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Stella180
07-03-21, 04:49 PM
That’s pretty awesome tbf.

Suzi
07-03-21, 06:17 PM
They're OK with your CRPS? That's f*ing amazing! :)

Paula
07-03-21, 06:56 PM
It’s only ok because I’ve spent the last 6 months desensitising my leg (tights, leggings, n ow jeans). I can’t quite believe I’ve managed it, actually :). And the cherry on the cake - they’re 2 sizes smaller than the last pair of jeans I wore, on the night I had my fall!

And Si was awesome - ‘it’s great to see you in jeans’ and ‘ they’re very slimming’. Success!

Butterfly
07-03-21, 07:00 PM
Well done on buying new Jeans, that sounds amazing! Proud of you, Paula (nod)

Stella180
07-03-21, 07:11 PM
Your hubby is so smooth.

Suzi
07-03-21, 08:01 PM
Go you!!! You're amazing!

Paula
12-03-21, 07:22 AM
It’s a cold house to wake up to today..... Si was screwing down some floorboard in the living room yesterday, before the carpet gets laid today, and has managed to put a hole in one of the pipes. Heating engineer is coming out this morning - we’re just hoping he can fix it before the carpet fitters turn up

Jaquaia
12-03-21, 08:23 AM
Ooops!

Suzi
12-03-21, 08:46 AM
Oh no! I hope you are able to get warm love...

Strugglingmum
12-03-21, 10:35 AM
Hope you get it sorted quickly.....not a day for no heat!

Paula
12-03-21, 11:09 AM
Typical! Centrica are on strike, the engineer that came was the only one in the area, so he couldn’t stay all day - which apparently is how long it’s going to take. Dynarod are here now so cross everything it’s fixable more quickly than estimated.... but we have hot water so I can finally have a shower lol

Suzi
12-03-21, 02:19 PM
Oh no! What a pita!
How's it going?

Paula
12-03-21, 05:13 PM
Well, the pipe is fixed but the heating wouldn’t start back up. Dyna are plumbers not heating engineers so couldn’t deal with it. Centrica can’t get back out til 20 April so we’re having to get another one out and charge Centrica. No idea when it’ll be sorted .....

Suzi
12-03-21, 08:09 PM
That's awful! What are you meant to be doing about heating until that happens?

Paula
12-03-21, 09:15 PM
Si managed to find someone who came this evening. He’ll pass the charges on to Centrica. I HAVE HEATING!

Suzi
12-03-21, 09:29 PM
Thank goodness for that! Well done Si and that man!

Strugglingmum
12-03-21, 09:38 PM
Hurrah!!! So glad.

Suzi
13-03-21, 10:09 AM
Morning love, how are you today?

Paula
13-03-21, 11:52 AM
I am warm!!! I’m so drowsy today though, no idea why as I had 8 hours sleep. Plan is to read my Barack Obama biography. It’s fascinating but American politics is so confusing, I can’t read more than a few chapters at a time before I’m too turned around to get much further. But I do know now what a filibuster is.......

Suzi
13-03-21, 04:13 PM
Do I want to know?
Are you up to date with meds etc? Could it be come down from stress? Did you rearrange to have your carpet fitted?

Paula
13-03-21, 06:12 PM
If you really want to know : https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Filibuster. American politics at its most ridiculous!

I perked up a bit so I’m fine. Carpets being down a week Monday :)

Suzi
13-03-21, 06:49 PM
Ahh yes, I know it as "stonewalling" :)

Hooray for carpets :)

OldMike
15-03-21, 09:05 AM
It’s a cold house to wake up to today..... Si was screwing down some floorboard in the living room yesterday, before the carpet gets laid today, and has managed to put a hole in one of the pipes. Heating engineer is coming out this morning - we’re just hoping he can fix it before the carpet fitters turn up

Always best to check for cables and pipes when screwing down floorboards ;) hope you've got it sorted.

Suzi
15-03-21, 09:14 AM
Morning love, how are you today?

