New Beginnings

[Suzi]

Hope the rest of the exams are kind to Ais! Well done Princess!

Sorry about the news from the blood tests lovely.

[Stella180]

Yay, glad to see you posting. Don’t see you around much anymore and the place ain’t the same without you.

[magie06]

Today is Aisling's last day of state exams. And we are both wrecked. Her exam this morning is an hour and a half because they have already done an hour and a half of practical work. So by 11 this morning we will be all done. The papers have been very general in all, but Aisling didn't like the maths or science papers.

[Suzi]

Congratulations to you both for getting through them! Special treat tonight then! I vote for ice cream by the bucket! :)

[Paula]

Wow! Well done Ais, and we’ll done you!

[Flo]

Well done to you both!

[magie06]

It's been a long slog. But we've got through without too many tears. We can sit back and enjoy the summer from now on.

[Suzi]

Absolutely! Are you doing anything nice to celebrate?

[magie06]

Aisling and a friend went to see the new Buzz light-year movie this afternoon. I was on taxi duty, but I had a lovely walk along the prom in Salthill while I waited. Harry Styles is playing in Dublin next week and we are going to that.

[Suzi]

Did she enjoy the movie?
The walk along the prom sounds lovely. How is walking atm? How's your pain? Thoughts?

[magie06]

Walking is crap. I'm walking with a rollator all the time now. Aisling enjoyed the movie.
We now have no kitchen. Our new one is to be delivered on Monday. We're off to look at paint and flooring.

[Paula]

Ooo fun! I love interiors shopping

[magie06]

I'll swap with you Paula. I hate shopping. Of any kind. But it's kinda exciting too.

[Suzi]

How are you finding the rollator? Are you finding it easier to walk with it? I found it easier when I gave mine a silly name ;)

Glad Ais enjoyed the film..
How are your thoughts atm love? Are you talking to your care team?

[magie06]

Oh yeah. I'm in regular contact with Bridget and all in Toghermore.
I'm just finding it very difficult to come to terms with the fact that I can't do as much as I used to. That's the worst thing.
This morning our new kitchen has been delivered, the kitchen fitter has arrived and the sky man is here to fit a new dish and install sky for us. It's good that it's all happening, but I'm very anxious because of all the strangers in my house.

[Paula]

I bet, I’m going to be having trades in for while starting next week and I’m anxious too. Can you get out of the house at all?

[magie06]

My car is blocked in by one of the vans ATM.
The sky man is very easy on the eye and has a sexy Aussie accent.

[Paula]

Niiiice ;)

[Stella180]

Good looking strangers who raise the heart rate (not through anxiety) are always welcome lol

[Suzi]

Can't wait to see before and after pics of your kitchen!

[magie06]

We've been to the tile shop (again!!) And I picked out the dearest tile in the shop. My poor husband needed resus afterwards! I nearly needed it myself because they were 80 Euro a square meter. So we went for a cheaper one.

[Stella180]

You really do have expensive tastes. I had to second check to see if this was Paula’s thread lmao.

[Suzi]

Wow! That's a big cost! Lol, but hey, you are definitely worth it! :)

[Paula]

You really do have expensive tastes. I had to second check to see if this was Paula’s thread lmao.

Cheek!

[magie06]

In my defense they weren't priced. The shop assistant had to ring another store to check the price.

[Stella180]

I don’t have excuse your taste for the finer things in life. Stay classy.

[Suzi]

In my defense they weren't priced. The shop assistant had to ring another store to check the price.
ROFL, I remember my Dad once saying to my Mum "If you have to ask the price then you can't afford it... Move on Judy..."

How's it going with people in to do stuff around the house?

[magie06]

The fitter thinks he might be finished by this afternoon. The plumber is to come on his way home to plumb in the sink. We are going away for a few days tomorrow, so the electrician is to come at the weekend to fit the oven and hob. DID lost our oven, so we've had to order a different one.

[Suzi]

That sounds positive, where are you heading? Somewhere nice?

[magie06]

Aisling and Gerry are going to Harry Styles in the Aviva tomorrow night. We are going to stay until Friday. We're going to go by train and my sister is going to drive us to the station.

The fitter finished this afternoon and we just have to wait for the plumber and electrician now.

