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That sounds like someone who was thinking of other things at your appointment..... when’s your next one due?
Jaquaia
16-01-21, 07:18 PM
Probably 6 months.
Will you call and go earlier if we/J thinks you should?
Jaquaia
16-01-21, 09:04 PM
I will try, the helpline isn't great really.
Persevere with it until you get some help?
I know you don’t like making a fuss, but this is important - not just for you but for J and the kids too
Jaquaia
17-01-21, 02:09 PM
I may end up killing all 3 of them yet so that won't be an issue!!!
Well, I’m feeling that way about Si today so let’s just hope we’re cellmates ;)
Jaquaia
17-01-21, 05:33 PM
Oh :( Not a good day?
It's a 3 kids kind of day!
Well, I’m feeling that way about Si today so let’s just hope we’re cellmates ;)
We can share books! (giggle)
(rofl) I'm having a 3 kids, 1 husband and 3 dogs kind of day so I sympathise!
Stella180
17-01-21, 06:09 PM
The joy of living alone with a lazy pooch lol
Jaquaia
17-01-21, 06:46 PM
The cats not stupid, I've only seen him today when food was on offer!!!
Jaquaia
17-01-21, 10:30 PM
Oh bloody hell! Just sat and read through my iCMA (computer marked assignment)... kill me now??? 2X2 ANOVA, factorial ANOVA, sphericity, homogenity of variance... if you don't understand a word of what I just wrote, imagine how I'm feeling as neither do I!!!!
Stella180
17-01-21, 10:58 PM
Alexa, what is homogeneity variance and all these other words Jaq just wrote?
Jaquaia
18-01-21, 08:46 AM
Exactly!!!
Oh bloody hell! Just sat and read through my iCMA (computer marked assignment)... kill me now??? 2X2 ANOVA, factorial ANOVA, sphericity, homogenity of variance... if you don't understand a word of what I just wrote, imagine how I'm feeling as neither do I!!!!
I understood the first bit, but the rest went straight over my head...
Alexa, what is homogeneity variance and all these other words Jaq just wrote?
(rofl)I had exactly the same thought! (rofl)
Morning love, how are you?
Jaquaia
18-01-21, 10:03 AM
That's exactly why I chose text-based as I hate statistics!!!
I'm ok, tired! We need to go up to bed earlier but been binge-watching The Mentalist around studying. Part of me thinks that J has chosen it deliberately as watching an episode means I'm sat resting for an hour...
Is the Mentalist good?
Sounds like J knows you rather well.. How's the drinking going?
Jaquaia
18-01-21, 12:13 PM
I'm really enjoying it, and it has Simon Baker in, who is ridiculously attractive!!!
He probably knows me better than anyone. Drinking isn't going great but he'll start nagging me about it soon!
Hmm..... Subtle hint needed?
JAQ DRINK!!!!
I've never watched The Mentalist....might just catch an episode to see. Have a good one!
Jaquaia
18-01-21, 02:01 PM
J has got me another drink, it's very rare he asks me!!!
Well thanks to our amazing friend who has shared her Disney+ login, we're going to be watching Soul with the children and popcorn tonight! They both chose it as they're good behaviour treat!
Jaquaia
18-01-21, 02:19 PM
I think I'll need the distraction as my uni work is (swear)(swear)(swear)(swear)ing hard going today
Oh love (panda) Pacing it might be the better option?
Jaquaia
18-01-21, 02:33 PM
It wouldn't make a difference. It's the topic that's the issue.
Can you get some wise words from your tutor?
Jaquaia
18-01-21, 06:00 PM
Oh.... What's the topic?
Sexual assault and abuse. This block is sex and sexuality in mental health. I've found parts of it incredibly triggering.
Still got sexuality in the therapy room, paraphilias and sex work to go, which will hopefully be easier.
Can you get some wise words from your tutor?
It took her long enough to reply to an extension request!
Oh hunni, are you able to take it bit by bit and give yourself a break and something nice?
Strugglingmum
18-01-21, 08:23 PM
Very tough topics. (panda)
Jaquaia
18-01-21, 08:38 PM
We've watched Cinderella and some of the Pixar shorts, and just watching some more of The Mentalist before I do some more work. Going to focus on the psychology module tonight, it might be difficult but it doesn't leave me feeling like my skin is crawling...
That has to be a good thing...
Jaquaia
18-01-21, 09:37 PM
I just feel exhausted now.