Paula
15-03-21, 09:28 AM
Always best to check for cables and pipes when screwing down floorboards ;) hope you've got it sorted.

Cleverly, Si had watched a YouTube video which advised him to screw in right next to the nails the builders had hammered in as a precaution. Turns out, the builders had nailed into the pipe too, it just hadn’t gone all the way through. So he hadn’t done anything wrong - didn’t stop him beating himself up.

Suzi, I’m good

Suzi
15-03-21, 11:46 AM
Oh bugger! Poor Si!

Really good love?

Paula
15-03-21, 12:25 PM
Yeah, bored but ok

Suzi
15-03-21, 01:56 PM
No studying or cross stitch to do?

Paula
15-03-21, 04:18 PM
I’ve been studying all day. Its not it as if I haven’t got stuff to do. It’s fine, I’ll be over it tomorrow

Paula
15-03-21, 06:19 PM
We went to town so I could pick up my new glasses from the opticians. AND I DROVE - THERE AND BACK!!! (party)

Stella180
15-03-21, 07:23 PM
Bet it felt good to get out on the road.

Suzi
15-03-21, 07:25 PM
OMG That's amazing!

Paula
15-03-21, 07:53 PM
I know, right?! It was a very good feeling though I was shaking like a leaf lol

Suzi
15-03-21, 09:01 PM
How do you feel about doing it? Are you tired?

Paula
15-03-21, 09:09 PM
Shattered, but relieved :)

Suzi
15-03-21, 09:39 PM
So pleased for you love. Rest tonight please...

Paula
15-03-21, 10:09 PM
Aaaarrrrrrggggghhh. I’ve been telling Si for months he needs reading glasses (he’s 50 and even kids are commenting on it) but his stupid male pride won’t let him go for an eye test. He has never had an eye test despite me nagging for years! So, recently, he’s always tired and often, at the end of the day, feeling headachy and sick. Classic signs he needs glasses. Yet again, I’ve told him to make an appointment, yet again he told me to stop nagging him. Ffs go to the opticians, or at least stop whining that you feel ill, every single night! :@

Suzi
16-03-21, 09:07 AM
Bloody men huh?!

Paula
16-03-21, 09:03 PM
I *might* have lost my sh!t this evening. On the dog walk earlier I brought up the opticians again. He brushed me off, again. So I told him I was just trying to help him and I don’t know why he’s being so (swear)(swear)(swear)(swear)ing pig headed. Tonight, I asked him, for about the 10th time, to look at some rugs for the living room. For the 10th time he brushed me off. So I lost it. The man is as (swear)(swear)(swear)(swear)ing stubborn as a mule, and I’m totally fed up with being ignored. The rugs is one thing, they’re just rugs, but his eyes? So goddamn important!

Suzi
17-03-21, 08:12 AM
OO have you calmed down yet? Has he given in? Why won't he go to the opticians? Is he scared?

Paula
17-03-21, 09:03 AM
I have no idea why he won’t go. Except this is the man who, when he last went to the doctors about 10 years ago, their address on record was from a house we lived in over 10 years before that.... He’s not scared, maybe it’s just male pride?

Jaquaia
17-03-21, 09:11 AM
When my dad had to get stitches out about 25 years ago the doctors thought he was dead as he hadn't been in so long...

Suzi
17-03-21, 09:50 AM
Men! PITA's completely...

Paula
19-03-21, 09:06 AM
I’ve not been feeling great the last few days, and have slept more than I should. I put it down from reducing my coffee from 2 to 1 cup a day, as per doctor’s orders. But last night I clicked that I picked up my new glasses with a changed varifocal prescription on Monday and was told it’d take a couple of weeks to adjust...... ironic given I’ve been ‘commenting’ on similar symptoms Si’s been having :o

Suzi
19-03-21, 11:36 AM
Oops! It does take time to adjust and it makes your eyes and brain work harder in the beginning... It could be the coffee reduction too of course.. Are you sleeping properly? Drinking enough? Eating enough?