[Suzi]

Are you not going to see Harry Styles? :)

[Stella180]

I saw something on FB saying his level of showmanship is on par with Freddie Mercury. I don’t buy that for a minute but it’s a positive review

[magie06]

The two people have gone off to the concert. My daughter in her first of probably many lbd, my hubby in his dad uniform of tee and jeans.

We had a scare this morning when we got off the train and left a bag behind. Not just any bag, but -THE- bag with concert tickets, reading glasses and my meds. But my meds were way, way, way down the list of reasons to be upset. The tickets took center stage and she wondered if it would be possible to have new tickets sent to someone's, anyone's phone by ticketmaster.
Thankfully, when they finished cleaning the train the bag showed up, and we were able to continue on our (relieved) way.
I know teens are prone to tears at the drop of a hat, but to see the tears of my baby, nearly broke me.

[Suzi]

Oh no, not THE bag! So glad that the bag was found and all is good! LBD? No way is she old enough! It's so strange when you get so know someone online and you see their babies growing up too!
Hope she has an amazing time and you all enjoy the break away x

[Paula]

Oh wow! Not the way you all wanted this day to start. I’m glad it got sorted - have you been able to relax?

[magie06]

Don't worry Suzi, her dad had a zip up under his arm to wrap around her when they went out in public. (rofl) Dad's!!! Who'd want them!

[magie06]

I've brought my sewing with me. I've started on my (Christmas) whisper, stockings, so I've lots to keep me busy. I'm going to hit the hay shortly. I won't sleep until they get back, but I have a good book to read.

[Suzi]

Did she have a great time? Did she love it? I've heard he puts on a really good show.

What are your plans for today?

[magie06]

She really enjoyed it. Gerry not so much. She (he) spent 105 on merch, and she only got a tee and a hoodie. She had post concert blues this morning, but that was relieved by some retail therapy. I've come back for a rest, and the two of them have gone back to do some more shopping.

[Suzi]

I know when Fern went to the Conan Grey and they said that the merch was so expensive, and much more than it was on the website so they both thought it was really rude!

Retail therapy? Sounds expensive! I'm glad you're pacing and resting - as long as it's what you want to do....

[magie06]

I have enjoyed just having the place to myself for a while and reading. I don't do enough of that at home. Each time I sit at home, I see something else that needs to be done. This break has been wonderful. The only drawback is my pain levels are up again. But, I'll be okay.

[Paula]

I’m so chuffed you’re taking time out to just ‘be’. You deserve it!

[Suzi]

I agree, I think it's perfect and very much needed and deserved..

[magie06]

More shopping this morning and we're on our way home now. The train is booked out and very noisy. We have a hen party and a stag party competing to see who can make the most noise. :x

[Suzi]

Glad you had a good time lovely!

[magie06]

No pictures of my new kitchen yet because we are waiting for the floor and wall tiles to be done. I think the painter is due on Thursday, the tiler on Saturday.

[magie06]

I forgot to say, on Thursday when I was leaving back the mobility scooter that I had borrowed, while in the shopping center, the lady told me that she loved my hair. I haven't been feeling great about the way I'm looking, but this lady made me feel so much better about it.

[Suzi]

Looking forward to seeing the pics!
It's so lovely when someone gives you compliments!

[Paula]

I bet you look gorgeous, as ever!

[magie06]

Another busy week of trades coming and going all the time. We had the electrician on Saturday and Monday. The painter was due Wednesday but didn't come until Thursday. He was to come back this morning but didn't come until 2.30.

[Paula]

How much longer are they going to be around?

[magie06]

The painter is finished and paid. The electrician has to hang 2 new pendant lights. The tiler and the lino fitter still have to come.

[Suzi]

Wow, it's busy... I always hate that... But is it looking good??

[magie06]

I love it. I just wish it was finished now. We are three weeks now since the first press was taken out.

[Suzi]

That's not bad going love! Hope it'll all be finished this week!

[magie06]

Both myself and Aisling said that today felt like the first day of our summer holidays. So strange that we both felt the same thing on the same day. And we both wondered who will do the eulogy for my dad's funeral when he passes away. That was probably because we went to see him yesterday. He's fine, no danger of him passing any time soon.

[Suzi]

Did you do something nice to celebrate the start of your holidays?

[magie06]

I had a few jobs to do in town, chemist, school ware centre, and I called to our parish office to enquire about getting a Papal blessing for my sister and her husband who will be 25 years married at the end of the month. They got a blessing when they got married and I thought it would be nice to get another.

