Steve
11-07-2007, 11:03 AM
Hi to all,
This is new and very scary to me because I am having to admit that I have a problem. Im not sure if Im even worthy to be on this site but here goes
Although I cant quite put my finger on what the problem is. I am married with three lovely children. My wife and I have been together for 17years and have always been very close. My wife began to have her own issues last year which festered on and off but then during Jan to MArch this year things seemed ok. But then it went downhill a bit and came to a head in May when she started to say things she had never said before like "Ive had enough, I need to get out, the kids are driving me mad, how much equity is in the house, because you never know whats round the corner." I didnt understand what she meant. She was referring to us "if its going to happen its going to happen" It made me worry and during May I began to become paranoid.
My wife is 34 and very pretty but she has always been an unconfident person and needed me for reassurance. She has been going to the gym for the last 2 years and thats paying off, she works part time 2 evenings a week at our local supermaket. All of a sudden she is very confident and outgoiung. And that is good but she has changed, she has a very large social group of freinds both at work and outsiode of work. Shes always texting and now has received texts from a guy at work. Im getting lost writing this. My paranoyer got the better of me and I started checking her phone. I confronted her about a couple of things and she went balistic. Im really afraid that my actions of not trusting her have driven her away and that the deep love she once had for me has been damaged.
The bottom line is for the last two months I am struggerling, I cry most days, Im always feeling nervous and anxous, i cant concentrate on anything and I worry about my wife all the time, what shes doing, I feel jelous all the time. I just want to be normal again, only back in April I was working hard not worrying about my wife and just happy.
Its as though Ive been knocked down and cant get up.
I love my wife so much and want to be sure that she still loves me as much, this seems really pathetic but I feel really bad at the moment and dont know what else to do.
This is new and very scary to me because I am having to admit that I have a problem. Im not sure if Im even worthy to be on this site but here goes
Although I cant quite put my finger on what the problem is. I am married with three lovely children. My wife and I have been together for 17years and have always been very close. My wife began to have her own issues last year which festered on and off but then during Jan to MArch this year things seemed ok. But then it went downhill a bit and came to a head in May when she started to say things she had never said before like "Ive had enough, I need to get out, the kids are driving me mad, how much equity is in the house, because you never know whats round the corner." I didnt understand what she meant. She was referring to us "if its going to happen its going to happen" It made me worry and during May I began to become paranoid.
My wife is 34 and very pretty but she has always been an unconfident person and needed me for reassurance. She has been going to the gym for the last 2 years and thats paying off, she works part time 2 evenings a week at our local supermaket. All of a sudden she is very confident and outgoiung. And that is good but she has changed, she has a very large social group of freinds both at work and outsiode of work. Shes always texting and now has received texts from a guy at work. Im getting lost writing this. My paranoyer got the better of me and I started checking her phone. I confronted her about a couple of things and she went balistic. Im really afraid that my actions of not trusting her have driven her away and that the deep love she once had for me has been damaged.
The bottom line is for the last two months I am struggerling, I cry most days, Im always feeling nervous and anxous, i cant concentrate on anything and I worry about my wife all the time, what shes doing, I feel jelous all the time. I just want to be normal again, only back in April I was working hard not worrying about my wife and just happy.
Its as though Ive been knocked down and cant get up.
I love my wife so much and want to be sure that she still loves me as much, this seems really pathetic but I feel really bad at the moment and dont know what else to do.