Started on citalopram that was changed to lexapro I think not sure what this batch are
She also takes beta blockers to help with anxiety
She’s been referred to a councillor but that appointment hasn’t taken place yet
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How long has she been on them? Does she feel that they are helping?
When was the last thing you did something lovely just for you? Are you looking after you?
She’s been on them for 2 weeks now
She’s gone into her shell and struggles to leave the house day to day
I’ve not really asked her if she thinks they are working but I can tell they are making her very reclusive and not wanting anyone around
Good question and one I discussed with a friend last night
I haven’t been myself for a few months I’ve been so devoted trying to help her
I’m at the point though I know I need to start living my life again otherwise there is a possibility of her depression impacting me which I’m very conscious of
You do have to look after you - if you don't then you can't look after her.
Also, just as an aside you know that we have separate sections here for men and women so she could join if you both thought it might help and you'd both have separate areas to talk...
Thanks
The inevitable has happened, she asked to split up
shes not in the frame of mind for a relationship and furthermore she has told me that she needs to find herself and get herself back together
it hurts like hell especially after her asking me to never leave her when she pushes me away, but i cannot force myself to make her have a relationship :(
i have never put so much into one relationship and given it my all. i want so much to help her out here, but think the only way i can help her atm is to do as she asks and hope one day she reflects on things
I am so sorry! Please make sure you look after yourself (panda)
Is she asking because she thinks you "deserve better?" or because she is "a burden?" (All things I've heard before)
I'm so sorry....
because she doesnt know whats shes feeling, not ready for a relationship or to be making future plans
she needs space to get better without pressure from anyone else
she cant give me what i want (ive not put any pressure on her)
she needs to get back to normal by herself
she doest want to hurt me, its unfair on me
she isnt making this decision based on medication or depression and has been thinking about it for a few days
its her and she needs time to heal herself
How do you feel?
i feel gutted, but ill get through it
the hardest part is dealing with the mood swing in 10 days from being ready to live together and planning a future to this
the only reason causing this is her depression
i feel like i want to go speak to her and talk it through but at the same time i dont want to disrespect her wishes