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It's a wonderful part of the UK...it's just a shame that it rains so much there!.But the scenery is amazing.
I'm so glad you had such a good time lovely. But good to be home?
Jaquaia
05-09-20, 12:42 PM
Not really. It meant I had to face up to the washing! (giggle)
I have J off work sick now, he was up half the night being sick so for him to throw a sickie means he's feeling shocking so he's going to rest or he'll have me to deal with.
Stella180
05-09-20, 12:44 PM
Oh no! I wonder what caused it?
Jaquaia
05-09-20, 12:47 PM
Not got the foggiest. We've eaten the same so can't be that so probably just a bug he's picked up.
Stella180
05-09-20, 01:06 PM
Let’s hope it’s a 24hr thing.
Oh no! Hope he gets better soon and noone else comes down with it!
Jaquaia
05-09-20, 02:41 PM
The kids are with their mum until Tuesday which should help.
He's been parked on the sofa with strict instructions not to move much.
Ahh! poor devil. There's nothing worse than having that sicky feeling. Hope he feels better soon. I have to agree with you though, the worst part of a holiday is all the washing when you get home!
Hope you're not feeling ill love...
Jaquaia
05-09-20, 07:20 PM
I'm feeling fine! Tired as I've just finished the grouting, but ok.
Stella180
05-09-20, 07:30 PM
It looks awesome mate. Fab job. You any good with electrics lol
Jaquaia
05-09-20, 07:48 PM
Nah! Don't need to be! Got a brother for that! (rofl)
Stella180
05-09-20, 07:50 PM
Looks like I’m fitting my own double sockets tomorrow. Haha
Allalone
06-09-20, 12:03 AM
Sounds like you had a great time and the pics are fabulous. I’m a proud Cumbrian and pleased you enjoyed your time in this beautiful and often wet county!
Stella180
06-09-20, 12:08 AM
Is a county dart player my experience of the county are drunken evenings in Carlisle but omg it was fun
Allalone
06-09-20, 12:55 AM
That’s where I live and had many a fun drunken evening. Can you remember any of the places you played darts in?
Stella180
06-09-20, 02:56 AM
I don’t remember the venue but I do remember staying at the hotel opposite the Wetherspoons in Carlisle. The club on the corner which was banging and waking up with a kebab and chips I don’t remember buying �� Those were the days ��
Allalone
06-09-20, 09:37 AM
Sounds like you had a good time!
How's J feeling today? No more being icky dick I hope!
Jaquaia
06-09-20, 04:00 PM
He's not been sick again but thinks he has a chest infection as he feels exactly the same as he did last year when he ended up needing to go to A&E. Ibuprofen for the inflammation, paracetamol to bring his temperature down and he's ringing the doctor in the morning for antibiotics.
Oh no! well he has a decent nurse around! Strangely enough my ex step daughter suffered from chest infections and sometimes they were accompanied by vomiting. As soon as he gets some antibiotics let's hope he gets well quickly. Not much fun for you either. Maybe it's a blessing the kids aren't with you at the moment. You've got peace and quiet. I'll check in tomorrow and see how you both are. Have a restful evening.
Strugglingmum
06-09-20, 06:33 PM
Hope the patient gets well soon. X
Oh poor J! Is he a good patient or does he moan?
Jaquaia
06-09-20, 09:17 PM
He's behaving but really isn't used to being looked after when he's ill. He's not been looked after since he lived at home.
That's really sad.. I'm glad you have found each other.
OldMike
07-09-20, 09:22 AM
J get better soon (bear) (panda)
How's J doing today? You? When do your little people go back to school?
Jaquaia
07-09-20, 11:54 AM
J's feeling a lot better now but I'm still making him rest. I'm ok, just tired. The little people go back tomorrow, they're with Cruella tonight but we get to pick them up after their first day back.
I'm so glad you get to pick them up and they get you asking them and caring about how their first day goes etc...
Have you managed to rest at all?
Strugglingmum
07-09-20, 04:48 PM
Glad J is feeling better. Get some rest!!(panda)
Great that J is feeling better. The little 'uns will be full of chat!
Jaquaia
07-09-20, 05:57 PM
I'm sat studying. Todays topic is group processes. Already had a clip round the ear from J because of my drinking, or should I say lack of it... I get engrossed in what I'm doing and forget!
Oh hunni! You need to use that bottle Stella got you!!
Jaquaia
07-09-20, 08:38 PM
I have been when we've been out. Usually with orange barley, the lidl version tastes great!
Oh, finally getting to speak to the rheumatology physio about my ankles! I have a telephone appointment on the 17th. It's taken less time since referral to get an appointment with them, with covid, then it did to see the rheumatology OT!
Strugglingmum
07-09-20, 09:07 PM
That's great news
Stella180
07-09-20, 10:08 PM
Oh hunni! You need to use that bottle Stella got you!!
Yes Jaq, you really do. No excuses any more. All you have to do is fill it twice a day and keep it next to you!
Hooray! How are you today?
OldMike
08-09-20, 08:30 AM
I'm sat studying. Todays topic is group processes. Already had a clip round the ear from J because of my drinking, or should I say lack of it... I get engrossed in what I'm doing and forget!
