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Hi, so recently, I been getting abuse from people in my life, it has been nasty, I reported it to the police, and things are still not doing too good, I am mentally unable to fight for what I think needs to be done but always I feel like I should give up. I been abused in my life I'm 21 and I fight every day to stay alive. Some days I go I don't want to be here anymore but some days I say I'm glad I stayed alive. I self harm and it helps me, I am scared though that one day it will end me. I don't want that, I have a life too live but sometimes I can't live it due to getting abused saying my ex is going to hurt me if I go to the police again. Being raped has shown how much hurt is inside of me, I didn't ask for it I did blame myself but I know it was not my fault. Hello I'm Lilly!
I often find myself crying myself to sleep to see if what's going on in my life is correct unfortunately it is. The mental abuse or emotional attacks is draining me, I feel like the police aren't supporting me, I ring them but then get no response I feel like im going to be abused my whole life.
My head hurts. Why does everyone blame me :( ��
Hey, love, just a few rules fyi, we ask that members don’t double post on the same thread within 10 minutes of each other, so I’ve merged your recent posts into one. Also, I’ve moved your post on SM thread to this one as it solely relates to you.
I’ve also added a trigger warning - nothing to worry about, it’s just to ensure that anybody who might be triggered by what you’re talking about has the option to avoid reading it.
Have you spoken to your doctor about how this is affecting you? Do you have any support?
Hey, love, just a few rules fyi, we ask that members don’t double post on the same thread within 10 minutes of each other, so I’ve merged your recent posts into one. Also, I’ve moved your post on SM thread to this one as it solely relates to you.
I’ve also added a trigger warning - nothing to worry about, it’s just to ensure that anybody who might be triggered by what you’re talking about has the option to avoid reading it.
Have you spoken to your doctor about how this is affecting you? Do you have any support?
Hey, sorry - I didn't mean too, what does SM mean? Sorry, for messaging loads I am so sorry. I have, but their busy so I have to wait.
Hey, sorry - I didn't mean too, what does SM mean? Sorry, for messaging loads I am so sorry. I have, but their busy so I have to wait.
No worries, hunni :) SM is StrugglingMum, whose thread you were posting on :)
No worries, hunni :) SM is StrugglingMum, whose thread you were posting on :)
Oh okay
No worries, hunni :) SM is StrugglingMum, whose thread you were posting on :)
Hey sorry, I didn't mean to write on her thread, give me any punishment because I'm sorry. Is it alright if I do make threads though but I'll keep thidnone?
Jaquaia
13-11-21, 12:25 PM
No punishment needed at all! What we tend to ask is posts on similar subjects stay together as then it's easier to follow your story if that makes sense? A few of us have different threads but they tend to he very different!
You've been through some horrific things. Have you ever considered specialist counselling to help you deal with it?
No punishment needed at all! What we tend to ask is posts on similar subjects stay together as then it's easier to follow your story if that makes sense? A few of us have different threads but they tend to he very different!
You've been through some horrific things. Have you ever considered specialist counselling to help you deal with it?
I haven't really, is it a good thing? What does it do?
Jaquaia
13-11-21, 12:37 PM
I've never had it myself, though I've had it suggested to me. It is counselling that focuses on helping you deal with a specific issue, Cruse is a good example, as it focuses on helping you deal with bereavement. There are agencies out there that can help you try and deal with sexual trauma. The Survivors Trust is one example (www.thesurvivorstrust.org).
I've never had it myself, though I've had it suggested to me. It is counselling that focuses on helping you deal with a specific issue, Cruse is a good example, as it focuses on helping you deal with bereavement. There are agencies out there that can help you try and deal with sexual trauma. The Survivors Trust is one example (www.thesurvivorstrust.org).
Thank you! That's so helpful, I find taking about what has happened to me, especially etc is so helpful! So thank you. I'll look into this
Oh okay
Hey sorry, I didn't mean to write on her thread, give me any punishment because I'm sorry. Is it alright if I do make threads though but I'll keep thidnone?
Don’t worry about it, lovely. You’re more than welcome to post on any thread but your comment was specifically about you and makes much more sense on your own thread - hence me moving it.
Don’t worry about it, lovely. You’re more than welcome to post on any thread but your comment was specifically about you and makes much more sense on your own thread - hence me moving it.
Ah, I didn't realise thank you!!
Hi Lily. Trauma therapy is really hard, takes a while to get but I've found it helpful so far..
