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It’s the last year of my 40’s (I know, you’d never have guessed it! ;)) so I think it’d be good to do a few things out of my comfort zone. One’s already sorted (thanks Jaq!), but has anyone got any other ideas?
Strugglingmum
02-01-23, 11:15 AM
What boundaries are you trying to push, step out of?
Do you mean going to different places? What about something like going on a train by yourself? Cook a meal for your family? Learn a language? Go swimming?
Do you mean going to different places? What about something like going on a train by yourself? Cook a meal for your family? Learn a language? Go swimming?
I’ve been learning Spanish for over a year. I did start learning Polish (as my cleaner is Polish) but my tiny brain can’t cope with 2 at once lol. My family won’t let me cook - they value their lives too much, I really am that bad. But yes, to getting out and about more, maybe on my own as I can’t remember the last time I left my town on my own. Swimming might be an option…
What boundaries are you trying to push, step out of?
Dealing with my fears of new places, being on my own etc
Marc was challenged by his therapist to "go out and expose himself" in towns near here. It was a huge challenge as at that point leaving the house at all - even to go to his sessions felt almost impossible... Little by little he did it. You will too. I know you will. Maybe aim for 1ce a fortnight/week and see how you go. Start small and local. Remember each inch away from the front door is a huge success!
My mum had the paramedics out to her last night, she was coughing so badly she struggled to breathe. But they’ve said the infection is gone, though her upper respiratory tract is very inflamed and she’s done some damage to her back by coughing. They’re passing details on to her GP for X-ray and blood tests. Oh, and the ECG showed a mild abnormality which an anaesthetist picked up years ago but her GP at the time said wasn’t there.
Jaquaia
02-01-23, 06:07 PM
Ouch. Hope she gets better soon (panda)
magie06
02-01-23, 08:35 PM
There is a lot of viruses and things doing the rounds. Our systems have had a break from them for the last 3 years and because there was more visiting done over the Christmas these viruses had a chance to be spread around.
Unfortunately, these things always hit mum worse - she has asthma but she also had double pneumonia years ago and it’s left scarring on her lungs. If she gets a cough, she really gets it.. they’ve done all sort of tests but there’s not a lot that can be done
Oh no! I was hoping that she was much better... I hope she's resting properly...
She can’t do much else tbh, she’s sleeping most of the time
Mum’s seen the GP and had an ECG. She’s going to the hospital later today for a chest X-ray, has been given more antibiotics, steroids and GTN spray
Oh love, you must be so worried. Is there anything we can do to help?
Just keep telling me it’s all going to be ok. I can only cope with one poorly parent at a time, it seems…..
I totally understand that. She's being investigated and being looked after. Those are good things. Whatever will be will be and you'll get through it love.. Here for you.
magie06
03-01-23, 01:50 PM
I'll keep everyone in my prayers.
Jaquaia
03-01-23, 02:43 PM
They'll look after her (panda)
Strugglingmum
03-01-23, 03:30 PM
Praying mum gets better soon. X
How's she doing love? How are you coping?
She’s had the X-ray, just waiting for results. I’m ok
You know we're here if you want to talk at all...
Well, I had a lovely day yesterday. The antique centre was lovely as ever, and I bought myself a new ring. Si and Jess hated it, but I think it’s gorgeous! Although Jess hates places like that, she came with us and that was the best present she could give me. The 5 of us had fish and chips for dinner and played a game all evening (my team won ;)). And most people donated to the birthday fundraiser I’d set up on Facebook for the kennels where we adopted our dogs from, instead of giving me presents - which meant we hit and exceeded the target. I’m chuffed to bits!
The only slight niggle in the day was that I forgot my evening meds (inc pregabalin) - I blame 2 gins and a glass of bubbly - and didn't realise til 11pm, which upset my system a little and I didn’t get to sleep til 3am…. So I’m a little tired this morning lol
Jaquaia
07-01-23, 11:37 AM
So pleased you had a lovely day!
Sounds like a truly lovely, lovely day! Bugger about the meds, but at least you remembered - late is better than not...
Yay! I know I’ve just had my birthday but, as the next one is a *cough significant one, we’ve just booked to go to Cornwall with the kids for 5 nights from 2 Jan 2024! (party)
Jaquaia
09-01-23, 10:21 PM
Sounds awesome! My birthday this year *may* also be a significant one but I have no idea what to do for it as we won't have been married long!