[Suzi]

I've never heard of a Papal blessing before! That sounds like such a special thing!

[Paula]

What a lovely thing to do :)

[OldMike]

That's brilliant :)

[magie06]

We took a trip to see Ashford castle this morning. It is still a beautiful place to see. Aisling was very impressed!

[Strugglingmum]

Sounds lovely

[Suzi]

I've just googled - WOW! That's a stunning castle!

[magie06]

One of my best friends in school, was 22 years passed yesterday. I was a bit down when I got up, but I didn't want to sit mopping around all day, so that's why we went for a spin.
The tiler arrived today so that's another bit of the kitchen finished.

[Jaquaia]

(panda)

[Suzi]

Sorry to hear about your friend lovely.
Glad that the tiler is finished!

[Paula]

(panda)

[magie06]

It's weird because she will forever be 31. She has been in my heart at that same age all of these years. And some times, I think I'm still the same age too. I liked being in my early 30's. So if anyone asks any more I'm going to say early 30's.

[Suzi]

Do it! Such a young age for her to pass. I hope you have many many happy memories of the time you spent time together...

[magie06]

I had an appointment in Toghermore this afternoon. I was to see a doctor, but Bridget told me last week that it might be postponed. I didn't receive a letter or a text to let me know, so I showed up. The receptionist told me when I arrived that it was cancelled. She told me she sent the letter herself. When she checked, she had sent the letter to the wrong address. There was a doctor free, so I saw someone, but it was a new doctor again. But I gave her the benefit of the doubt, and I need to see someone again in 4 months.

[Suzi]

Sorry, I hate it when things like that happen. How are feeling about appointments being 4 months apart? How are your moods/thoughts etc?

[magie06]

I'm delighted. I'd rather they space the appointments out, rather than just discharge me altogether, itms?

[Paula]

Totally makes sense!

[Suzi]

Absolutely a healthy way of thinking about it love. Totally get it.

[magie06]

The sun came out here today and it is just beautiful. So much so, that we decided to go to the beach. When we got there, it was very windy and cloudy. So we came home again and I sat out the front and finished my book. Then I got too hot and had to come back inside. Seriously, these hot flushes could have waited for a few months to kick in. My poor fan is going full blast to cool me off.

[Suzi]

I sympathise re the fan! Mine is on most of the time and it's meant to be between 30 and 40 oC next week :( Definitely not for me!

[magie06]

I think I might actually melt!

[Suzi]

I have the ceiling fan on, the windows open and my neck fan (which is surprisingly effective) and a hand held electric fan and a traditional one too! I'm trying to get prepared...

[Paula]

Whereas I’ll just have to cope with the Wimbledon hand fan I bought on Monday…. Can’t bear the noise of the electric ones!

[Suzi]

Lol.. Sometimes the annoying noise is well worth it!

[magie06]

Agreed Suzi. The sound is annoying but well worth it.

[magie06]

We were in Tayto park on Monday, and today is the first day that I feel normal. I was just very tired after all the driving. I find the day very long, as we leave home around 7, and don't get home until almost 8 in the evening. But the girls love it and I got a good dose of vitamin D. Aisling went to the new Thor movie yesterday and is actually going to her first disco tomorrow night. There is a strict age requirement for these discos and Aisling missed out on going, because of covid, so she's really excited about going.

[Suzi]

That sounds like fun!
Sounds like a good day for the girls, were you able to sit and wait while they were on rides etc? Did you manage to just rest for a couple of days? How's the kitchen coming along?

[magie06]

Oh better than that Suzi - they rent out electric scooters and we were there early enough for me to get one! So yes, I did rest while the girls queued and went on the rides.
The kitchen is just waiting on the lino. It's lovely and I have even cooked in it. That is just a minor miracle!

[Suzi]

Oh that's awesome! I'm so proud of you for doing that!
So glad your kitchen is almost finished!

[Paula]

Can we see pics when it done?

[magie06]

Course you can Paula.
Today is hot, so I'm sitting beside my fan that going full blast since about 10 this morning. I'm not made for heat like this.

[Suzi]

We've had a national emergency put in place for Mon and Tues next week due to the expected 38 -40 degrees! - schools are shutting and it's remote learning only.
I'm quite looking forward to leaving here and going to Wales on Wednesday for Ben's graduation, I hear the forecast there is 24 - 27 degrees with rain! I've already announced to Ben that I'll be the one in the very soggy dress after standing in the rain for a while!

