Can you block him, hunni?
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Can you block him, hunni?
I should check.
I'm getting anxious when someone is putting pressure on me.
I'm not sure if online dating is for you right now, sweetie
Definitely don't be pressured into something you don't want and don't give out any contact details until you are happy...
Oh, just ignore the insane people but met some nice guys, thanks for advice.
:) easier said that done but have faith in yourself :)
Definitely the best to not share your information with someone you're not comfortable with. You made a good call.
I finished my big translation, but I'm so exhausted!
You know I've found a correlation between extrawork, sleepless nights and growing anxiety. This miserable feeling when you consider yourself useless...
Besides, yesterday a guy on dating site sent me his photo on the beach and asked for similar photo of mine. Of course he is not serious at all, but it really saddens me that I'm overweight and this could turn them off.
Some guys ask for skype and FB. As far as it concerns FB I've created additional semi-empty account and really don't know what to do.
If someone doesn't think it's worth getting to know you rather than what they see in a photo then I promise you that they aren't worth your time or worry x
I'm so exhausted that I was nearly falling on my way home!
About dating, just a little question for those who can answer. How much time should pass before you give your FB ( let's say additional one) and/or skype to a man who seems to share common values?
Just doesn't want to hurry things up.
Share that kind of information when you want to. I don't think that there is a set time?
Then they're out for one thing. Ignore them
Totally agree with Paula!
don't do either; you are already communicating online, that is what the website is for., so what's the point in giving out extra personal online information to strangers? you have to meet up with people for a coffee or something, after communicating on the website for a while, to know if there is any future.
Finally the end of the week, I've had a real torture with translation of some judicial documents into French!
Thank you, mitz, I've just got little lost in the big wood of online dating.
And there's another reason for sadness. I've met an apparently normal guy online, but a woman told me that men of this ethnicity are not to trust and I should cut everything. I don't give all information, just finding out about 'love rats'. I really hesitate what to do next.
I think it's incredibly racist of that woman to state that "men of his ethnicity aren't to trust!" You get good and not so good men, women and children of every ethnicity!
Trust your gut instinct. Do not hand out Skype or any other info if you don't want to.
If you want to do Skype, then perhaps set up a separate account for anyone you meet online. Be prepared that some guys will seem normal and then become inappropriate on Skype.
Regarding the guy you think is nice.... well, if he is then he is nice. I notice some of your friends say some incredibly judgemental things! But I would try to meet someone who lives near you, so you can easily meet up if you want to.
Yes, and they are not real friends by the way. It's sad that I trusted them before.
I know some of people will probably be laughing, but I cried when I received some messages from good guys.
I think I should probably slow things down. I'm exhausted at work,too 'excited' with this new dating proposals for me and I'm tired of all remarks of so called friends...
I'm feeling how my soul is filling with anxiety and eternal sadness...
No hunni, he wasn't sincere. If he was sincere he wouldn't have asked you to spend the night with him when you don't know him. He was pretending to be sincere so you'd think he was ok.
My hubby once told me not to believe a single word a man says (until he's proved you can trust him) because the chances are that the majority are 'only trying to get into your knickers'. It's a wide statement that isn't true, of course, but his point was that women need to protect their emotions because sometimes you will find a man who will say anything and it's best to be prepared.
There are many, many decent men out there, lovely, but those who want to spend a night with you without even meeting you are not decent, whatever they say
Definitely not laughing love...
I'm a little annoyed because I have only one photo posted on my profile. It is clear, but it's only face photo. They ask for more photos and FB. Actually I do not have more photos, they don't know anything about my 'inability' to look straight in the mirror and anxiety related to PCOS. I don't have camera and I donţt know what to do.
Then say not at the moment!
I've said not.
Actually I've got a little bit excited and anxious about what has recently happened.
I received many proposals on dating sites, I was ready to ask what they found out in me, but preferrred to stay quite. And even some proposals from different countries and I'm a little nervous while answering.
And now about some strange moments:
1. I've discovered a married man pretending that he is single.
2. A man asked me if I'm virgin, I did not answer his question.
3. Some 'one -night stand ' proposals.
4. An obsessive man who told me to talk only to him, he's blocked.
Nearly all of them asking for my skype or FB.
And the most important - apparently there is a serious normal guy, but I don't trust him either. Really I don't want to suffer so I told him not to hurry the things up.
And among all the chaos: today my estranged father called me and told me that I'm his beloved daughter...
I've done two little translations, so not so much spare time for me today.
How do you feel about the call from your father?
Why did you do the translations?
Strange, but it was a good feeling. I've always suffered because of absence of father in my life. It left a certain empty space in my soul. I've had a stepfather who tried to harass me and I've always needed a man on whose shoulder I can cry, who I can trust. I've forgiven my father,but he is still a stranger for me.
I wanted to do them on Saturday, but I just did not realize how tired I was.
But aren't they work translations? You aren't paid to work over the weekend are you?
I think you're handling the minefield of online introductions really, really well.
Oh hunni! Remember, you are a brilliant and wonderful person. Talk to her. Tell her that your workload is too much.
I am due to confess something - I'm caught again in depression mares and that's all because of the latest pressure on me. And I'm feeling the lumps again, it's probably nerves or I don't know. I'm struggling not to cry, I can't cope with all this work because I do also have manager duties. Today I stood up to one very insistent manager who wanted me to translate 10 pages+ in out of work time. I explained her that I should go to the doctor, she proposed me to work after medical procedures in the evening, just imagine! And she does not even do any translation work. But this time I stood up for myself, she is always having a good sleep while I'm already feeling exhausted and exploited.
With dating...I don't understand anything... I put only one photo of my face and got some proposals, and from men from different countries. Now I'm hesitating because they haven't seen my body and on skype, 'once they see me they run' because I'm not skinny or exactly average. I'm probably getting insane. And there is a young man who apparently wants something serious, although he wanted something else before. We've got friendly, but I don't know, I can't trust anyone. And besides he's of different culture and religion. That's not an obstacle but I just don't know their mentality. Sometimes I feel he cares about me, last time he asked if I could ever consider marriage to a person of different ethnicity and race. I'm feeling that he likes me and that's reciprocal feeling, but I hesitate. I'm not going crazy about, just like him.
Well done for standing up to them. That's absolutely disgraceful asking you to work evenings when you already do 5.5 days a week. Speak to the manager and say you have enough translations to do without everything else you're being given. It sounds as if she is desperate to keep you so you have the upper hand.
I completely agree! Your "out of work" hours are just that - so you DON'T keep working! No one would be able to cope with all that you are asked to do!
With regard to that guy - sweetheart, there really isn't any rush. Don't settle for something that is "OK". You deserve to feel like a princess!
Hunni, I hope I'm wrong but he asked you for the night, which you said no to. So he seems to have changed tack to telling you he wants long term. Please make very, very sure that he's not just playing a game
I told him that I need time and he should be patient.