Paula
19-03-21, 01:27 PM
Sleep is a bit off - and I woke up in pain last night, which didn’t help. I’m drinking and eating - and today am having a day off the diet :)

Stella180
19-03-21, 01:51 PM
I’m a decaf girl. Could you switch?

Suzi
19-03-21, 02:53 PM
Which bit was causing you pain?

Paula
19-03-21, 04:04 PM
I have switched to decaf, for my afternoon cuppa anyway. I refuse to accept that 1 coffee a day will make such a huge difference to my hormones.

My knee. Though I’ve been given a different pregabalin brand so I don’t know if that’s had an impact.

Suzi
19-03-21, 05:24 PM
I notice a definite difference between brands...

Paula
19-03-21, 07:51 PM
Yeah, I’m going to see what happens when I next get a repeat. I’ve got a thumping headache so am going to have a very early night....

Suzi
19-03-21, 08:32 PM
Make a note of the brand - can you call your pharmacist and see if they can swap it for the other brand you have? Hope the very early night helps love.

Paula
20-03-21, 07:55 AM
I’ll call the pharmacy on Monday if things remain the same over the weekend. My headaches gone for now, but it’s been worse in the evening

Suzi
20-03-21, 08:05 AM
When do you take the pregabalin?

Paula
20-03-21, 08:06 AM
Morning and evening, around 6pm

Suzi
20-03-21, 10:01 AM
Fair enough, I take mine 6ish, 2 and 9

Paula
22-03-21, 04:29 PM
And....... relax


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Stella180
22-03-21, 04:42 PM
Oh wow! A complete change around! New carpet looks nice.

Paula
22-03-21, 04:46 PM
Thanks

Suzi
22-03-21, 04:49 PM
WOW! That's stunning!

Paula
22-03-21, 05:04 PM
We also had Jess’s bathroom floor done, only 2 years after we should have done it! It was a big job which needed lots of drilling, sawing etc. It’s been a noisy, difficult day with about 5 fitters in and out of the house. I’m shattered but so happy with the results

Suzi
22-03-21, 05:28 PM
So glad it's all done and you get to sit back and enjoy it. Are you planning any other redecorations?

Paula
22-03-21, 05:50 PM
We’ve talked about our bedroom, our en suite will happen when Si gets a job, and we might get the garden returfed

Jaquaia
22-03-21, 06:47 PM
It's lovely! But where do the humans sit?

Paula
22-03-21, 06:54 PM
Hence why we have 4 sofas in the house.....

Suzi
22-03-21, 07:40 PM
Sounds like you've some lovely plans!

magie06
23-03-21, 12:44 PM
How are you?

Paula
23-03-21, 12:49 PM
I’m ok, moods a bit up and down but I’ll live. Thanks for asking

Suzi
23-03-21, 01:43 PM
Want to talk about the moods?

Paula
23-03-21, 01:49 PM
They come and go. Last night, I should have been enjoying my warm living room but just felt flat. Today, I’m finding it hard not to clench my jaw. But, as I said, I’ll live

Jaquaia
23-03-21, 02:27 PM
Yeah you will, but it doesn't mean you can't talk about it if it will help.

Stella180
23-03-21, 02:29 PM
Maybe the reason you felt a bit flat was related to the living room being finished? I would imagine it’s been quite stressful and your raised anxiety became your new baseline cos it’s been ongoing for quite a while. Now it’s completed and the anxiety has dropped you’re feeling a bit lost.

Suzi
23-03-21, 02:50 PM
Yes you'll live, but why not talk about it too?

magie06
23-03-21, 04:30 PM
Your living room is beautiful. Even after all these years, I'm not sure I'd be brave enough to go for such a light coloured carpet. Now I want to do something with my house.

Paula
23-03-21, 11:19 PM
Your living room is beautiful. Even after all these years, I'm not sure I'd be brave enough to go for such a light coloured carpet. Now I want to do something with my house.

Thank you


Yes you'll live, but why not talk about it too?