[magie06]

I was silently hoping for rain today considering it's St. Swithins (sp) day. I know I learned a poem about it years and years ago, but I don't remember it.
St. Swithin's day if thou dost rain,
For forty days it will remain
St. Swithin's day if thou be fair
For forty days 'twill rain nae mair
St. Swithin's day if both rain and shine
Then thoust guess is as good as mine
Maybe bring an umbrella, though that's a fuss
And thou will probably leave it on the bus
Dispense with this areane Elizabethan yapp
Instead consult your preferred weather app.

[Paula]

(rofl)

[Suzi]

(rofl) (rofl) (rofl)

[magie06]

Went to see the railway children this morning. I used to love the tv program back in the day, and I thought the movie was brilliant. I have to admit though, that my eyes must have been affected by hay fever or something, because there was a lot of eye leaking!! Who was crying? Not me! I don't cry at movies! (rofl);((rofl)

[Paula]

Honestly, these people who cry at things like that…….(think).

Glad you enjoyed yourself ::)

[Suzi]

Oh I've heard people cry at things like that..... not sure who, definitely not me or Paula..............................

[magie06]

Or me. I don't understand people who have no control over their emotions!(rofl)

[Jaquaia]

(rofl)(rofl)(rofl)

[magie06]

My brother just showed me a photo of their back yard pool, and if anyone wants me that's where you'll find me.

[Paula]

Have fun! (giggle)

[Suzi]

Sounds perfect!

[magie06]

Today was hot, hot, hot. ATM I have my feet in what was cold water 10 minutes ago. I have cooked it to warm now!!

Aisling asked if we could go to Lahinch this morning so we just took off. We had a lovely day out, and we didn't come home until 6.30. It was a beautiful day and we stopped at the cliffs of Moher on the way back. It was beautiful, and I didn't have to walk up. They have golf buggies to bring people with walking difficulties up to O'Brien's tower. It is so nice up there and the view is outstanding. Aisling was impressed that she didn't have to walk up. She is so funny, because she was doing her best royal wave when we passed people. We had a great day. And it didn't cost much.

[Paula]

That sounds lovely!

[Jaquaia]

That sounds brilliant!

[Suzi]

That sounds like such an amazingly wonderful day!

[magie06]

Aisling told me that she really enjoyed herself and said thank you for bringing her.
Today is a recharging day for me. I have a few jobs to do in town but I'm making a list and will try to get to them tomorrow.

[Suzi]

That's awesome! I love hearing about the relationship you two have built together.

[magie06]

I don't know if I was just very tired or if I got too much sun yesterday, but I went to bed and slept for two hours this afternoon.

[Paula]

Probably a bit of both. I glad you listened to your body

[Suzi]

I completely agree with Paula! Glad you listened to what your body needed....

[magie06]

I'm still not feeling great today. I'm supposed to be meeting with a friend tomorrow morning for coffee. I hope I'll be able to go.

[Paula]

(panda)

[Suzi]

In what way not feeling well love? Can you have today as a resting/pacing day?

[magie06]

A sick stomach Suzi.
I met my friend this morning. It was lovely to catch up with her. I had a little gift for her because she's moving to Italy in the next year or so. We've been friends since school, and no matter how long it is between seeing each other, the time just melts away. It was a good catch up.

[Suzi]

Oh love, can you go back to bland "safe" foods for a while? Rice, steamed potatoes, broccoli, etc just to settle it for a while? It's what Fern and I have found to help as we both deal with ibs...

Are you going to be writing to each other? I love friends like that.

[magie06]

Oh yes. She has two little granddaughters and she moved to the other side of the country to be closer to them before moving to Italy.

[Suzi]

That's lovely. With things like WhatsApp you guys can still videochat etc... It's times like this when technology is wonderful.

[magie06]

She is divorcing her first husband, because she has been with her current partner for 6 years. Unfortunately her ex is dragging his heals and is making things very difficult for her. I hope for her sake, that the divorce goes through sooner rather than later.

[Jaquaia]

Are the divorce laws not similar to what the UKs were?

[Suzi]

Hope things all work out for her lovely..

[magie06]

I met my sister for lunch yesterday. She mentioned that we haven't been together as a family unit since mum's funeral. She asked if I could organiser lunch for just the siblings. So I've put the word out, and so far the boys (men) folk are up for it. Now I just have to find a Saturday that suits everyone. Someone is heading to Toronto, someone else is going on a cruise. It's just difficult to get 8 busy people to agree a date.