Sounds like a great plan Paula!
Jaq, book something and go, or do an experience day or something...
magie06
10-01-23, 01:52 PM
It certainly warrants a pamper day at the very least.
Jaq - I got your card today, thank you so much!
Jaquaia
10-01-23, 05:56 PM
You're very welcome!
I’ve done too much today, I knew I was going to have to but I had no choice. And now my back is screaming. I’ve emailed my chiropractor and explained I’ve been in flare since I last saw him and asked whether it’s time to refer me on to my pain consultant.
Jaquaia
11-01-23, 05:03 PM
(panda)
Is there anything that eases it even a little?
What have you done that's been too much love?
(panda)
Is there anything that eases it even a little?
I’ve been surgically attached to a heat pad for the last hour
What have you done that's been too much love?
No one thing, just a lot of little things that added up itms
It does make sense... Are you pacing this week or busy?
Can you pace whilst you're doing it?
I’ll have to
I’ve spoken to the chiropractor who has helped me self refer back to the advanced physio for referral on to my pain consultant, hopefully. I have to admit, it’s starting to get to me….
Jaquaia
12-01-23, 12:26 PM
That's completely understandable (panda)
I'm not surprised you're struggling with it. You've been battling it so much love.
I might need checking on this weekend - Si’s away
Jaquaia
12-01-23, 08:51 PM
We can do that! What are your plans?
Tomorrow morning I’m meeting a friend for coffee, Saturday I’m going out for lunch with my best friend and Sunday evening I plan to go to church. Other than that, a LOT of assignment work…..
Jaquaia
12-01-23, 09:27 PM
Sounds like a busy weekend. Can you build in any resting time?
I will try, but I also think busy will distract me
Busy is fine, but hunni, could it be worth getting an extension on the work? Just to give you some extra space?
It’s due at the end of the month,so I’ll review in a week’s time. My problem is, and always has been, that I am incapable of doing the bare minimum..
I understand that, but try to pace please??? How long is Si away?
Jaquaia
13-01-23, 06:29 PM
You doing ok? No secret parties? ;)
Well, Martin Kemp is currently in my living room, playing his Mixtape ;)
OO enjoy!
Hope you have had a lovely day hunni... You've got this!
I forgot to say that Katie’s away so I’m driving over there twice a day to sort out the cats. Thankfully, she’s home tomorrow as I’m knackered.
Jaquaia
14-01-23, 09:01 PM
You've got some rest scheduled then?
Wow, you've really pushed yourself. Could Jess help?
She’s working. It’s ok, they’re all home tonight
Jaquaia
15-01-23, 08:42 AM
What are your plans for today?
Assignment, then I’m going to the evening service at church tonight :)
Jaquaia
15-01-23, 02:03 PM
Any plans for rest? As that seems busy.
I’m taking half hour breaks
Jaquaia
15-01-23, 04:11 PM
So you should too! (And yes, totally ignoring the hypocrisy in me saying that (angel))
How's it going? Did you get to Church? Are they back?
Yes I got to church. Si is home later, Katie hasn’t let me know yet
How was church? How are you doing? How do you think you've coped this weekend?
Church was great but I’m shattered. Worth it though :). This weekend has practically broken me, but that had a lot to do with having to look after the cats.
So glad you had a good time. Have the cats been difficult or is it "just" the times and the driving etc? Well done love. Are you pacing at all this week?
‘Just’ times and motorway driving. I’m working today but will do nothing once I get home. I’ve got an asthma review Thursday, maybe a Teams meeting tomorrow.otherwise, studying…..
That makes total sense at how that's been a bit much for you.
I took the bull by the horns and emailed my pa8n consultant’s team direct. I’ve got an appointment with him on the 30th :)
Jaquaia
16-01-23, 05:35 PM
Not long at all to wait!
They were a bit miffed the physio’s had faffed about so much
So proud of you for doing that!
So now I’ve also got an appointment with orthopaedics. Buses come to mind ;)
YAY? Can you get your own parking space yet?