I talked to my best friend for ages this afternoon. I’m not feeling great but it will pass

Suzi
24-03-21, 08:16 AM
Are you feeling any brighter? Can I ask is it mental or physical not feeling great?

Paula
24-03-21, 08:24 AM
Mental. Not quite as on edge this morning.

Suzi
24-03-21, 08:41 AM
I'm glad you're not as on edge today.... Want to talk about what's been bothering you?

Paula
24-03-21, 08:48 AM
Nothing, everything. There’s no real reason I can find for it

Suzi
24-03-21, 08:53 AM
Nothing and everything sounds like so much... Is it worth trying to break it down?
How is Jess?
Katie? Are you struggling with her and Dom buying their own home, making it more final that she's moved out?
Pain?
How are things with you and Si?

Jaquaia
24-03-21, 09:11 AM
Or just start with exactly how you're feeling. It might be a good starting point?

magie06
24-03-21, 12:35 PM
Thinking about you. Sending virtual gentle hugs. (bear)

OldMike
26-03-21, 09:16 AM
I'll send some virtual hugs too (bear) (panda)

Paula
26-03-21, 09:51 AM
Nothing and everything sounds like so much... Is it worth trying to break it down?
How is Jess?
Katie? Are you struggling with her and Dom buying their own home, making it more final that she's moved out?
Pain?
How are things with you and Si?

None of the above.....

I needed a couple of days out. Wednesday I was so on edge every nerve felt exposed and I knew I was a hairs breadth from exploding at anyone and everyone - poor Si got the brunt. I was even angry at my mum, and I never get angry at my mum (the last time was Christmas 1998!). Yesterday, I was close to tears most of the day. I do feel more myself this morning, thankfully. It has to be hormonal - and I saw the doctor last week so have been asked to do a symptoms diary for 3 months and then we’ll see

Stella180
26-03-21, 10:01 AM
I’m glad you are able to take some time out to look after you cos you are important.

Suzi
26-03-21, 12:17 PM
Oh love (bear) (bear) Do you need longer out? Are you back?
I'm glad you acknowledged you were finding things difficult and took some time out..

Paula
26-03-21, 01:31 PM
I’m ok, a bit flat but ok. Talking to my mum she said ‘ Yes, poppet, it does sound hormonal - I definitely remember those sorts of feelings raging through my body at times’. I’m keeping a diary and, if necessary, I won’t wait the 3 months to get another appointment.

In other news, Si has an interview on Tuesday (party)

Stella180
26-03-21, 01:51 PM
Oh wow! That’s good news. What is the position he’s going for??

Paula
26-03-21, 01:58 PM
Global Commercial Director

Stella180
26-03-21, 02:56 PM
Wow! That sounds very impressive. Fingers crossed he gets it.

magie06
26-03-21, 03:08 PM
That's great news. I'll say a little prayer for him. Who knows? It might work.

Suzi
26-03-21, 03:12 PM
It's great that you can talk to your Mum about things like this.
Congratulations Si!

Paula
01-04-21, 04:44 PM
I have finally seen Katie’s home (I was in the garden and needed a wee, so had to go upstairs ;)). It’s beautiful! And only took me 6 weeks.....

Stella180
01-04-21, 06:36 PM
I’m so glad you were finally able to see it. Good place to raise your grand babies? ;)

Suzi
01-04-21, 06:39 PM
So, it gets your seal of approval?

Paula
01-04-21, 08:53 PM
So, it gets your seal of approval?

Definitely!


I’m so glad you were finally able to see it. Good place to raise your grand babies? ;)

Well, it’s only 2 bed so they might have to move before the second one comes along ;)

Suzi
01-04-21, 08:59 PM
I'm so thrilled that you got to go and see them and look round the house!

Paula
02-04-21, 05:51 PM
Oooooooooooo we’ve had the man around to talk about the en-suite. We’re definitely going ahead (starting 10 May), so we’ve been picking out tiles, taps, sinks and stuff!! And, I let Si have the tiles he liked :o despite the fact they’re completely impractical lol

Stella180
02-04-21, 06:02 PM
How are they impractical? It’s a tile.