[Suzi]

It always is! Are you thinking of hosting everyone at your house? Could you make it easier and book a table at a pub/restaurant kind of thing?

[magie06]

It will be in a restaurant. I just have to get the numbers and the date.

[Suzi]

Good plan! You could try giving 3 dates and see how many can come to those?

[Paula]

Are you looking forward to it?

[magie06]

Yes. I'm really looking forward to seeing them all. I think we might go for the 20th August. Most people will be free then.

[Suzi]

Sounds great! :)

How are you today?

[magie06]

Not feeling great again. When I got up this morning I had a dreadful headache and I've felt a bit fluey all day. I'm going to have an early night and hope for the best for tomorrow.

[Jaquaia]

Do you need to do a COVID test?

[Paula]

Jess found the headache was the worse…..

[Suzi]

Oh I'm sorry lovely.. (panda) (panda)

[magie06]

I've just done an antigen test and it was negative. I just think my body isn't used to all the stuff I'm doing with Aisling.

[Jaquaia]

Then you need to build in time to rest. Do something at home like a movie day. Make an event out of it with popcorn and snacks.

[Suzi]

Jaq is totally right. Snacks, movie, rest but also spending time together..

[magie06]

I put a movie on this morning and she went to her room. I don't really mind because I know she is busy making arrangements with her friends. She's gone down to our local GAA (Irish sporting association) pitch to welcome home our football team. They played a final yesterday but lost out by a very slim margin. She's gone off for the day and I don't know when I'll see her.
I'm going to go to bed for a rest this afternoon.

[Suzi]

That sounds very sensible lovely. It's great that she's off out and about with her friends. It means you can rest and pace as much of today as you need to...

[magie06]

The Papal blessing that I ordered for my sister on the 7th July, was delivered on the 15th. My sister is delighted with it. The best present she's ever got. I'm so glad I thought of it.

I've booked the table for lunch for the 20th Aug. I've sent out the details to everyone and I'm just waiting to hear back from them.

[Suzi]

That's fabulous lovely about the Papal blessing. So glad it's arrived and is truly loved!
Have you heard back from anyone re the lunch date?

[magie06]

2 of my brothers have said that they are going to go. No word from anyone else.

[Suzi]

Give them time ;)

[magie06]

I had a call from 2 sisters this morning, to confirm they are coming. So 5 down 3 to go.

[magie06]

Oh my, oh my, oh my. This week is called race week in Galway. A special week for longer than I can remember. The only time I missed a meeting in normal times, was when I was very pregnant with Aisling. So, I bought tickets for my sister and I to go ages back. I'm a bit disappointed that I didn't enjoy it as much as I normally did. There was a lot of walking around that I thought would be okay because I had my rollator with me. But now I ache all over, and I won't be able to do anything tomorrow. Good night all.

[Paula]

Night hunni, I hope you plan an easy day tomorrow…

[Suzi]

Sorry it was hard for you love.
Are you having a recharge day today?

[magie06]

I need to go up town, but I was waiting for a few deliveries. Now I'm just going to have lunch and do town later.

[Jaquaia]

You know what Magie? I'm loving seeing you post more often!

[Suzi]

Me too! :)

[OldMike]

And me too.

[Paula]

Did you rest yesterday? How are you feeling?

[Suzi]

How are you today lovely?

[magie06]

I'm not great to be honest, but I wanted to get out of the house. Aisling and I went for a spin in the morning. Unfortunately I lost control of my bladder again. I was hoping to have lunch somewhere along the road so that didn't happen. Is it wrong to want what normal people have? Just to go out, have lunch and come home dry?

[Suzi]

What's up love? I'm so sorry about the bladder. It's not a cure, but could you wear incontinence or period pants? I know lots of people who do...

[magie06]

I'm looking into Tenna for ladies. I have the Always version but they're not that good, plus I get thrush from them.

[Jaquaia]

(panda)

[Paula]

(panda)

[Suzi]

I have always had the same issue with Always, bodyform are pretty good, although even Primark are selling period pants now... It's not a cure, but it would give you piece of mind and it'd be more subtle too...

