their FAQs at https://about.futurelearn.com/about/faq
A good positive for the day.
That's a great idea! Well done!
Agreed excellent a big positive on many levels.
A very difficult day but I came out of it looking forward and not back. In football terms an honourable draw.
A draw is always better than a loss.. Hope tomorrow is easier for you though x
I’m sorry to report it was another difficult day and this trend is likely to continue for a little while until I can come to terms with the major changes to my life. The positive thing is I haven’t gone backwards, maybe the medication is kicking in or I’m becoming more resilient, perhaps both.
I think I need things to look forward to so I’ve booked a table for lunch with my mum and dad for Friday lunchtime and joined a local dining club for an evening out at the end of the month. The dining club date may need a little fortitude but it’s a challenge.
Then I’d say that was your positive. Joining something like that takes courage when things are still difficult. Be proud of yourself
Thanks. I get the feeling that booking the date was the easy part but even so I appreciate it does take a degree of positive attitude to do it. Thanks for your continued support, I can’t tell you how much it means to me.
Where are you going with your parents? Is it somewhere you've been before?
Have you signed up on your own or with a friend?
Doing these things on a tough day makes them even more of an achievement. You are working so hard.
Friday is a pub/restaurant we’ve been to before but not local to me so I don’t foresee any social issues. The dining club is a complete wild card but the restaurant is easy access and I‘ve eaten there before and I like the menu. It will be interesting to see how I react. I’ll reserve judgment about the dining club evening until nearer the time when I will have more idea about my self-confidence or lack of it.
Sorry, I should have said the dining club evening is a solo event for me.
That sounds really good!
Sorry to report today as a loss. Sad but not giving in yet.
Never give in... Do you want to talk about why today wasn't so good?
I’d rather not go into detail but it’s people issues and it’s knocked me back a bit. I just want to draw a line under today and start again tomorrow. Thanks for being there it really helps,
People issues are often the hardest and cause most pain when they don't go right....
Here's hoping for a better day tomorrow.
How’s things today?
I’m a bit of a mess at the moment but things may become clearer one way or another later today. Just had my final meeting with the Crisis Team they think I’ve progressed far enough for them to stand back and provide 24hr. phone help rather than occasional face to face meetings. I suppose that is a positive but added to my other issues it doesn’t feel like it.
I intend to post another reply later no matter whether it is good or bad.
Thanks for caring.
We do care!
Well done for progressing through the crisis team visits, but I also understand why that's daunting. You can always call them as and when you need to - they are still there and that's an important thing to remember.
I do truly hope your day has got better as it has gone on..
Firstly I apologise for not posting as promised. It was a very bad day yesterday as I was hoping for some positive news but fearing the worst. Each minute seemed like an hour and I was very down. The positive thing is at least I now know where I stand - I was holding out false hopes and not for the first time.
Going out for lunch with my parents today and there’s some explaining to do. Again, not easy but it needs to be done.
I’ll post again later because sharing seems to help. Thanks for listening.
I'm glad you're finding it helpful to post here.
How are you feeling today?
Awful. My wife has just told me she’s off to see her solicitors to sign documents to initiate our divorce. At the moment I feel as though I’ve gone backwards to the beginning and I’m going to have to relive that pain all over again. I feel sick.
I’ll still be seeing my parents today. I need to let them know some but not all of the situation but it’s not something I’m looking forwards to.
At the moment my wife is in the other room singing along to love songs on the radio and it’s breaking my heart.
I may need to take a break from posting here for a while but don’t worry I’m not going to do anything stupid.
Thanks.
Oh sweetheart I'm so sorry. Has it gone too far for something like Relate couples counselling?
You don't have to take a break, you can post the not so good stuff as well as the positive stuff... Here for you.
It’s too late for Relate, it was offered but my wife did not want it. I’m not going into more detail as it’s pretty negative stuff and it won’t help me. My postings may take a break until I’m feeling like sharing again.
At the moment I haven’t given up on the future but I am dreading it.