Hey DWD - New here

[Letssee]

Well I'm not sure where to start really. The explanation for why I've joined is fairly obvious ... Really, I'm not sure where to start. Is it okay if you just asked me questions and then I can progressively answer them please? It'd help me a lot more.

Thanks.

[suzi]

Hi there and welcome to DWD. None of us are proffesionals, we all just have our own experiences of depression.

I have moved your thread to the introductions section as it will be noticed by lots more people there!

Questions? hmmmm... im good at questions!

1) are you on any medication?
2) do you know what has caused/triggered your depression?
3) are you struggling on your own or do you have a good support network set up?

that will do for the moment!!

[Letssee]

Hey suzi, thanks for the reply.

1) No, I'm on no medication at all. My parents and family don't know I'm depressed or anything, even though sometimes I wonder why they don't.

2) Well my family went through a divorce between my parents which lasted 4/5 years. My dad went on drugs, would be destructive and be extremely horrible to my mum. Me and my siblings were scared to death .. he was like this due to his own childhood. Ever since, people at my high school always told me that I looked depressed because I'd just either be sitting with my head in my arms, or staring into space. At the time I wasn't really aware of it .. a couple of times I cried in school too. Now I'm in college and find myself so lethargic, don't really want to talk to anyone a great deal and work really gets to me. Generally speaking, I'm rarely ever in a good mood.

3) I'm pretty much on my own and always have been. No other real support. I don't want to tell my parents at all, and don't think I ever will unfortunately.

Thanks.

[suzi]

Oh hunni thats SO sad..
you shouldnt try to struggle on your own.. and now we will help you as best as we can. Where abouts are you? how old are you?

[Letssee]

I live in Surrey and am 16 years old. How about yourself?

Edit: Don't have to answer your age though :tongue:

[suzi]

im in surrey and am not nearly 16! but i can remember it lol!

keep talking.. it does help..

[Bunny]

hi and welcome to DWD

[lizzie]

hello and welcome to dwd

[seaspirit]

:Hello2: &:welcomeblinkiegroup You are safe to talk here and no one will judge you.

[MaraUT]

Welcome, Letssee! I don't know how the school system works where you are, but are there counseling resources within your school you can use to get some help? Depression is such a deep, dark place: you shouldn't have to navigate through it on your own.

[rainydays]

Hi and welcome to DWD

[Letssee]

Welcome, Letssee! I don't know how the school system works where you are, but are there counseling resources within your school you can use to get some help? Depression is such a deep, dark place: you shouldn't have to navigate through it on your own.

No, unfortunately there isn't I don't think. I was thinking of asking and think I will now. There really should be.

[rainydays]

We have locally something called the 'moving on project' - which offers councelling and advice for 16-24 year olds. I wonder if you'd have something similar locally?

[mummyhill]

Hi welcome to DWD

We have what is called the base system which operates in a local shopping center. The base Center offers all sorts of councelling to any one of school age. If you cannot talk to your family is it worth you approaching your gp, tell them that you are having difficulties coming to terms with the divorce and the circumstances surrounding it, and ask if there is any councelling they could refer you to. The other option is to go through the school, your GP is likely to be the better option due to confidentiality issues. I found school seem to think they can talk to your parents where a GP is not allowed to without your consent.

I hope you can find some help and support in real life as well as here on DWD. I am nearly double your age and find it difficult enough with a good supprot network here on line as well as in real life. As suzi said keep talking it really does help. We are not professionals but each have our own story to tell. We will not judge you and will try to help as much as we can by sharing our experiences.

[suzi]

there are some great places to go and talk, depends where abouts in surrey you are.. im not asking you to give that info out...

check out kidscape (http://www.kidscape.org.uk/asp/links/searchresults.asp?Property=SpecialistArea&Value=Counselling,%20Advice%20and%20Information) there may be something there to help..

[Emmie]

hello and welcome, you're officially our youngest member congratulations!

It is a good idea to go to your doctor's, you can go without your parents knowing, they'll be able to offer practical help and support.

I'm just over a decade older than you but I remember being sixteen and I remember being depressed then. It is very common as a teenager so you may well 'grow out of it' (sorry if that came out patronisingly it's not meant to be, essentially I mean that just because you're depressed now doesn't mean you always will be)

Connexions (http://www.connexions-direct.com/) are also a good place to be, they have lots of places locally (we have one that operates out of our library) so they'll be able to help.

We'll also help as much as we can

[lostfriend]

hello and welcome ,no question is a dumb question .the one not ask maybe