Hello

[justjane]

Just joined. Myself and my daughter (22) both suffer with depression and anxiety. We try to support each other. She's going through a bad patch at the moment and I'm struggling with how to help her which is then making me worse. It's a vicious cycle and I hate it. Feel so useless

[Paula]

Hi Jane and welcome. You are not useless, you love and care for her, as is obvious from your distress at her pain, and that love and care is absolutely the number 1 thing she needs from you.

Is she getting help and support from her doctor?

[Suzi]

Hi and welcome. Apart from each other do you have a good support network around you?

[justjane]

Thank you for your replies. We have a small support group. She's on medication and on the waiting list for more counselling. I'm so worried about her. She's hasn't got dressed for days, nit left the house for probably about a week. Barely speaks. Just lies on the sofa watching stuff on her phone. I've suggested doing something like go for a drive just to get her out but no. This is bringing me down too. She has no interest in anything. She does nothing to help around the house.
I'm wondering if I should try TELLING her that she must at least get dressed tomorrow. But worried that could backfire. Really at my wits end.
I work in a school so have just broken up for summer and really don't want to spend my break like this.......then I feel selfish saying that. ��

[Zebra Claire]

Hello & welcome, I've just joined too. X

[Paula]

Where are you based, love?

What about family? Are they able to help? Are you having to stay in with her? Are you concerned for her safety?

[Suzi]

Hi and welcome ;) So glad you got here ZC :)