Strugglingmum
18-01-21, 10:08 PM
Time to finish for the day??
Jaquaia
18-01-21, 10:28 PM
Probably is. I'm making so many mistakes in my notes today.
(panda) is there any chance you could take today off and be kind to you?
Jaquaia
19-01-21, 08:42 AM
Not really. I have a 2 hour tutorial this morning and need to be looking at my assignments. I have so much to do it's a little overwhelming but I will take breaks.
Definitely take breaks. Can you ask for an extension if needed?
How are your hands today?
Jaquaia
19-01-21, 09:57 AM
I can if needed but I'm nearly up to date with this module though so it will take some pressure off.
Well done love. You're working so hard!
Jaquaia
19-01-21, 10:09 AM
6 months and I'm done, so a little hard work will be worth it.
Done as in degree finished?
Stella180
19-01-21, 10:48 AM
You’ve done a fantastic job so far and the finishing line is in sight. A bit push and you’ll be there. I have every faith in you.
Strugglingmum
19-01-21, 10:55 AM
You are amazing and yip, all the hard work will be worth it.
Jaquaia
19-01-21, 12:35 PM
Thanks ladies.
Suzi, yep! I'll hopefully be starting my MSc in October, which is a scary thought! Always wanted to do postgrad study but wasn't convinced I'd be capable.
Look at what arrived this morning from the wonderful magie!
https://www.dropbox.com/s/3rgvo6jhhx4wp8d/20210119_121109.jpg?raw=1
Stella180
19-01-21, 12:48 PM
Love that!
Jaquaia
19-01-21, 12:49 PM
It's stunning!!! Gutted I have to wait almost a year to use it!
magie06
19-01-21, 02:10 PM
So sorry that it was late for Christmas 2020. Just with everything, I didn't finish on time.
Jaquaia
19-01-21, 03:02 PM
It's absolutely beautiful Magie, I'm glad you put my name on it or I may have had to fight A for it! You really are talented
Wow Magie, I think its a shame you downplay it by saying you did not finish in time. You put a lot of effort and thought into this and its a work of art!
magie06
19-01-21, 03:06 PM
Jaq tbh I wasn't sure about putting your name on it. I considered leaving it blank.
It truly is amazing. Every stitch looks beautiful! You really are so kind.
Jaq - that seems mad that you're almost finished. I remember you being so unsure as to whether you could do it or not!
Jaquaia
19-01-21, 03:21 PM
Wow Magie, I think its a shame you downplay it by saying you did not finish in time. You put a lot of effort and thought into this and its a work of art!
Exactly!!! It's so beautiful! I've shown everyone!!!
Jaq tbh I wasn't sure about putting your name on it. I considered leaving it blank.
It's absolutely stunning, I feel very blessed and honoured that you wanted to do that for me.
It truly is amazing. Every stitch looks beautiful! You really are so kind.
Jaq - that seems mad that you're almost finished. I remember you being so unsure as to whether you could do it or not!
It feels like it's gone so quickly! Definitely going to stick with part time for my MSc. Only issue is deciding which one as seen on at Anglia Ruskin now too! Need to spend some time going through it properly.
Jaquaia
19-01-21, 09:20 PM
86 on my last assignment!!!! So chuffed with that!
Stella180
19-01-21, 09:54 PM
Way to go Jaq!
Jaquaia
19-01-21, 09:59 PM
My feedback is awesome, and I've even emailed my tutor back to answer some questions she asked and let her know how difficult I've found some of the work.
Strugglingmum
19-01-21, 10:23 PM
You should be chuffed, you work so hard. Well done!!
Of course, we all knew you could do it ;). Perhaps you’ll believe it now?
Jaquaia
19-01-21, 10:51 PM
No need to be smug! :P
To be honest, I surprised myself! I'd thought I'd missed the focus of the question completely!
Well done Jaq!! Fantastic result....clever old thing you! Just goes to prove that 'what you put in you get out'.(clap)
Woohoo!!! Well done love!!!
What'cha up to today?
Jaquaia
20-01-21, 09:12 AM
More study. Didn't get much done last night as had to deal with T trying to boot J in the face and then having a temper tantrum and trashing his room when he was sent to bed. So A was late to bed, was late with stories as why should she miss out? So was a little stressed!
Oh no! What happened with T?