[magie06]

We had our last summer bank holiday yesterday and the rain didn't let up all day. So this morning, Aisling and I went to Limerick for a days shopping. Aisling had a brilliant day and I stocked up on 4 new books. I'm off to bed to jump into a new book.

[Paula]

Typical bank holiday weather then?…

[Suzi]

Is the book good?

Glad that Ais had a good time shopping!

[magie06]

I had to finish up one book first, and that fell out of my hand last night.
I bought a change of clothes with me yesterday and I wore a pad. I also brought a bed sheet type of pad in case I was still in the car and had another accident. Thankfully I didn't need to change and my car survived too.

[Paula]

Have you talked to anyone about this recently?

[magie06]

Not recently Paula. I haven't seen my own GP and it's difficult to bring up with someone who doesn't know me very well.

[Suzi]

Glad that you didn't have to change yesterday lovely. I agree with Paula - have you spoken to anyone - or are you keeping track of how often/badly it is happening?

[Paula]

Is it worth ringing up your gp surgery and asking to be referred to the incontinence clinic?

[Suzi]

Sweetheart what about calling to see when the next appointment would be to speak to your own GP?

[magie06]

I was thinking of trying to make an appointment with her soon. My B12 is due for the end of the month, so if I have to wait 2 weeks, to see her, it would be nearly due.

[Suzi]

I think that sounds like a really good idea love.

[magie06]

I made my appointment this morning. It's not until August 25th. The receptionist asked me why I was making the appointment, and I just told her that I wanted to see Dr Ann.

[Suzi]

I'm proud of you! Were you able to ask for a cancellation with Dr Ann if one became available?

[magie06]

Yes. I left my number, but I'm not very confident that they will ring.

[Suzi]

It's really positive that you've called for an appointment and that you've left your number. It's not that long ago that you would have struggled with that. I'm so proud of you lovely. I hope they do call, but you do have an appointment booked so each day gets closer to that appointment.

How are things with organising your family meal?

[Paula]

Well done, love!

[magie06]

The table has been booked for Aug 20th for 1.30. I have booked it for 8 people because no one said that they couldn't come. I sent the message that if they couldn't come to get in contact with me. I didn't get any replies, so I went ahead and booked.

[Suzi]

That sounds perfect!

[magie06]

I'll be sending out reminders nearer the time.

[Suzi]

How are you feeling love?

[magie06]

I'm okay. As the evenings are getting shorter though, my mood is dropping a bit. But I have recognized it happening, and I'm trying to get more vitamin D. I'm also trying to get more sleep and eat better. Last night Aisling and I went to the beach at 8.30 to watch the sunset. It was beautiful! The moon on one side and the sun turning the sky such beautiful shades of pinks, oranges and purples. It was on Aisling's wish list for the summer.

[Suzi]

That sounds lovely! What a special night to remember! I'm really impressed that you've noticed it and are doing what you can... Are you still talking to Bridget?

[magie06]

Yes. She was off for most of July, but is back now. I just called her this morning and told her how I feeling and what I was doing about it.

[Paula]

How magical an evening to share with your baby!

[Suzi]

I'm so proud that you're calling and letting Bridget know what's going on. You really are awesome.

[Strugglingmum]

I love watching a sunset....but watching it with your daughter is even more special. Xx

[magie06]

Paula my baby will be 16 on Wednesday. Not a baby anymore. ;(

[Paula]

But always your baby :)

[Suzi]

Definitely still your baby... My eldest baby will be 22 in Jan, my middle one 19 at Christmas, and my youngest 18 in March. They are all my babies - in fact each night just before I go to bed I call out "Goodnight babies" and they all reply!

How are you today lovely? Do you have anything lovely planned?
How's G?

[magie06]

We're going birthday party shopping. Plus we're calling on an aunt for coffee.
G is good. Working away and can't believe that we don't have a mortgage anymore.

[Suzi]

Oh yay to no mortgage!
Working away? How long's he been gone? When's he due home?

What's Ais having as her party?

[magie06]

Sorry, it's just a turn of phrase. He's still a postman. He still comes home every afternoon. He still gets up at crazy o'clock, but sleeps in the afternoon.

[Suzi]

Ahh, makes sense! :)

What've you been up to today?

[magie06]

Went to visit an aunt of mine. Bought some foil balloons for the party, and then bought a great big chocolate cake.

Then I got a terrible bit of news. My closest sister is to start treatment for lung cancer. She's had a cough on and off for months, and had 2 different scans. They found something sinister and she's having a biopsy next week.