Jaquaia
19-01-23, 11:25 AM
What's up? (panda)
10th anniversary of my fall
Jaquaia
19-01-23, 11:31 AM
Ah. I can understand that. So I'm just going to tell you that I think you're awesome, you need to be kind to yourself today, and send lots of hugs (panda)(panda)(panda)(panda)(panda)
Ahh, I'm sorry I knew it was coming up but I've got all my days/dates in a muddle..
I wish that you hadn't had such sh(t consequences from the fall... I understand today's a tough day, but Jaq is right. You need to be kind to you today. Talk as much as you want/need to. We're here for you...
magie06
19-01-23, 02:42 PM
It's understandable that today is going to be tough. Please be kind to you. Can you go for a coffee or anything?
I’ve been doing my assignment, but have had to stop early as the study content doesn’t match up with the questions on the final 2 units…..
Oh no! How frustrating!
Are you OK love? You haven't really been talking about how you are recently....
I’m fine. Todays a crappy day and I’ve allowed myself a little wallow - but tomorrow I got back to refusing to let it dictate my life
You're allowed a wallow... But I've never known you to allow it to dictate your life at all...
Jaquaia
20-01-23, 08:15 AM
Seconded. It's ok to feel sad about an event that changed your life. (panda)
I’m ok. Desperately waiting from a response from my tutor :/ but if I can’t study, I can cross stitch ;)
Strugglingmum
20-01-23, 01:16 PM
(panda)
OO what's the cross stitch project?
Oh, just a little something for me, for a change ;)
We had friends over tonight - Spencer is Jess’s godfather, so good friends, but we haven’t seen them in far too long - and I’d forgotten how much fun they are. My jaw aches from laughing! A fab night :)
I love that you've had such a good night! How are you today?
Shattered. But my assignment stuff has been sorted so that’s what I’ll be doing today!
Ok, I managed a few hours on my assignment. But I was so ‘tired’ after last night, I had to have a real coffee (the first time in a year) to keep me awake. ;)
Did it work?
How are you doing today love?
It did. I’m ok, ta. Been to work and now going to study for a few hours
How is work going? Enjoying it? How are everyone else?
Work’s good, everyone’s fine :)
That's good to hear!
How are you doing love? I mean, really doing?
I’m really doing ok. Sore but that’s not new lol
Good to hear you're doing OK. Are you able to rest and pace a bit at all? When's your assignment due in?
IVE FINISHED THIS MARATHON OF AN ASSIGNMENT, Don’t know how - finished a question and realised it was the last one lol
Jaquaia
24-01-23, 05:38 PM
Well done!!!
OldMike
24-01-23, 06:37 PM
Woo hoo finished your assignment, I knew you would because you're a bit special.
Well done love! I'm still plugging away at mine!
Ooooo I’ve managed to lose 6 lbs since New Year! That’s my Christmas weight gone (party)
My mum seems to finally have an answer why her asthmas been so badly affected by flu. She had allergy tests done today (no allergies) but the dr was also an asthma specialist and did lung function tests.apparently, although her main airway is fine, the smaller airways are only operating at 50% and have probably been at that for some time….
Jaquaia
25-01-23, 09:38 PM
Well that would explain a lot! Have they got a plan to deal with it?
Oh no! Your poor Mum! Chest physio?
What have you been doing to lose that weight?
WW, they’ve changed their plan as of 1st Jan so I can only conclude that the previous plan was crap
(rofl) Glad it's working for you!
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Great feedback from my assignment. 2 ‘wow’s!
Jaquaia
26-01-23, 06:39 PM
Well done lovely! Never doubted it for a second! But what the hell have you done???
OMG, what've you done?
Congratulations! Didn't doubt you for a second!
I tipped boiling hot coffee all over my arm. No, it’s not an a&e job, it’ll just be sore for a few days. Just grateful I’ve got an aloe Vera plant
Jaquaia
26-01-23, 09:22 PM
No wonder you gave up drinking it! It's dangerous!!!
How is it today?
What's on the agenda? Nothing involving hot coffee I hope!
Lol. I worked this morning - had to swap shifts so I could see the pain consultant on Monday.
I’ve got a few blisters but it’s fine
So, you know the title of this thread?……. I’m really pushing it today and applying for a job. A paid job!
Jaquaia
28-01-23, 12:33 PM
Ooh! What are you going for???
It’s a ward clerk/secretary role at the hospital. 15 hours pw. I said to Si, I could do it standing on my head, with my eyes closed. When I’m well. When I’m ill, it’s a different story. I’ll see how it goes.
