As it happens I use my husband between me and my eldest sibling.... I also use the "Oh no, I have to deal with this" text too......
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As it happens I use my husband between me and my eldest sibling.... I also use the "Oh no, I have to deal with this" text too......
Can you plan to limit how long you’re at the wedding? Is it local?
How are you feeling today lovely?
Today has been ok. I spoke to my CPN about medication for the day and just basically coping techniques. my father is 89 so will probably not stay long at the wedding...... im hoping. that sounds awful. my hubby has said we can stay as long or as short as i want/need. My siblings dont understand why my father is such a trigger for me so they think im being over dramatic. Im just trying to focus on my niece and her special day. 22 just a baby to be getting married. Lol
It doesn't sound awful at all.
Just so you know it's not just you and you aren't being irrational - I've just found out that my eldest sibling who I detest and who has a massive negative impact on me actually has been invited to my little brothers wedding on Friday. I can't not go, I have to be there but my mind's already gone into overdrive and trying to sort coping strategies and exit plans.....
(panda) (panda)
(panda) hugs for both of you. You’re both awesome people btw
I agree with Paula you're both awesome.
Good for you both! Suzi, I take it your younger brother knows about the effect that your not very nice brother has on you? To be honest, I've been in a similar situation many years ago. Just be the lovely person that you are. There's no come back then. It'll be his problem if there's bad feeling. You're there for little bro not him. If it means leaving after the ceremony then do! If you feel strong enough to spend some time at the reception, even better. Try not to think about what might happen and just play it by ear. If you feel uncomfortable just slip away. The people who love you will understand, and if not then that's their problem! I'm sure you'll be fine.(panda)
Thank you...
Lovely lady, how are you today?
I'm chilling now. We had lunch out - a nice little courtyard garden with fig trees and easy chairs. Like a little oasis! We went and got the chicken food, popped into Tesco and then came home. Doing nothing else 'til tomorrow morning! Have a restful evening love....xx