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I thought your husband was dealing with the house issue?
Good news about the classes hunni!
Pen, you really must insist your hubby deals with the house, its totally unfair on you to have to deal with all that.
Thing is folks its not that simple. I am involved whether I like it or not as I am being taken to court as well. I have left it to him to deal with and his way of dealing with it is to ignore it and hope it goes away.
I really don't need this whilst I am feeling so low but if I try and talk to him about it I get a load of greif about how the house has always been in the family and his brother is living the life of luxury whilst he is working his fingers to the bone to keep the place going so that his brother can capitalise on his work. and of course as I am the bearer of the news I am the one who gets it in the neck, I told him again to put the house on the market but just got verbal abuse as a response. The worst is that I am starting to worry that he will go back on the drink over this. The solicitor has told me that if I side against my hubby in court that I wont have to pay costs, but if I do and we lose then I will have to pay the court costs. I am really troubled about this I am caught between a rock and a hard place. If I side with his brother, hubby will be hurt really badly but if I dont I really cant afford to find the thousands that I will have to pay. It wont just be the court costs I expect his solicitor will try to recover all the costs that S has incurred over this matter in the last year and I am expecting them to be huge!
Pen, what do you think is the right decision for the court to make?
I am not sure I know really. I can see both sides. This is the only home that M has ever had and he is not well so asking him to uproot and find a new place is not good it's a shame that his twin brother S does not spend some time with M helping him come to terms with the change rather than dumping it on my hubby.
Is it possible, rather than going straight to court, that a mediator is called in? It just seems so extreme between family to take it this far - or am I being naive?
My personal opinion is that your husband should sell. You don't want to upset hubby, but he has already upset you by putting this on you.
I'm with both the ladies - sounds like it needs to be sold to end this issue, but it seems so sad that so much money is going to be lost and even more sad that the family is being ripped apart by it...
Everything is building up on me again. The Anxiety is terrible tonight. Had to take Dad shopping and I was really stressed out.
Need to change the bed and finish tidying the bedroom before hubby comes
Really dreading him coming tonight
Am cooking my own dinner tonight but the knot in my tummy is so bad that I cant face preparing it
Still need to unpack the shopping
Dont think Ember is going to get an evening walk
Need to phone my brother about Dad's birthday party
Have a class in the morning and nothing is ready