Jaquaia
20-01-21, 09:45 AM
J was playing around with him and instead of asking him to stop he tried stamping at his head a few times. I was livid with him, especially when he went upstairs and started throwing his lego around and slamming things around. We sent A upstairs to play around with her dollshouse while we brought him down to deal with him and I told him exactly what the consequences could have been if he'd connected with his dads face, including that if he'd connected with his dads nose a certain way he could have even killed him. I may have been wrong not holding back but I honestly have no idea how to get through to him that his actions have consequences and that lashing out like that is so unacceptable! It really was vicious, no idea how I didn't shout at him.
Do you know why he acted the way that he did? Not that it's an excuse, but maybe it helps if you find the reason?
Jaquaia
20-01-21, 10:40 AM
All we get is "I don't know". I've asked if he's punishing his parents for splitting up - no. Does he want me to move out so his mum can come back - no. I think it could be learned behaviour if I'm honest.
Is he having any counselling?
Jaquaia
20-01-21, 10:51 AM
No, I have to confess that it hasn't been sorted yet. Part of J's dyslexia is that he has short term memory problems, so I can remind him to ring and within 5 minutes he's forgotten, by which point I'm doing something else and am focusing on that instead. And he won't talk in front of his mum which means it has to be when he's here. It will get sorted as this cannot carry on.
No it can't... Esp if it's become violent...
Strugglingmum
20-01-21, 11:03 AM
My eldest struggled with lashing out.
There were various different reasons including being bullied and left out.
While he learnt to deal with frustration and anger and learning to control it, we gave him a punch bag. That was the only thing he was allowed to hit. It actually helped him let out all the stuff he couldnt verbalize at the time but in a controlled way.
Some people said we were encouraging him to hit things and shouldn't have done it but it helped him to stop hitting his siblings and walls, doors etc while he learnt other coping strategies.
Hitting the punch bag was acceptable behaviour, hitting anything else wasn't and would be punished. In a way I felt it helped because we acknowledged his frustration and need to let it out but he learnt there were boundaries too.
As he learnt other coping strategies and started to be able to talk about things more, the need for the punchbag became less and less.
Jaquaia
20-01-21, 11:13 AM
That's a possible idea! Thanks SM!
We've done that for Fern to try to help them to have a focus for their temper, anger and frustration. It does really help because it also helps get rid of all the energy and is exercise which boosts endorphins too...
Also don't forget that he'll be having a testosterone surge too and that was always the worst points for Ben and his anger too.
Jaquaia
20-01-21, 12:35 PM
I know. Have to admit I embarrassed him the other day, unintentionally, but part of me found it funny. He'd stuck his head round the door while J was getting in the shower and he came down and told me that he'd "seen daddy's bum, and even the hairy bits". I told him he'll be getting the hairy bits in the next few years and he went so red that I could have fried eggs on his cheeks! I just want to be open with them about how the body changes so they know they can come to us about any worries or concerns or just for reassurance! I don't want A growing up thinking periods are something dirty either.
Jaquaia
20-01-21, 03:03 PM
Telephone appointment Monday after school. Let's see how that goes...
Is that to speak to the Dr or counsellor?
Jaquaia
20-01-21, 03:21 PM
Doctor. He'll need referring to counselling
Jaquaia
20-01-21, 03:40 PM
Fingers crossed! As this is ridiculous really. We can't trust him alone in the same room as A as he winds her up, even if we're only in the kitchen
Jaquaia
20-01-21, 06:39 PM
Sat doing a bit of research and doing the MSc in Mental Health Science with the OU would give me 6 months off studying... what would I do with myself for 6 months???
Stella180
20-01-21, 06:58 PM
You'd have to go get a life lol
Jaquaia
20-01-21, 07:39 PM
But that would mean going... outside???
Stella180
20-01-21, 08:03 PM
I know. You’re already getting pretty good at that.
6 months off? You'd have to challenge yourself to do something different? Learn a language? Watch a box set? Catch up on your "to read" pile? (rofl) (rofl)
Stella180
20-01-21, 09:31 PM
Definitely catch up on the to read pile. If it fell over it would measure on the Richter Scale
Jaquaia
20-01-21, 09:45 PM
It's not that bad!!!
Yeah ok. Even I can't take myself seriously!