[Paula]

Oh no, I’m so sorry love. I hope and pray they’ve caught it early and it’s treatable (panda)

[magie06]

She is so positive saying it may be scaring from previous chest infections. But she is so scared. I'm trying to process it, so I may be in a bad mood for a day or two.

[Strugglingmum]

So sorry to hear about your sister. Sending hugs. X

[Jaquaia]

Sorry to hear (panda)

[Suzi]

Oh love, I'm so sorry to hear that. Will you allow us to help support you and keep us informed?

[magie06]

Yes please Suzi. Sarah doesn't want Aisling to know as she hasn't told her boys yet. She wants to tell them together and as we all know getting them together can be difficult. This is where I can vent and talk about everything.

[Suzi]

Please do love. You know we'll be here every step of the way x

[Jaquaia]

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[Suzi]

How are you doing love? News like that is so hard... Does she have someone going with her when she has the biopsy taken?

[magie06]

I have offered to go with her. My baby is very amusing today. She stayed up until midnight so that we could wish her a happy birthday. She's been getting things ready since she got up. There are enough soft drinks in the fridge to feed an army. The balloons are up, the cake has candles, and we have ice cream in the freezer.
Otherwise, I think I twisted and turned so much last night that I woke Gerry each time. So much going through my head. Of course because the news is so new, the thoughts are all worse case scenario.

[Suzi]

Happy birthday to Ais! Can't believe she's 16! So grown up!

Do you want to talk through those things in your head? As and when you are ready.

[magie06]

I'm not sure of what way these thoughts will come out. I'm trying to challenge the nasty thoughts and put a more positive spin on them itms? I'm going to go out for a walk in a while because that helps to clear my head. I'm not sure how far I'll get because pain levels are high ATM.

[Paula]

Happy birthday Ais!

I always find my pain levels are higher when I’m stressed….

[magie06]

Me too Paula.

The sweet 16 party has finished. Everyone went happy and full and we can put the house back to normal.

[Suzi]

And me...

Hunni, get those out of your head in whatever jumble they come in...

[magie06]

Just all the why questions at the moment. Why her, why lung, why now?

[Jaquaia]

(panda)

[Suzi]

I don't have the answers, but I know that I'm going to be with you as much as I can be love. Lean on us and give us as much of your worry as you can. I mean it... You aren't alone, we may not be there in person, but we're here...

[magie06]

Night all.

[Paula]

Night, lovely

[Suzi]

How are you this morning lovely?

[magie06]

I'm okay. I slept through the night, so that's a bonus. Today is a day for taking things easy. I have no plans, only out my feet up and drink cold drinks all day.

[Paula]

Sounds like a plan :)

[magie06]

Did I say that it's hot. Very hot.

[Strugglingmum]

Oh Magie.. we are bot built for his heat in Ireland!!
I took my dog to the beach so we could cool off a bit but I'm home now and putting my feet up for the afternoon with crochet and TV

[Suzi]

It's very hot here too! Definite feet up and cold drinks!

[magie06]

The basin with cold water is coming out very soon. My feet have swelled up to a nice balloon shape now.

[Suzi]

I sympathise! Mine are balloons too!! Hope they've gone down now and you're rested...

[magie06]

On our way to Achill. I'll be out of range soon. I'll take lots of photos and talk again tonight.
We have met with 4 different sets of roadworks already. We've stopped for ice cream because it's so hot. About another hour to go.

[Paula]

Have a wonderful time!

[Suzi]

Hope you're having the most amazing time!

[magie06]

We've had a lovely day out. We've stopped for food on our way home. I needed help to get back to the car, and I almost blacked out when I got there. Then when we were leaving the beach I had to reverse down a very narrow road and I got stuck in the ditch. 5 people had to get me out. But, I DIDN'T panic and we're now on the "right side" of the crappy roads. (i.e. they are behind me.) We should be home around 7.30.

[Suzi]

Oh no! Was it pain that caused you to need help and to feel that you were going to blackout? That's horrible. So glad you had people around you to help. I'm so proud of you that you didn't panic and you haven't allowed those small incidences to ruin your day!

[magie06]

Yes Suzi. My back was in spasm. I could hardly move.

[Suzi]

Oh love, that's so horrible. I really feel for you. It seems to be a steep decline in your mobility... I totally empathise with that... So glad you managed to have a good day - I assume tomorrow is a recharge day?