Jaquaia
28-01-23, 02:56 PM
They'd be lucky to have you!
Strugglingmum
28-01-23, 06:22 PM
Well done you. So proud of you
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Jaquaia
28-01-23, 08:35 PM
Proud of you!
They are right, they'd be lucky to have you! You're amazingly wonderful and I know that you are the utmost professional!
With a lot of gaps in my CV…..my last paid job was 2006!
That doesn't mean you can't do this one!
So, diagnosis of bursitis in the hip. The pain when touched goes right down my thigh and the doctor said 90% of the cases of this particular issue are women of a certain age who’s oestrogen levels are dropping….. I also have a mildish facet joint issue in my lower two vertabrae. What I didn’t say before is we decided not to wait to see him and paid for a private appt. Treatment would normally be steroid injections in the back and hip to facilitate extensive physio. But, on NHS the wait is 18 months. I can’t wait that long. Otherwise, we do it all privately but steroid injections would be c £1500. It looks like I’ll have to start the physio (he’s referred us to someone he recommends) without the steroid injections and hope it works. If not, then we’ll have to reconsider the injections further down the line.
The main thing is, it’s definitely not CRPS
Jaquaia
30-01-23, 09:58 PM
Still, ouch!
Yeah. I nearly hit the ceiling when he pressed my hip and all down my thigh!
Jaquaia
31-01-23, 10:34 AM
I've had it in my shoulder and I know how painful that was! At least I could keep my shoulder mostly still. You have my sympathy (panda)
Oh ouch! I'm glad you saw him love. If it comes to needing the infections will you take that option?
Yes, Suzi. Some things are more important than money (most things, actually).
I’ve been to see the psychiatrist this morning. He was shocked but pleased I’d completely stopped the vortioxetine - he was only expecting me to have halved the dose. But, as my mood hasn’t dropped, he’s ok with it. Among other things, I talked about applying for that job. Initially he was concerned but, when I explained I was already volunteering at the hospital and the job is only 15 hours, he was positive. But he did say they would be worried if I tried to do much more.
The main thing is, he’s referring me to the Nurse Led Clinic for long term (probably indefinite) support, and so they can continue to monitor my mental health.
Good, I'm glad you're going to get the drugs if needed..
So glad you've been really open and honest with the Pysch!!d I'm thrilled you will have long-term support in place. It makes things much safer as you know you can get support if you need it.
That’s what I thought. Tbh, it’s probably support I should have had all along, given the meds I’m on
Well, yes I'd have thought so too... Better late, than never though!
magie06
01-02-23, 02:25 PM
I hope you are taking it easy today. You've had a lot to deal with in the last few days.
You’re right, Magie. I had a blood test today at the hospital and I came out of there flaring. So I’m listening to my body and reading my book
Magie is totally right as usual! I hope that you resting and pacing a bit today has helped even a little
Damn! My washing machine is broken beyond repair……
I don’t know if I said, but got my first psych nurse led clinic on 13 March. And I start physio a week Friday.
Today’s hospital visit was for ophthalmology- always my favourite :/. It didn’t start well as there were no disabled spaces so I had to park in the main car park (but I nabbed a parent and child space), which meant walking up 50 steps to get to outpatients. When I got there, they checked my vision - which was crap but I’ve got the opticians tomorrow….. Then i realised they hadn’t booked me in for visual fields. So while I was having my scan, the nurse had to go and check with the doctor before fitting me in. Which she did, but it meant delays, and ultimately a 2 hour appointment. By which time I’d forgotten I had to go down 50 steps to the car…….
Anyway, optic nerves are still swollen but not a lot of change so they’ll continue monitoring (next appt in May).
I’ve also had to do some hoovering as housegroup is here tonight. My back is complaining
Ooo and I’ve finally got a psych diagnosis I agree with! Recurrent depressive disorder with anxiety disorder. I never did agree with Bipolar so it’s good to have that on my files going forward
Jaquaia
08-02-23, 04:31 PM
I'm glad you're happy with your diagnosis (panda)
I always got the impression bipolar was there to justify me being on lithium - rather than being accurate. I’d rather not have a diagnosis at all of course lol
What a bugger of an appointment! I rely so much on disabled spaces! Next time get an uber from the car park up to the doors! (rofl)(rofl)
That diagnosis does seem to "fit" better than bipolar.