Stella180
20-01-21, 10:00 PM
(rofl)
Take a crash course in Astrophysics?(rofl)
Jaquaia
21-01-21, 09:16 AM
Actually... there's loads of free courses on the open learn site... (giggle)
Looking at the course outline, there's 4 additional books they recommend so it might be worth just reading them! Though looking at courses at Anglia Ruskin, Edinburgh and Wolverhampton Unis too!
Morning love, how are things?
Jaquaia
21-01-21, 10:20 AM
Not too bad. Tired, A woke us up at 6 as she'd had a bad dream.
Aww poor A. It's good that she comes to you to protect her.
Are you able to pace today?
Jaquaia
21-01-21, 11:35 AM
I need to study but won't be moving far from the table as my hip is hurting
Strugglingmum
21-01-21, 11:52 AM
Hope the pain eases. Xx
RA pain or have you done something to it? Can you keep it warm and move around gently ever so often?
Jaquaia
21-01-21, 12:44 PM
No idea, never been diagnosed with RA in my hip. I just keep getting a sharp pain through my hip
Could be a pinched nerve? Of course I am no doctor but thats what came to mind. But pain is bad enough. I hope it will fade soon.
Jaquaia
21-01-21, 03:17 PM
I'm not sure. The weird thing is it's not constant
Aww hunni... Is it easing at all?
Jaquaia
21-01-21, 03:57 PM
It was, then we went to pick up the children from school and it's started again. J went to give me a hug when we got back and I had to tell him to get off as the slightest downward pressure was making it worse
Maybe you need to talk to your doctor? How long has it been going on?
Jaquaia
21-01-21, 05:21 PM
A couple of hours. Last time it eased within a day
So this isn’t a new thing?
It really does need mentioning love, esp as it's a recurring thing...
Jaquaia
21-01-21, 05:38 PM
I've had hip problems off an on since my late teens, it's usually worse when my period is due, which would make sense as I'm due next week.
That's rubbish, but I get pains before I'm due too :(
Jaquaia
21-01-21, 07:01 PM
When I was first at uni, it would take me half an hour to get up as the pain was so bad I had to do it in stages. Sit up and wait for the pain to pass, then stand up and wait for the pain to pass. This is nothing compared to that.
Is it definitely hip pain and not ovarian cysts? That's how my friend describes it when she has a cyst....
Jaquaia
21-01-21, 08:25 PM
I was referred to rheumatology years ago because of my hip pain but the rheumty didn't even check my hip and just put it down to my weight
Which you’ve lost, so maybe it’s time to have that discussion again?
And, yeah, the one ovarian cyst that ruptured in me landed me in hospital and ended up with removing my tube. So it’s an issue, if that’s your problem....
I think it's definitely time to talk to your rheumy nurse and or your GP...
Stella180
21-01-21, 09:13 PM
It’s worth asking the question.
Jaquaia
21-01-21, 09:31 PM
I need to lose a lot more but I will keep an eye on it. Chances are I've tweaked it when out walking as the ground is really boggy here.
Morning love, how are you today?
Jaquaia
22-01-21, 11:04 AM
I'm ok, just tired. A scam call woke us up.
Yuck! I hate those!
What are you up to today?
Jaquaia
22-01-21, 11:31 AM
A bit of tidying but J will help, the washing and uni work.
Are you going to let J help with the washing?
Jaquaia
22-01-21, 01:05 PM
It's all sorted. Don't even need to swap it over as it's a washer dryer! Makes it so easy really. And he'll help put it away, he always does if he's here when I do it.
Good! I'm glad you're getting and accepting help!
Jaquaia
22-01-21, 01:15 PM
I don't get a choice in the matter!
Good. It's about time someone took charge of you!
Charge? Not sure she’ll let you go that far ;)
Jaquaia
22-01-21, 01:36 PM
It's easier to just give in when he's home as he's not above clipping me round the ear! Knew I shouldn't have taught him that bad habit...
He told me to get (swear)(swear)(swear)(swear)ed last night! He came in from his counselling session and said his therapist had said about learning to like himself. All I did was smile smugly...
Strugglingmum
22-01-21, 03:40 PM
(rofl)
Jaquaia
22-01-21, 07:29 PM
I could have saved her a job (giggle)
Oh! He said I can share this here; https://westhalton.wordpress.com/2021/01/21/model-railways-and-mental-health/
Modelling helps him massively and he's very open in the blog about how his mental health is affected. And not that I'm biased or anything, but he's a bloody good modeller! His therapists have said it's a form of therapy in itself.
