Can you take a short walk? Maybe both of you?
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Can you take a short walk? Maybe both of you?
Do you have a garden? Start by going out there?
However you do it, some fresh air might be good for you
Then work up slowly. Go to the front door, open it. Close it walk away. Then next time take 1 step outside, then go in and build it up slowly. It does work.
I was just about to suggest what Suzi said. Just go and stand by the door. You may feel anxious but don’t walk away. Stay there until the anxiety level drops. Adrenaline won’t last for ever and remember you are still safe in your own home. Then open the door again ride out the anxiety. Next maybe take a chair and sit outside my the door until you are less anxious. Then maybe go to the end of your driveway/garden gate. You can take these small steps at your own pace but try and challenge yourself a little and in time each step will get easier. It’s a technique I’ve used myself and although it hasn’t cared my anxiety it has stopped my irrational fears from controlling my life.
Thanks I'm sometimes fine better if I'm not on my own. I'm fine in my car etc for the past year or 2 I've literally been going to & from work and I started to get to the doctors on my own just used to dread the waiting room, so I'd arrive late hoping I'd go straight in.
Its got alot harder since lock down I seem to be back at square one again
I get it John, a few years ago I couldn’t leave the house alone other than to go to work and then I would freak out when I arrived burst into tears, turn around and go home cos I couldn’t face it. I lost count of the times I’ve stressed out in a supermarket, dumped up trolley and just left cos I was so overwhelmed. I have loads of tips to help deal with it all. You can get your life back.
Stella's right. It's very much about feeling the anxiety and riding it out. My husband had a brilliant psychotherapist who made him talk through his panic attacks..She made him describe how he was feeling then she said "and" so he described what happened next "and" all the way up 'till he passed out and an ambulance was called (has happened several times). Her last "and" confused him so she said "and? Well, it didn't kill you did it?" Which was very matter of fact and very much like his brain works. For him, we still hear "and" when things get tough lol.. As she explained it won't last forever and him passing out was like a restart of all the systems. It may not help you, but "and" has helped him go from someone who had to take a fairly high amount of diazepam to get outside the door and we had to have exit strategies in place for anything we did to someone who over lockdown has managed to go shopping on his own completely....
Sorry, are you being sarcastic? I was genuinely sharing something which helped my husband...
I've no idea what you were thinking but no i thanked you for the advice.
Had my Dr's appointment with my mental health practitioner cancelled today that's 3 times now hes cancelled on me last minute booked another appointment for next week tbh i don't see the point i'm telling them i'm struggling and get offered nothing.
Had no call back from the union yet so that's bugging me & no call from work since monday.
That's cool, it's just I live with sarcastic people who say "thanks for that" normally when I've totally messed up or upset someone.
I'd call your Drs and find out why you keep being cancelled and if it might be easier to refer you to your CMHT....
I did ask when I called up to re book why it got cancelled she said she didn't know. My gf wants me to see another doctor but I don't see the point all that'll happen is I'll tell them I'm struggling I've withdrawn again but what can they do? I just feel its pointless.
Managed to have a bit to eat and went in the garage to workout
Exercise is always good.
I think most of the country have gained weight, lovely.
How are you this morning.
I think your GF has a point. If this is the third appointment that was cancelled then maybe it might be worth seeing another dr who could try something different. It worked with my husband. Our new GP was brilliant. Sent him to a different CMHT, changed meds and in turn literally saved him and changed our lives completely.
Had a little sleep still struggled I can't fall sleep anymore without background noise as it stops me thinking and worrying if I'm concentrating on something else,so I usually end up falling sleep on the sofa. Not really doing much today my partners off today she's tried to speak to me a few times but I'm not interested and haven't really responded.
It's been the 3rd time not in a row but still annoying once I was parking my car when they called to say he'd gone sick.
I was seeing a Dr but he sent me to this guy as he deals with mental health etc I'm still taking my meds but the anxiety isn't easing atm and I think it's only going to build. I'm already taking 30mg of buspirone a day.
I really, really think you need to talk to your GP about your meds - if you can’t get to see this MH guy there’s no point them referring you to him.
And please speak to your girlfriend, lovely
Why aren't you talking to your partner? You're "not interested"? That seems harsh... She obviously loves and cares for you so it might help her too if you spoke to her. It doesn't have to be about the big stuff, just about the weather or something or maybe you could go for a walk in the woods or something together?
No side effect is great providing they are working for you. If you’re backsliding that might suggest they aren’t helping enough.
But if they’re not working, you need to find something that does. If you want to get your life back, you need to make changes.....
It's not helped being off from work again I'd just got back into a routine and things were getting a little easier. I thought I'd be able to cope going back but the more time I've spent away from work the more anxious I get.
Covid also hasn't helped I just want to stay in until it calms down
It’s not really about how you were coping before, it’s how you’re coping now. The longer you leave things as they are, the harder it’s going to get. Please call your doctor
Stella and Paula are completely right.
You don't have to talk to your partner about your mental health all the time, talk to her about other things - talk about the weather, it doesn't matter, just talk to her. It'll help build up your relationship so you can talk about your health too...
Had another appointment cancelled today with the mental health practitioner two in a row now don't see the point in trying a 3rd time.
Then go and see your doctor. Tell them why you are there and not seeing the mh practitioner...
So far today's been odd it's my birthday and I've tried to snap out of it and be more positive my gf's gone to alot of trouble lots of gifts made me a cake, had afternoon tea delivered my sister & nephew have been up to sit in the garden along with my mum & dad and yet I don't seem to find any joy or happiness atm it's bad but I'm thinking I just wish they hadn't bothered and leave me alone.
Happy birthday!
Did you think about calling the doctors?
Thanks I hope I didn't sound to ungrateful.
No had a missed call off them today and they've left a voicemail but not listened to it, I was trying to have a day where I didn't have to worry about anything no stress etc.
I'm currently in the garage trying to work out to keep my mind good sometimes I wish I could just hide away in here
Happy birthday!
Happy Birthday John.
Thank you both (inlove)