I'm the same when I'm gardening time passes so quickly and the thought of drinks and food go out of my mind.
How are you doing lovely?
When does your course start again?...mine starts Oct.3rd. Tomorrow all the stuff will be displayed on the module website! Think I'll do a bit of reading too. Have a good day.
Jaquaia
08-09-20, 10:56 AM
How are you doing lovely?
I'm ok, just tired. And all the back to school stuff is affecting me again except I can't escape it now.
When does your course start again?...mine starts Oct.3rd. Tomorrow all the stuff will be displayed on the module website! Think I'll do a bit of reading too. Have a good day.
October 3rd Flo. But I have early access to one module, probably because they want our research choice in by tomorrow! And both websites open fully on the 10th. First TMA is week 2!!!
How are you feeling about starting?
I'm sorry you're struggling with the back to school stuff love... I know it's not the same, but have you had much input getting the kids sorted?
Jaquaia
08-09-20, 01:01 PM
I sorted school shoes, T's bag and lunch bag and got them both organised for trying on uniform.
I feel ok about the actual course work..the books are interesting. The only thing that I'm bothered with is the actual computing side of things. I've got my headset and have downloaded Adobe Connect for tutorials, but I've never had occasion to do anything online before. Also submitting TMA's electronically. I've seen the guides to it on the OU website. I have Microsoft365 installed, but I'm finding the instructions a bit daunting! Downloads/uploads every other sort of loads! Submission status', this button, that button! Everything has changed so much. Twenty yrs ago everything was submitted by paper. These days kids are born with a mouse in their hand instead of a silver spoon! My 8 yr old granddaughter has more computer savvy than I have! If I get stuck I'll have to phone the SST or computing guide help desk ...other than that Jaq, I'm fine!!(rofl) Blimey, you haven't got much time have you?
Re the kids...is it the mayhem in the morning getting them organised for school that's the problem? When mine were that age/ and Zoe's now...I'd get all their uniform and undies etc out the night before. Don't fall foul of the "We have PE today!" and the crumpled smelly mess rolled in a ball and stuffed in the gym bag! Tough! If they don't bring it home to be washed they can wear it and become a bigger smellier mess!! They learned how to make up their own lunch boxes (with me watching) the night before too and they would go in the fridge. I learned that yogurts were a big mistake!...they used to ooze like ectoplasm out of their boxes and had to be washed out every day! The 'have you any homework?' was a daily ask, otherwise they'd conveniently forget! Projects too! "When is it due in?" TOMORROW!! but they'd known for a fortnight! funny how they never forget to ask for a snack when they get home, and never forget to watch their favourite tv program!......don't get bombarded for requests for cakes. Zoe works full time ...sometimes I wonder what these teachers think mums do all day. Just tell them that the last cake you baked for someone landed them in A&E...that'll put them off!!(rofl) You'll soon get in the swing of things.
Stella180
08-09-20, 02:27 PM
I hate this time of year too. It’s so hard having to deal with all the back to school photos from proud parents.
Jaquaia
08-09-20, 03:14 PM
Flo, I play the evil stepmother and turn the TV off if they don't move! We already know that homework is given Fridays to be handed in Wednesdays and spellings are Fridays for Fridays, well for A anyway, T will probably be the same. And because of covid they have to wear their PE kit to school so T will be in PE kit all day tomorrow. We do their lunches the night before, usually while we're cooking tea.
You've reminded me that I need to buy a new headset! A stood on my laptop bag and broke mine! Looks like I need to reinstall SPSS too, and whatever software goes with my research project... help!!!
You'll both be more than fine!
Did they have a good day Jaq?
Jaquaia
08-09-20, 04:12 PM
Slight issue with T not being allowed to walk round to A's classroom, considering the message they sent to parents said about them being more independent! J is emailing his teacher. Other then that, they seem to have!
Glad they've had a good day!
How are you doing with it love?
Flo, I play the evil stepmother and turn the TV off if they don't move! We already know that homework is given Fridays to be handed in Wednesdays and spellings are Fridays for Fridays, well for A anyway, T will probably be the same. And because of covid they have to wear their PE kit to school so T will be in PE kit all day tomorrow. We do their lunches the night before, usually while we're cooking tea.
You've reminded me that I need to buy a new headset! A stood on my laptop bag and broke mine! Looks like I need to reinstall SPSS too, and whatever software goes with my research project... help!!!You're so organised you need a b****y medal!! The kids' school seems to be organised too! don't know what SPSS is but I'm sure you'll have it up and running by tea time. Good that J is so hands on with A and T and that you have some help. What a shame about your headset. Try and have a chilled evening.(bear)
Jaquaia
08-09-20, 04:44 PM
It's statistics software for analysing data Flo. I hate using it!
The kids school only started telling us procedures over the past week or so. Never heard from T's teacher at all and only heard from A's teacher yesterday!
Oh! I'm glad our school has been emailing as I don't think there's enough paper for all of the messages we've had. It's got so bad that the head has started several emails with "I'm so sorry for another email, I had hoped not to be having to write to you again this week, but....."