That is so brave and honest! Well done J!
Strugglingmum
22-01-21, 08:29 PM
You've got a good one Jaq. X
Which is nothing less than you deserve. Xx
Jaquaia
22-01-21, 08:53 PM
He is pretty awesome. I just wish he could see it himself.
Jaquaia
22-01-21, 09:38 PM
Yeah but we're not talking about me! :P
Thanks for sharing. A well written piece and the amazing replies it got :)
I think the 2 of you make a great couple and from what I gather its hard for both of you to seen how amazing you both are. But you can see it in the other. Thats a great first step to happyness and seeing it in yourselfs as well.
I agree with Mira....you make a lovely couple.
Morning love, how are you doing today?
Jaquaia
23-01-21, 11:08 AM
I'm ok, tired but not as much so as yesterday. Hip is stiff but we've bought a mattress topper so hopefully that will help
Sorry you're still sore love, are you sure you shouldn't mention it to your medical team.
Jaquaia
23-01-21, 12:13 PM
Yes for now. The mattress is terrible. It was ok when I first started staying over and I had a great nights sleep, now you can feel the springs and I wake up with back ache.
What about a long v pillow. I use one when my hip is playing up and it does help
Jaquaia
23-01-21, 01:12 PM
I'll look into that!
It feels a lot nicer to lay on! I guess the test will be how we sleep!
Hope it works. Mattresses are so expensive to replace!
Have you flipped over your mattress lately? Might be time for a new one, they're important things considering we're supposed to spend a third of our lives in bed. Nothing worse than a lumpy one.
Jaquaia
24-01-21, 09:19 AM
We flipped it yesterday, but you can feel springs on both sides. The mattress topper has made it feel comfortable though, far less back pain and stiffness this morning and I'm not as tired.
Glad that the topper has helped.
What are you up to today?
Jaquaia
24-01-21, 11:31 AM
We're going for a walk! Love living so near open country
Strugglingmum
24-01-21, 12:50 PM
Good for you. Trying to get the motivation to take Katie out
Jaquaia
24-01-21, 01:27 PM
No snow but still very frosty. Knackered now, walked about 4 and a half miles. And we saw deer!!!!
Stella180
24-01-21, 01:29 PM
I have heard that there are deer around here but I’ve never seen them.
Jaquaia
24-01-21, 02:14 PM
Deer! This is parkland right at the entrance to the village
https://www.dropbox.com/s/fqp28l0xwwwnsfq/20210124_114502.jpg?raw=1
https://www.dropbox.com/s/p4uklonsg3dme4r/20210124_121417.jpg?raw=1
https://www.dropbox.com/s/r2xk91y1blo7v5o/20210124_122028.jpg?raw=1
And the other end of the village
https://www.dropbox.com/s/om7sxelv0utegg7/20210124_125943.jpg?raw=1
And there’s me thinking they were mythical creatures ;)
Jaquaia
24-01-21, 03:08 PM
Before I moved to a village my experience of deer was watching Bambi!
I live really close to Bushy Park and Richmond Park with the Royal deer in them! But I grew up right next to the New Forest where there are lots of deer too ;)
They are so majestic! Looks like you've had an amazing walk!
Jaquaia
24-01-21, 05:15 PM
It's a lovely walk, there's a public footpath through farmers fields that takes you up to the old railway line that ran between Beverley and Market Weighton and you can come out halfway between Cherry Burton and the next village.
I miss having walks like that right on your doorstep...
Strugglingmum
24-01-21, 06:50 PM
All sounds blissful.
No wild deer over here at all.
It’s all about the railways ;)
Jaquaia
24-01-21, 07:09 PM
I can sense the surprise from here (giggle)
(rofl) I'd missed that! (rofl) So, are you becoming a railway "enthusiast" too? At the point of trainspotting yet? Do you need an anorak and a notepad?
Jaquaia
24-01-21, 07:34 PM
:P no!!!! It's known as the Hudson Way now and is open countryside most of the way. It's fun when it's rained a lot as the patch after the main road is muddy. I've gone ankle deep a few times and the first time we walked it A lost her welly! (rofl)
Lol! Love it when they lose wellies! :)
Stella180
24-01-21, 08:34 PM
Do you need an anorak and a notepad?
Oh come on Suzi, real trainspotters have clipboards lol
How do you know that, Stella ;)
(rofl) (rofl) Is there something you need to confess to?