[magie06]

Oh yes. I'm not going further than my sitting room, beside my fan.

[Paula]

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[Jaquaia]

Here you go Magie! Stunning photos!

https://www.dropbox.com/s/lw64qbskeb5j1kb/img_20220812_140748834.jpg?raw=1
https://www.dropbox.com/s/oouzxvfab4o5t1d/img_20220812_161114168_hdr.jpg?raw=1
https://www.dropbox.com/s/kmn02sorfmvqmxa/img_20220812_161115456_hdr.jpg?raw=1

[Paula]

Wow! Gorgeous

[magie06]

We really had a great day. Aisling was worried about me though. She was going to ask the lifeguard for help. All I needed was a bit of a breather and some water.

[Suzi]

Stunning!!

I know it's scary for kids, but actually telling them what you need at that moment to get through can be really good for them. I've found it really helpful for mine to understand and so they don't panic. It's made it easier for me to go out and about with them.
For example, if I'm struggling with stairs - Fern wanted to follow me up them, Marc said no. He said "what would you do if she fell?" Fern answered "catch her" Marc said "Nope, if you did then you'd end up both of you hurt, I'd push her forwards..." Also just knowing that sometimes just stopping for a moment or sitting with a drink actually makes it so much easier than saying "I need help" or "I need to stop."
Might be worth talking around some coping strategies with her? We've always tried to make it a bit of a joke and taking the p*ss out of the situation - the same as we did when Marc was having panic attacks. Them having some strategies helped keep them calm and made it not so panicky for them itms? It's also really helped when they've had friends who are struggling or when they are... Knowledge is power and all that...
The other thing I've done is I've bought some cards from a friend who owns and runs https://stickmancommunications.co.uk/ (https://stickmancommunications.co.uk/) which say what issues I may have such as fibro, issues with temperature regulation, need to not stand still etc which I have clipped to my sunflower lanyard so I can a) just push them at someone if I've "lost my words" b) they allow time and understanding... Might be another thing to help. Hannah makes them for physical and mental health issues. She has EDS herself, so really understands so much!

[magie06]

Those are great ideas and I will certainly look into them. Thank you.
G and Aisling have gone to Galway but I stayed home. I'm still not 100% so I thought it was better to stay put. I have cold drinks to hand and my fan going fully.
One thing that came out of yesterday was that Aisling emailed the transition year head, and asked if they could learn sign language, because one of our helpers yesterday was deaf and while we were being helped, Aisling looked up how to say thank you on Google. She thinks it will help more than learning Chinese.

[Paula]

What a wonderful idea - and what an amazing young woman you have raised :)

[Suzi]

That's fab! There are loads of really good videos on youtube if it helps. I used to know a lot of British Sign, but I'm more fluent in Makaton now ;)

[magie06]

Aisling and her ex-boyfriend have arranged a visit to Dublin next Wednesday. I don't mind her going, but I'm nervous at the same time. G wants me to go with them, so it looks like I'm off to Dublin next Wednesday.
In other news I've changed the position of my fan, and it's now right in front of my face.
My nextdoor neighbours had their family around yesterday. Our bedroom windows were wide open. It was lovely to hear the laughing and talking that was going on.

[Suzi]

Do you want to go with them? Are you planning on going around with them or staying cool in a coffee shop?

[magie06]

I'll find the nicest coffee shop with the best a/c and plonk down for the day.

[Suzi]

Take a book and some knitting! :)

[magie06]

We have rain!!

[Suzi]

Send it over to me!

[Paula]

So jealous….

[Suzi]

Morning love, how are you doing?

[magie06]

I'm okay. I collected Aisling around 10.30 last night. She was supposed to be on a sleepover. Aisling doesn't like sleepovers. I dropped her back out this morning and have just picked her up again.

[Paula]

Jess never liked sleepovers either

[magie06]

I'm just home again. My sister had the biopsy today, and another scan, and now they think that it's a benign tumor. We are both relieved.

[Suzi]

Mine have always preferred to have people here to sleep over too..

Such a relief about the biopsy!

[Paula]

That’s wonderful news!

[magie06]

I'm so relieved.

[Suzi]

I'm not surprised...

What's on tomorrows agenda?

[magie06]

Hopefully we can have a quiet day. I must have been holding my breath since last week and didn't realize it.

[Paula]

What’s on the agenda today?