That diagnosis does seem to "fit" better than bipolar.
Yep, exactly. I’ve never said I was bipolar - although I’m very different when I’m well than when I’m ill, I’ve never been hyper.
Today was the opticians. Although they come to me, it’s still tiring - which seems ridiculous but …. Anyway, only a year after my last test, my vision has changed quite a bit, again. Thankfully, I’m entitled to various vouchers so my glasses and sunglasses, rather than being £550, were £250. Still a lot of money to dish out every year - apparently they’re my birthday present (rofl). My pressures are at the top end of normal (mum has Glaucoma) but I’m trying not to borrow trouble.
I have a job interview on 20th! Doesn’t mean they want me, btw, as I’m disabled I’m entitled to an automatic interview ;)
magie06
09-02-23, 02:48 PM
I know I'll forget so I'll say best of luck now. I know you're going to ace it.
Jaquaia
09-02-23, 04:06 PM
You'll be great!
Strugglingmum
09-02-23, 06:53 PM
I'm really chuffed for you. Xx
They'd be mad not to want you!
Ok, I give up. I’ve been trying to do some studying and keep falling asleep….;)
My boss has offered to do some interview prep with me - which is even more kind as she's been off for weeks with long covid
Maybe the falling asleep means you need some more rest?!
That's really kind of her!
Yeah, I didn’t push myself any further, other than making dinner as a treat for Si ;)
I know! And no one’s got food poisoning! Si is trying to get me to agree with cooking once a week but I told him exactly what I think about that lol
Blimey! Can't have been half bad if he's asked you to do it more than once!
Try the Jack Monroe cook books, they're easy recipes and delicious!
Nope. Not doing it. I hate cooking with a passion
Today, I’m meeting up with my boss to do some interview prep. She’s so lovely to be helping me like this :)
OO how did it go? I'm not sure you'll need that prep though, they will know how lovely and brilliant you are just by meeting you!
She was brilliant, even though she’s properly ill with long covid. We talked over a few scenarios - mainly how I would respond if they asked me how I’d deal with difficult or triggering situations, she went over the job description with me, and we nattered ;)
So glad it was all positive love!
I’m struggling today. One of the things my new physio told me was that I was hurting myself using my stick in my right hand. So, I have to use it in my left hand. Which sounds simple, except it’s not. It’s not just about walking, which feels weird, but it’s also getting used to carrying everything in my right hand, I’m left handed so everything in the house is set up so I can use them with my dominant hand. As my mum said,I’m discombobulated. My brain is struggling to catch up. It sounds ridiculous but it’s really hard and frustrating
Jaquaia
18-02-23, 12:40 PM
It doesn't sound ridiculous at all!
That sounds so difficult! I've been using a crutch in my right arm for so long, but way back it was one stick in my left hand - swapping hands takes lots and lots of practise, frustrations and husbands being kicked because "it's not an issue if you are ambidextrous"...
Thank you! You’re the first person who’s got it!
Oh goodness yes I get it! Totally!!!!
magie06
18-02-23, 10:13 PM
I totally understand. I know it's not the same, but when I had my knees done, it took me longer to get used to the stairs, when I had my right knee done. I left handed too, and I really couldn't get holding the crutch in my left hand. My left hand needs to be free to be available to do stuff.
Jaquaia
19-02-23, 10:10 AM
Completely different, but when I had my carpal tunnel operations, I struggled far more when my right hand was done than with my left. Not being able to use your dominant side is really awkward!!
Jaquaia
20-02-23, 10:56 AM
Ooh! Good luck!!!!
Hi guys, went for my interview. I think it went well though you never know about other candidates. I’m shattered so am going to bed. See you in the morning!
Jaquaia
20-02-23, 09:37 PM
I'm sure you did brilliantly (panda)
I don't doubt that you were absolutely amazing!
When do you hear?
I heard today. I didn’t get it as it went to someone already doing. The job in another department. So I think they already knew who they were going to offer it to. Que será. Nothing I can do about that
magie06
21-02-23, 05:54 PM
I'm sure you were fabulous. A lot of times they HAVE to advertise these jobs, but already have someone in mind.