Hi Lily. Trauma therapy is really hard, takes a while to get but I've found it helpful so far..
Seems pretty cool, I'll try it!
Seems pretty cool, I'll try it!
Not sure I'd ever describe it as "pretty cool", it's actually f*ing hard reliving the trauma and unpacking it in minute detail and trying to understand why that trauma has impacted every area of your life and your relationships..
Not sure I'd ever describe it as "pretty cool", it's actually f*ing hard reliving the trauma and unpacking it in minute detail and trying to understand why that trauma has impacted every area of your life and your relationships..
Sorry, I didn't mean to type that word. Sorry if I caused you some hurtful emotions �� ��.
It is hard, having to say what has happened to you is tough as he'll, especially when you got accused of lying because the rapist told the police that he is innocent when he isn't
I haven’t had trauma counselling, but I know from what others have talked about that it’s not a easy option. But potentially hugely beneficial. What I think, from what others have talked about (please correct me guys if I’m wrong) that it’s not so much about who is lying but much, much more about how you feel and how’s it’s impacted your life itms?
I haven’t had trauma counselling, but I know from what others have talked about that it’s not a easy option. But potentially hugely beneficial. What I think, from what others have talked about (please correct me guys if I’m wrong) that it’s not so much about who is lying but much, much more about how you feel and how’s it’s impacted your life itms?
Yeah, the police believed me though so I got my abuser locked away!! But he my abuser said that I was lying to the police interviewing him which annoyed me!
I haven’t had trauma counselling, but I know from what others have talked about that it’s not a easy option. But potentially hugely beneficial. What I think, from what others have talked about (please correct me guys if I’m wrong) that it’s not so much about who is lying but much, much more about how you feel and how’s it’s impacted your life itms?
Absolutely. It's a lot about stabilization and then unpacking very carefully and slowly....
Yeah, the police believed me though so I got my abuser locked away!! But he my abuser said that I was lying to the police interviewing him which annoyed me!
Its great they were found guilty. That's so much more than so many get...
Can I ask where you are from?
Absolutely. It's a lot about stabilization and then unpacking very carefully and slowly....
Its great they were found guilty. That's so much more than so many get...
Can I ask where you are from?
United Kingdom ����
Thanks, it just means we can give you links to organisations which could help based on where you are...
Thanks, it just means we can give you links to organisations which could help based on where you are...
Thank you!
You're very welcome. Have you tried any support systems?
You're very welcome. Have you tried any support systems?
I am calling my doctor this morning to see if that's okay?
Well done for seeing your doctor - try to tell them everything
What are you going to ask them?
Well done for seeing your doctor - try to tell them everything
Thank you!
What are you going to ask them?
That, if I can speak to a specialist who can support a rape victim and if they can support me long term.
Did you get to speak to your Dr?
Did you get to speak to your Dr?
Hiya, yes
That's great, what did they say?
That's great, what did they say?
Their going to make a appointment with me and a mental health nurse to discuss What's the plan of action moving forward, their also referring me to a rape and abuse officer where they can support me.
That's really positive. So glad. How are you feeling about it?
That's really positive. So glad. How are you feeling about it?
Not too good, I'll have to talk about what's happened to me which I don't want to do
Stella180
19-11-21, 09:19 AM
I’m sorry but I’m really confused. Why would you go and ask for that support if you aren’t ready to engage with it?
As hard as it might be for you, the whole idea is to talk about your problem, it will play a huge part in your healing process. Also you are so lucky to get the chance to talk to experts in this field. They will be supportive and sensitive to your needs. Don't worry about it, just embrace it...it's called 'caring about you and your future'. Good luck.
You shouldn't have to go to session 1 and tell everything. A lot of work should be done on stabilization before you get to all of that....
It was okay. Not going again
Stella180
16-12-21, 07:16 PM
Ermmm, why not?
Why not? What is stopping you?
Stella180
23-01-22, 12:25 PM
Scared of what exactly?
Scared of what exactly?
That I'm taking up time that someone might need more
That's not the case at all. If you were deemed as not needing the time/help/support/input then you wouldn't have been given it! You would have been told at assessment level that you weren't eligible...
You are just as deserving of help and support as anyone else! Have you been back?
I've had an awful time. 😖 I just wanna leave everything behind I don't want to do anything but cry but I keep wanting to sh
Hi, lovely, what’s up?
I’ve moved your Give Up post to this existing thread
Hi, long time no see... Do you want to talk about what's up?
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