Stella180
24-01-21, 09:36 PM
Have you guys forgotten about Special Andy?
Oh and err, Aspie males love trains.
I don't think I knew that Special Andy liked trains.... lol
Morning Jaq, how are you today?
Jaquaia
25-01-21, 11:08 AM
Tired I think, and achey. Feel good for doing the walk yesterday though, and I even managed to read a couple of chapters of one of my own books while I had a bath!
Stupid question, but are you pacing today?
Jaquaia
25-01-21, 12:13 PM
Studying and we get the kids back today too.
Talking of deer.....Zoe gets them in her garden every night as they come down from the hills to feed in winter....her garden is a write off, they've eaten all her plants and trampled the lawn to a mud bath. I think they're beautiful creatures but they're very destructive. Another neighbour has a rifle and bags the odd one, butchers it then distributes it to the neighbours! Very low in cholesterol and costs nothing.
Studying and we get the kids back today too.
I can never remember when you have them and when you don't - sorry! :)
Jaquaia
25-01-21, 02:28 PM
It's fine! I only remember because I have J's roster saved to my calender!
I moved my lavender. It's started dying at the back so assumed it hasn't been getting enough sun. Hopefully it will revive!
One of mine seems to be dying a little too. Hope yours recovers love.
Jaquaia
28-01-21, 09:29 AM
Flying solo this morning as J is at work and as we're about to leave the house, A decides that she wanted to wear her mask too. We get to school, the teacher comes to the door to collect her and A's first words were "I've got a mask!"
Yes Moo, and you've also left me standing out here with your school bag and lunch!
Strugglingmum
28-01-21, 10:20 AM
(giggle)(giggle)
Jaquaia
28-01-21, 10:23 AM
She's so funny. She told us that she told the policeman about me, and they told J that she'd said that I live with them and I'm really nice and help her with her homework. She climbed into bed with us for hugs before we got up yesterday and told us again.
"But I didn't tell him you make nice yorkshire puddings in case he wanted some" (rofl)
Haha! The things they come out with! Bless her.
Awww Love the things they come out with!
Stella180
28-01-21, 11:28 AM
She’s a wise girl, can’t be having the local Bobby popping in for Sunday lunch lol
Depends on the local Bobby ;)
Jaquaia
28-01-21, 01:26 PM
He did absolutely nothing for me!
Depends on the local Bobby ;)
Oh that it really does....
Jaquaia
30-01-21, 10:34 AM
Suzi, A spotted the crocheted sprout and has asked for a crocheted carrot! (rofl)
Stella180
30-01-21, 10:58 AM
I love my sprout! His name is Cedric.
Suzi, A spotted the crocheted sprout and has asked for a crocheted carrot! (rofl)
I'll see what I can do.... :)
magie06
30-01-21, 11:34 PM
I've seen knitting patterns for carrots online. Suzi if you can't get one, I'll make one for her. (It might make up for the stocking?)
I love my sprout too...hasn't got a name though. A carrot is a great idea...A would love that. I might look for a pattern too.
I've found a crochet one, but go ahead Magie if you'd like to...
Jaquaia
31-01-21, 10:51 AM
You're all so lovely!!!
She's been lying between myself and J this morning, whispering to J that he can borrow one of her toy rings so he can ask me to marry him!
Awwwwwwwwwwww. Did he? (giggle)
How sweet is that...bless her little heart! She sounds a very loving little soul.;)
Jaquaia
31-01-21, 01:28 PM
Awwwwwwwwwwww. Did he? (giggle)
No! (rofl)
How sweet is that...bless her little heart! She sounds a very loving little soul.;)
She's awesome, a pain in the arse at times and currently looking like she's been rolling in mud, but lovely and very caring.
We always said that with Hazel you could put her in the middle of a mud pit dressed in white and she'd come out still dressed in sparkling white.. Fern on the other hand, put her in a completely sterile white room and they'd come out filthy!
Jaquaia
31-01-21, 03:07 PM
I've just had to brush it off her pillow! Instead of taking her leggings off straight away she climbed onto her bed. Mud everywhere!!!
Jaquaia
31-01-21, 03:49 PM
She is! She's said she doesn't want me to be her stepmummy, she wants me to be her real mummy
magie06
01-02-21, 12:35 PM
I found a really cute pattern. My knitting needles are smoking! (rofl)
Jaquaia
01-02-21, 01:47 PM
She's going to be so chuffed! Magie, you're absolutely awesome
magie06
01-02-21, 04:14 PM
Did you say her birthday will be on the 11th?