Whilst I'm sorry that you didn't get it, I'm glad I don't have to share you ;)
Ow! Had a very hot coffee last night and woke up with a very sore mouth and throat - must have scalded myself again….:/
In other news, Jess and one of her friends have tarted to talk about maybe renting a flat together! :(
Jaquaia
22-02-23, 10:42 AM
Are you sure coffee isn't a health hazard???
Ah. How are you feeling about it? (panda)
OO ouchie! Did you just misjudge it?
Is that good news re Jess?
What are you up to today?
I need to stop drinking out of my flask, it keeps it too hot for too long. I get impatient (rofl)
How do I feel? Excited for her but also sad that my baby might be leaving me, all the while knowing we’ve always made it clear to both of them that we hoped, for their sakes, that they would be able to leave home sooner rather than later itms
I’ve just been told I’ve got another interview - in the maternity unit this time ;)
I need to stop drinking out of my flask, it keeps it too hot for too long. I get impatient (rofl)
How do I feel? Excited for her but also sad that my baby might be leaving me, all the while knowing we’ve always made it clear to both of them that we hoped, for their sakes, that they would be able to leave home sooner rather than later itms
Then slow down!
I've always thought that parenthood -any form of parenthood -step, foster, adoptive, those who step in with a child's best interest at heard - is the hardest job because you are just preparing them day by day to leave you... I've always tried to teach mine various skills to be independent and it's served them well so far, but they also know we're here for them no matter what...
I’ve just been told I’ve got another interview - in the maternity unit this time ;)
Well done! When is it?
13th March. It’s slightly less hours - 13
I'm pleased for you. If this is what you want then I'm proud to be here waving pom poms and supporting you every single step of the way x
Strugglingmum
22-02-23, 05:25 PM
That's great news.
Jaquaia
22-02-23, 06:24 PM
They'd be lucky to have you!
Jaq's not wrong, they would!
Hmmmm I received some chocolate in the post today. No idea where they came from. Have I been sleep shopping again???
(rofl) If you enjoy it then it was from me, if you hate it then nothing to do with me.
Hazel introduced me to them as they have a huge selection of vegan chocolate - and hot chocolate stirrers which are amazing...
My inkling inkled correctly then (giggle). Si tried to nab one of the bars. He’s skating on really thin ice ;:
Jaquaia
23-02-23, 08:03 PM
Does he have a bloody death wish???
Do you like them? Is he still alive?
I love them! Tried the Black Forest first :) but I was kind and, as Jess is having a really bad period again, I gave her one of the bars…..
Jaq - obviously!
YAY! Glad you liked them! It's one of Hazel's gems of discovery!
What are you up to today?
Spending the day with mum :)
As well as wandering around an antiques centre, having coffee and cake in M&S,, then lunch at the antiques place, I also had physio today. So ow. He’s done some trigger point dry needling which is different to acupuncture in that it goes directly into the muscles etc. He told me it’s designed to actually upset and inflame the area, and promised me I’d be cursing him for a couple of days….. but apparently it should trigger the dodgy tendon and area to heal. He also reckons that, if the hip is fixed and I’m walking better, that’ll sort my back out. And he told me that his aim is to get me not using my stick. I laughed at him but we’ll see ;)
Go physio! I hope it does really help fo you love...
I have just done something I never do. Was trying to answer some assignment questions but I’m so tired my mind was blank. So I put it away for today!
magie06
01-03-23, 07:15 PM
Oh wow. Is someone listening to their body then?
Blimey! Go you! That's awesome of you! Assuming this is the real Paula...
How are you doing today lovely?
I’m ok. My CPAP mask is not sealing properly, hence my tiredness :/ but I’ve ordered a new one, so problem almost sorted.
Study today, deadlines looming!
Hope the study goes well...
We’ve been to friends for dinner tonight. It was really lovely :). Especially when we worked out we’ve known each other for 30 years!
So glad you had a good night x
Ha! I’ve been telling Si for a very long time he needs reading glasses. He finally had his first ever sight test today, and needs reading glasses! Trying very hard not to tell him I was right.
Anyway, the next week is going to be hectic. Tomorrow, I’ve got an appointment in the morning, then meeting a friend. Friday, I’m having to cover a shift at work then video calling my best friend, as she won’t leave the house when it’s this cold. Saturday, we’re going to the in laws. Monday, I have my first MH clinic, and a job interview. And I’ve got to prepare for the interview and finish assignment number 4 by next Wednesday (with 2 and a half questions still to answer, somehow). Planned all that well, didn’t i?
