I think that's a really good step to take. But take it from me and tell her how things really are. If you have any feelings for her - tell her...
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I think that's a really good step to take. But take it from me and tell her how things really are. If you have any feelings for her - tell her...
I have tried.... i guess with this step at least if she's digested this bit it might at least make that big step smaller...
I dunno .... i really don't know what i feel - it flips almost daily
Tell her that too. And then start keeping a mood diary. ;)
Well I sent the email last night and included a few links to some common resources. Explained at high level how I was and how much I struggle still with both general mood and suicidal ideation
Her response was very mixed... Partly serious but still ignoring a key point and saying something which winds me up
Hopefully once I'm home this weekend we can find time to talk properly
Most people have absolutely no idea what’s the right thing to say in these situations. Remember, she’s not in your head and probably doesn’t know how to react and what the key point is. Now you’ve opened up to her a bit you can both start trying to work out how you can help each other through this.
What did she say to wind you up?
Doesn't matter - it's possible she responded out of reaction before actually reading it all anyway .... so i'll let it drop
Interactions today are back to as if nothing's happened .... so again ... just don't know if it's sinking in or whether i'm just being over sensitive....
I've never been one to ask much of others for myself .... i've never cried for attention (not directly anyway) .... i guess i just want 'something' .... acknowledgement .... something .... i dunno
Might also be a bit of withdrawal today .... probably only had maybe 20% of the dosage that i would normally have no for the week before starting the sertraline this coming Saturday
Feeling a bit irritable.... got headache today and feeling overall a bit drained ..... and no - i'm not going out for the 'class dinner' tonight
Just feeling crappy from snuffles still and headache .... think its catching up with me .
Probably haven't drunk enough water either ..... since it's not cheap in the office
Sounds like withdrawal to me .... big hugs, Jamie, I know how tough changing ADs is
Thanks. Body is suffering. Sinus cold has come back too today. Just want some time out ...
I think Paula is right and it sounds like withdrawal and a mix with sinus stuff too - that doesn't sound nice. You have my every sympathy. I hope tomorrow is brighter.
Thanks guys. Being able to pour out the negativity on here does help a bit.
Suppose it was foolish or naive to assume I'd get away without withdrawal
It’s crap but it does pass. You just need to be kind to yourself until it passes (bear)
Hope today is brighter for you.
Didn't get any sleep last night really. Was really hot all night and sinuses were painful
Haven't gone into the training today. Decided to head home and rest
Will have a quite afternoon since kids are having a sleepover at their Nana
Rest sounds like a very good plan today (bear)
Can you take something for the sinuses? Glad you're putting you first and getting some rest.
Hope you're feeling a bit brighter.
Got home... feeling better for being at home...
Took 1st Sertraline (been off Citalopram now for 3 days)
Keeping Sinuses under control
Going to see Star Wars with my son tomorrow so i am looking forward to that.
Have fun!
Sounds brilliant!
Mom irritated me this morning.... was talking about the change in meds.... we were talking about meds in general as mom just started on some anti-coagulant type drugs.... i said about how i was feeling over past few days .... she then just says "think i'd rather just have depression"
I know it was probably said without too much thought but it does get to me that they don't really believe in this all.
Sweetheart unless you've lived with it you have no idea. I have no idea about how bad things have been for my husband, but I do have some understandings... I'm pleased that you've at least started talking to her about how you are feeling.
My husband didn’t have the first idea how to talk to me and help me when I became seriously ill. It took time and work from both of us to be able to understand each other (because I had to understand the impact my health has on him too). Now, though, we’re open and honest with each other and our relationship is stronger as a result.
Those who love us are often the last people who can understand how difficult it is to go through depression. I know that even though I was spending almost every day with my sister she found it very difficult to understand how sick I was. Just have patients and they will come round. They will learn how difficult it is for someone with depression to just get up and function day to day.
Don't know what to do ....
Tongue biting is back :( :( :( Tongue is now a mess again already
Last week while i was coming off t he Citralopram for a couple days the symptoms of that went .... had the first peaceful nights sleep in weeks..... Now i'm on the Sertraline .... its back already :(
So either it's a cause by the tablets themselves or by the increased levels of seratonin that the tablets cause
If its the latter then where does that leave me regarding treatment?
It may be something other than side effects like, for instance, stress. I’d suggest talking to your GP before making any decisions re treatment
I completely agree about talking to your GP. Can you call and ask for a telephone appointment.
I have never had this problem before in my life even when i was at worst .... started slowly and got worse as the weeks on the AD's progressed..... being off them for 3 days last week while i transitioned made it stop almost overnight ..... now i'm back on the sertraline it's come straight back again after a couple days.
Our surgery doesn't do phone appointments ..... plus you end up speaking with a nurse practioner anyway who i saw last week if you go in for the walk-in service.
She wasn't that bothered as its a high churn quick triage service .... it'll be weeks before i can get to see a doctor properly
Think i'm going to stop the meds .... can't cope with the pain over xmas and it'll just ruin whatever enjoyment i might derive
I would urge caution about just stopping..
How was Christmas for you?
Very mixed .... spending time at home with family actually makes things worse .... i feel more isolated .... since i wrote that letter to wife about how i was it's simply not been brought up ... so i don't even know if she read it .... was kinda hoping she'd make the first move on that.
She's acting though as if she's not though....
Dreading going back to work but don't wanna be at home ..... don't wanna be anywhere at the moment just alone
Tried planning a couple of fun activities over the holiday but let down by both friends and family on both of them - so just feeling why bother anymore
Don't know what to do anymore - just don't wanna be here right now ;(
I'm sorry you're feeling so rubbish. Can you get to your Dr to tell them how bad you really are feeling?
I have appointment on 4th Jan with my regular doctor again - assuming they're back.
I guess switching AD's didn't help - assuming the new ones aren't really 'working' yet so this could be a negative side effect? Worse before better?
OK remind me, how long have you been on meds, how quickly did you stop and change over? Remember it takes roughly 4 - 6 weeks for the anti d to get into your system, then the same length of time for each change - so you could be dealing with withdrawal and starting effects at the same time....
I'd been on citalopram 20mg for 8 weeks. Stopped over 5 days and took break for 3 days. Then started sertraline 50mg around 2 weeks ago
Then, yes, you’re probably struggling with both withdrawal and side effects from starting again. It’s going to be a few more weeks before you start feeling positive benefits, I’m afraid. It’s tough and you really need to be kind to yourself - rest where you can, try to do some positive things if you can. It does get better (bear)
What did you like to do before you got sick? Was it puzzles, reading, writing or anything like that? If you could do one thing today from your 'old' life what would that be? Try to do one thing today that you really miss. It might be going for a long walk or taking a run, whatever and when it's done you will have the satisfaction of saying today I did that. And I enjoyed it.
'Fraid it sounds like I thought it was - withdrawal and starting side effects, bear with it lovely...