Paula
02-04-21, 06:35 PM
They’re not flat, so impossible to clean. I had to nix having them in the shower ;)

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Suzi
02-04-21, 06:41 PM
They're lovely! Sorry Paula!
Our tiles aren't flat in our bathroom and they bounce light around brilliantly.

Sounds so exciting! :)

Stella180
02-04-21, 07:25 PM
I see what you mean. Just have to make sure he does all the cleaning lol

Paula
02-04-21, 07:41 PM
Oh I know they’re lovely. I wouldn’t have let him otherwise ;)

Suzi
02-04-21, 08:45 PM
You're training him well ;)

Paula
02-04-21, 09:28 PM
Obviously ;)

Suzi
03-04-21, 10:48 AM
How are you today? Have your moods and anxiety come under control a bit more?

Paula
03-04-21, 12:22 PM
Yes, for now lol. I’m good :)

Suzi
03-04-21, 02:41 PM
Good to hear love, good to hear ;)

Paula
09-04-21, 10:28 AM
I had a really quiet evening and an early night. I’m not feeling great and my mood has really dropped again. So today is going to be a quiet, cross stitch day...

Suzi
09-04-21, 10:56 AM
Anything triggering it? Want to talk?

Stella180
09-04-21, 11:00 AM
Oh no. If you need some crazy bird to make you smile you know where to find me

OldMike
09-04-21, 02:38 PM
Any reason your mood has dropped or is it just one of those things that seem to happen for no reason. (panda)

Suzi
09-04-21, 03:24 PM
How you doing love?

Paula
10-04-21, 08:43 AM
Any reason your mood has dropped or is it just one of those things that seem to happen for no reason. (panda)


Anything triggering it? Want to talk?

No trigger, think it’s hormonal. I had no energy, no motivation. Slept half the afternoon. Not much better today but hoping I can do some study anyway. Not helped by finding out late yesterday that Si didn’t get the job.

Stella180
10-04-21, 10:00 AM
Oh no! Not the news you wanted to hear. Did they give feedback?

Paula
10-04-21, 10:54 AM
No, he missed the call and they left a message

Stella180
10-04-21, 11:00 AM
That sucks.

Suzi
10-04-21, 11:16 AM
They left a message? That's a really crappy thing for them to do.
Was it one he specifically wanted?

Will you pace today at all please?

Paula
10-04-21, 01:01 PM
Yeh, he really liked this one. But que sera.

Stella180
10-04-21, 01:12 PM
Is there anything else on the horizon that interests him?

Suzi
10-04-21, 03:35 PM
It's not very professional to leave a message on an answerphone though... They obviously don't have the class and are far from the level of management perfection. He's had a lucky escape from a firm with such a slapdash and quite piss poor company! :)

Paula
13-04-21, 05:56 PM
The last 4/5 days have been mood swing central - going from wanting to sob to wanting to punch someone. I’m feeling more myself today but I hate this!

Suzi
13-04-21, 06:03 PM
Oh love, would it correspond to cycle times? Are you keeping a note? For what it's worth I've been in tears at the smallest things today too....

Strugglingmum
13-04-21, 06:19 PM
I have definitely noticed that my mood is very affected by my cycle, more so now than it ever was. I know that with menopause I'm more susceptible but I was worse when I reluctantly tried HRT. Instead of just wanting to punch someone I frightened myself with the realisation that I was very close to doing it and had to actually stop myself. I have never been violent and it really scared me.
I really can sympathise, it really sucks. (panda)

Paula
13-04-21, 06:36 PM
It’s about a 2.5 week cycle atm. I’m keeping a symptoms diary, the doctor asked me to go back in 3 months but I don’t think I’ll last that long at this rate. We did talk about HRT patches at a very low starting dose as being on the pill in the past has screwed up my MH. But any hormone change has screwed up my MH in the past and I’m worried this could trigger things itms. Main trouble is, I haven’t had periods for 10 years so no way of knowing for sure if it is the menopause - and she doesn’t rate the accuracy of the bloods as she says hormone levels change from day to day....