Lol at Si!
Sounds remarkably busy. Will you pace where you can?
Jaquaia
09-03-23, 07:17 AM
You'll do it. Just please rest when you can (panda)
Lol at Si!
Sounds remarkably busy. Will you pace where you can?
You'll do it. Just please rest when you can (panda)
I Will do my best…
Ha! I’ve been telling Si for a very long time he needs reading glasses. He finally had his first ever sight test today, and needs reading glasses! Trying very hard not to tell him I was right.
Anyway, the next week is going to be hectic. Tomorrow, I’ve got an appointment in the morning, then meeting a friend. Friday, I’m having to cover a shift at work then video calling my best friend, as she won’t leave the house when it’s this cold. Saturday, we’re going to the in laws. Monday, I have my first MH clinic, and a job interview. And I’ve got to prepare for the interview and finish assignment number 4 by next Wednesday (with 2 and a half questions still to answer, somehow). Planned all that well, didn’t i?
Having reread this, it seems that you are interspersing work with social things... It's balanced, but still a lot. Hope the appointment and seeing your friend goes well lovely..
Strugglingmum
09-03-23, 01:20 PM
I'm tired just reading all that. Please find time to put your feet up!!
Jaquaia
13-03-23, 08:42 AM
Good luck today!
J said good luck too!
Thank you both! The clinic was disappointing the psych had said it was an indefinite thing to continue supporting me. Today,the nurse said that i was doing everything they’d recommend to support my mental health, so he’ll see me in Jume and, if there’s no change, he’ll probably discharge me
Let’s hope the interview is less disappointing……
magie06
13-03-23, 10:59 AM
Good luck.
So, somewhat disappointing day - I didn’t get the job either. They said I interviewed really well but was just pipped to the post. Yeah, right :(
Jaquaia
13-03-23, 04:20 PM
What reason do they have to lie? I have no doubt you did interview well, chances are someone may have interviewed who has been doing the job. But look at the positive, you feel well enough to apply for jobs. That's huge!!! And a massive testament to your strength. You will find something right for you, and they will be lucky to have you (panda)
Strugglingmum
13-03-23, 04:32 PM
I'm sorry today was so disappointing (panda) but I'm just sitting here thinking, wow, how far you have come to be stable, doing everything recommended and applying AND interviewing for jobs. You are so inspiring. X
It just wasn't right for you. I thoroughly believe the right thing will come along for you. X
What a shitty day love, I'm so sorry... Can you build in something to brighten your week?
Oh, tomorrow and Wednesday are going to be tied up with finishing my assignment. But I will turn my alarm off ;)
I wonder if I’m not getting the whole truth, Jaq, because I’m disabled……
Jaquaia
13-03-23, 10:47 PM
I can understand that. If that's the case then they don't deserve you. it's their loss as you're awesome and would be an asset.
Jaq is completely right. You are an asset and an amazingly brilliant person to have on any team. Have you asked for detailed feedback to help you improve for any other interviews?
Hope you're being kind to you today love.
I had feedback.the interview was scenario, not skills, based. One of the questions was about what I would do if a colleague dumped work on me. I said that the work needed to be done so I’d get on with it, whilst referring to my line manager. Apparently that was wrong - I was supposed to look out for my well-being and leave it. Not sure that is in my nature….
That's a crap answer from there. No "team player" would just leave it! I wouldn't hire you if you just left it to pile up and get forgotten.. Surely it's about working as a team? Yes tell your line manager - if they don't want you to do it then it's their call surely?
Exactly! Which is what makes me think there was another reason behind it. Maybe I’m being paranoid
I don't know if you're being paranoid, but I don't get their answer at all!
magie06
15-03-23, 02:38 PM
Their answer makes no sense. There is probably someone else doing the job already, and because of NHS policy, they had to advertise and hold interviews, but gave the job to the person already there.
I had a fantastic day at my church’s women’s day. But, 8.30am - 9.00pm, with lots of socialising (and tons of cake ;)) - I might be slightly broken. And a little punch drunk lol
Jaquaia
19-03-23, 11:13 AM
So glad you had a good time!
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