Distressed, anxious - lacks true understanding of yourself

[rabbit88]

Hey, I am a 18 year old guy and for the last few years I have become extremely distressed and anxious about my appearance. I gaze at myself in the mirror on a daily basis, wondering how anyone could be born so ugly. I feel like I stand out like a sore thumb, that people are staring at my ugliness from every angle. Some people close to me say that I am not ugly but I feel that they are only saying this not to make me feel bad. I stare at the mirror for minutes on end in a kind of trance which I hope will end with me coming to assurance that I am not ugly. But that never happens of course. To get though daily life I continuously say to myself “I am not ugly, I am not ugly”, just to try and make the best out of my life. But by saying this I think it shows I am in a state of denial, it shows that I am actually ugly but I am trying to sweep the fact under the carpet. Is this true? , am I ugly or am I actually decent looking? Please assist me, I am trying to finally gain a true and honest understanding of myself. True Understanding of my physical appearance is something I have never had in my life and finding the truth, whether it be good or bad, is central to me. Thanks.



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[lady alexa]

Hi! I just saw your pics and you're definitely NOT ugly! In fact, you're quite good looking. :) I assure you that I'm not saying this just to make you feel better. It's just a simple statement of fact.

I won't blabber on with psychological stuff. All I can do is just be honest with you.

I do hope you get some help, for this negative perception of yourself seems to be eating you up... I'm pretty new to this kind of thing. (I've actually just scheduled a doctor's appointment for tomorrow.) But I am positive in what I say: you are not ugly.

[mummyhill]

Hi there,

First of all Welcome to DWD. There are a few of us here with self esteem issues so hopefully we can share some of our experiences with you. I would like to start by telling you that you are not ugly.

Can you pin point when these feelings about yourself started?
Have you spoken to a professional about the way you feel?

The most important thing is to talk so please keep talking.

[mummyhill]

PS as a bit of a hijack WELL DONE LADY ALEXA and GOOD LUCK with the doctors appointment. (hijack over).

[lizzie]

hello and welcome to DWD

IMHO your not ugly far from it but need some therapy to help with self esteem

[suzi]

Im not going to comment on your physical appearance..

I am however going to welcome you to DWD and ask you why you think you are "ugly"?
Are you having any therapy for the way that you are feeling?

I truly do believe that the most beautiful part of any person is inside them.. nothing else matters..

[seaspirit]

Hi and welcome.

I have to agree with Suzi, beauty lies from within and in my opinion it doesn't matter how many people tell you that you are not ugly if you don't feel it yourself.

You need to concentrate on building up you self esteem, start with things that you do like about yourself. It doesn't have to be physical appearance it could be your personality or your sence of humour.

Above all keep talking as we are very good listeners.

[lostfriend]

hello and welcome i have to say that Suzi right its how you feel inside that counts. tell me more about when you started feeling this way.