Stella180
13-04-21, 07:36 PM
Just a thought but if you’re mood swings are hormonal is you suspect surely stabilising them will solve the problem. In the past the hormonal changes that you experienced crated an imbalance leading to your MH issues. This is actually the complete opposite situation

Suzi
13-04-21, 08:23 PM
Hunni, this is proving to be a really big problem for you. Please go and see your Dr. As Hazel's endocrinologist says - we are conditioned as women that we have to just put up with and deal with hormonal issues. That's rubbish, if there is something that can help then it should be given and tried.

Paula
13-04-21, 10:08 PM
If any of you ever doubted me when I said I can’t cook, this was tonight’s efforts.....

https://i.ibb.co/4TG0n2d/2-AF61-F1-C-D617-4974-94-D9-2-B096158403-F.jpg (https://ibb.co/r6SXR3s)

Stella180
13-04-21, 11:42 PM
Errrrmmm. What the heck was it?

Paula
13-04-21, 11:49 PM
Sugar free chocolate chip cookies. I added too much water....

Stella180
13-04-21, 11:52 PM
Bet they still taste ok

Paula
13-04-21, 11:54 PM
Nope...

Stella180
14-04-21, 08:51 AM
Oops! Let’s call it a trial run. The next attempt will be much better.

Suzi
14-04-21, 09:07 AM
I've made far worse I promise!

Stella180
14-04-21, 09:23 AM
You should post it in the FB group Rate My Plate Council Estate lol

Strugglingmum
14-04-21, 09:53 AM
Go full hell and make proper ones girl. Yes I know I know....diet but 1 decent tasting cookie has got to be worth the points.

Paula
14-04-21, 04:33 PM
So, my doctors were taken over by another practice on 1 April. Today, they’re closed due to ‘contractual issues’ and allegedly will be ‘advising further in 3 days’. I currently have a prescription request outstanding and, although I know it was authorised yesterday, I have no idea where it is in the system. I know I can call 111 if I need to, and I’m relieved I don’t actually need to see a doctor atm, but it’s putting my anxiety up.

Not helped by today being the anniversary of losing Polo. I’ve been tearful all day ;(

Suzi
14-04-21, 04:37 PM
I'm not surprised you're anxious about it lovely. You must be so worried.

(panda) for Polo. He was so loved.

All this with mood issues anyway, I'm so sorry love.

Stella180
14-04-21, 05:34 PM
Have you spoke to the pharmacy?

Paula
15-04-21, 01:58 PM
spoke to the pharmacy this morning and they have my prescription. I've decided to change surgeries. This may not sound a big deal, but I've been with this surgery since I was 3 months old. I haven't been in their catchment since I was 18 but I just didn't want to change. But I'm finally going to move to my local GP and have sent the online forms. It's been a very anxious decision for me itms and I'm still not feeling great about it but its the right thing, I think

Stella180
15-04-21, 02:18 PM
Hey I get it. I had to make that change a few years ago but with all the confusion going on you need to have the stability and security of knowing where you stand.

Suzi
15-04-21, 04:41 PM
I know how hard that decision is. At least you have a current prescription being sorted to tide you over.

Flo
16-04-21, 06:21 AM
It's a hard decision but for you, probably the right one. Go with your gut.

OldMike
16-04-21, 08:37 AM
A difficult decision but I think moving to a more local GP would be better.

I've been with the same surgery all my life even though I've moved further away, then the surgery moved further away but I've stuck with them, if there was a big change then I would probably go more local.

Suzi
16-04-21, 09:03 AM
How are you today lovely?

Paula
16-04-21, 01:01 PM
I’m fine. Had a nice pamper for a few hours this morning - first mani pedi after lockdown (party)

Suzi
16-04-21, 01:04 PM
Woohoo! So glad you got some pamper time!