Jaquaia
01-02-21, 05:13 PM
I did, she'll be 6
magie06
01-02-21, 06:59 PM
I'll do my best to have it in the post so she can open it that day.
Jaquaia
01-02-21, 07:00 PM
You really are amazing. I can't thank you enough (panda)
Jaquaia
04-02-21, 12:13 PM
13/15 on my iCMA!!! So chuffed as it was an utter bastard!
Wow! That's awesome! Well done! :)
Stella180
04-02-21, 01:07 PM
pretty decent. Good job.
OldMike
04-02-21, 02:19 PM
13/15 on my iCMA!!! So chuffed as it was an utter bastard!
Woo hoo go you (party)
Jaquaia
25-02-21, 11:20 AM
Looking into Masters degrees and have requested information from Wolverhampton Uni. They rang me this morning despite me not having given them a callback window and as I wasn't expecting it I just sat and watched my phone ring...
Why did you just watch it ring? Problem with picking up the phone in general or with the concept of planning for a masters?
Jaquaia
25-02-21, 11:32 AM
More the first one, though the second one is scary too. I had an autoreply email when I sent the request and it asked me to reply giving the best time to ring back and I was planning on doing that today. If I knew when it was coming it would have been easier, that just sent my anxiety levels soaring. Like last night when the doctors rang about my covid jab, it showed up on my phone as who it was so it wasn't such an issue.
I get that, completely.... Ok, so what now? Do you call them back or reply to the email?
Jaquaia
25-02-21, 01:49 PM
Email back and give them a time, that way I know the call is coming.
Did you email them back with a time love?
How are you today?
Jaquaia
26-02-21, 11:43 AM
I haven't yet.
I'm tired but planning on doing an hours tidying in the front garden then studying.
I'm the same Jaq...I freak out if I'm not psyched up and ready for a call...hate being caught on the hop. Fingers crossed all goes well for you re the Uni. conversation. Given the current climate, i should imagine they'll bend over backwards to make sure they can accommodate all your wishes.
Jaquaia
26-02-21, 12:43 PM
Well they must be eager as they rang and emailed again today!
It's between them, Anglia Ruskin and the OU
Jaquaia
26-02-21, 06:50 PM
Need to speak to Wolverhampton first.
I'm used to the learning system with the OU, which is a positive. The tutors are supportive and they have a good extension system in place.
Anglia Ruskin is more pressure as it's a much sooner deadline so maybe not that one.
I think it's great that you are thinking about it all.
Jaquaia
26-02-21, 08:20 PM
I just need to get through this year!
Which you are going to do with bells on! :) You've got this.
So, what are the courses like?
Jaquaia
27-02-21, 11:59 AM
The OU course is in Mental Health Science. It looks at stress, anxiety, depression, psychosis and dementia and develops an understanding of them.
The Wolverhampton course is psychology of mental health and wellbeing. It looks at various psychologies, mental health online etc.
The Anglia Ruskin course is mental health. It looks at developing a deeper understanding of issues that affect mental health
They all sound fascinating
Stella180
27-02-21, 12:55 PM
The OU one sounds interesting
They do all sound interesting!
Jaquaia
27-02-21, 02:34 PM
I'm leaning towards the OU one but I will speak to Wolverhampton first.
Which one is going to be the best for where you want to be in your future career?
Jaquaia
27-02-21, 06:37 PM
They would all work I think.
Stella180
27-02-21, 06:56 PM
Just a thought but is it not beneficial to maybe take a year out to give yourself a break before throwing yourself back into your MSc?
Jaquaia
27-02-21, 07:43 PM
I'm leaning more and more towards deferring my psychology module as struggling to do everything
Stella180
27-02-21, 07:48 PM
I know you’ve had a lot on your plate lately but I would say if you can knuckle down get this year done it will be better for you it the long run and then if you need to take a break you can do that before moving on to the next step.
Is that what you want to do?
Jaquaia
27-02-21, 08:40 PM
I'm a quarter of the way through one module, should be more than half way through, and 3 weeks behind in my other module. I'm not sure how I can manage it.
Stella180
27-02-21, 08:42 PM
I have faith in you. Somehow you always come through. I believe you can do this.
Do what you need to. If you need to defer then do so...
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