Jaquaia
08-09-20, 09:05 PM
A's teacher has sent some huge messages over the past few days. Though she did message half an hour ago to tell parents about how well they've all settled back in, which I liked.
That is cool...
How are you doing?
Jaquaia
09-09-20, 10:32 AM
Tired. Kids started school at half 8 so had to be up at 7!
Going to do a bit of painting then finish reading my chapter on surveys as my research method choice needs to be in by midnight... eek!!!
Are you nearly there with making those decisions?
What are you painting?
Jaquaia
09-09-20, 01:14 PM
I've painted the ceiling in the summerhouse and the door frame and the bricks underneath the render on next doors extension.
I'm thinking text-based as I can still do something about mental health without needing to work with vulnerable people and can fit it within the ethics guidelines.
OO you've been so busy!
That sounds good. If I can help with anything, shout!
Jaquaia
09-09-20, 04:24 PM
Thank you!
Probably me being contrary but J would like me to go and sit with them but I won't. A is whiny and sulky and J and T are glued to their phones so I don't see the point and I'm studying instead.
Early night for A then! Happy studying. Try and have a restful sort of evening.
Jaquaia
09-09-20, 06:14 PM
There will be reading in there somewhere. I may have got a new book out of J when we popped to Beverley for my blood test...
Stella180
09-09-20, 06:54 PM
I’m trying to work out which will happen first, you opening your own library or bankrupting J lol
Strugglingmum
09-09-20, 07:20 PM
Oooo nothing like a new book to bring a smile
Ahh, the whiney start of termitis..... It's going to be tough while everyone adjusts!
What's the new book?
Jaquaia
09-09-20, 07:38 PM
The Telephone Box Library by Rachael Lucas
OO It's meant to be brilliant! Let me know...
Jaquaia
09-09-20, 08:04 PM
WIill do! I hadn't heard of it! J picked it out as I couldn't decide.
The Telephone Box Library by Rachael Lucas
Our village telephone box - now defunct - is full of books too!
Stella180
10-09-20, 08:54 AM
We have the same in a village near here called the Telephone Exchange. Take a new book, leave an old book behind for someone else.
Jaquaia
10-09-20, 09:57 AM
We have one too near the village shop! Ours is called the Book Swap
Strugglingmum
10-09-20, 10:47 AM
I think that's fab.
We have the same in a village near here called the Telephone Exchange. Take a new book, leave an old book behind for someone else.Our system is the same.
We have one too near the village shop! Ours is called the Book SwapIsn't it good though that the boxes are still there and put to good use?
Jaquaia
10-09-20, 10:54 AM
It's brilliant! Though red phone boxes still look weird to me
Stella180
10-09-20, 11:20 AM
Not as weird as your cream ones.
Jaquaia
10-09-20, 11:39 AM
That's normal to me!
Stella180
10-09-20, 12:35 PM
Yeah well normal has never been a word I associated with you so...
Jaquaia
10-09-20, 12:57 PM
Cheers mate! (giggle)
Morning lovely, how are you today?
Jaquaia
11-09-20, 10:06 AM
Tired, headachey, and my shoulder is stiff. Hopefully a hot shower will help.
Strugglingmum
11-09-20, 10:28 AM
(bear)
Did the shower help? What are you up to today?
Jaquaia
11-09-20, 12:29 PM
It did a bit. I've popped to the village shop, read for a bit and need to swap the washing over! As soon as the kids get back the washing seems to increase exponentially!!!
Jaquaia
11-09-20, 06:32 PM
I'm in trouble with J! He told me to rest as I didn't sleep well and my shoulder was hurting and I let slip that I painted the summerhouse. Good job he doesn't know that I've done all the washing too...
Why are you still pushing yourself so hard? The washing could have waited, as could the painting. I know you want to make things "yours" but hunni, at what cost?
Jaquaia
11-09-20, 09:40 PM
It was more that I was bored, can't do the washing tomorrow as the decking is being finished, and it was a nice day which meant I could actually get out there. I've lost so many days to bad weather and I want it finishing by half term. It steams up when it rains!
I see that, but hunni, you need to pace too...
Jaquaia
12-09-20, 10:22 AM
Today the plan is to look at my new modules. Looking forward to getting started! So I'll spend most of the day sat down!
Jaquaia
12-09-20, 11:32 AM
Oooh! Me decking is finished and looks fab!!!
Jaquaia
12-09-20, 02:46 PM
Suzi, "The Telephone Box Library" is a lovely read! Just finished it and I really enjoyed it
Oooh! Me decking is finished and looks fab!!!How lovely! Did you build it or have you painted it?
Jaquaia
12-09-20, 04:34 PM
A joiner built it. I've painted a little bit but think we need a better decking stain!
https://www.dropbox.com/s/tkumoe901v7zkjj/20200912_110503.jpg?raw=1
https://www.dropbox.com/s/l9hr752rdq3b4jz/20200912_110444.jpg?raw=1
I've painted the little bit near the fence, that's where A's playhouse is moving to. We're going to take up all the concrete and put a path along the main decking to J's workshop and grass the rest.
It looks really great Jaq! and what a lovely house.
Jaquaia
13-09-20, 09:06 AM
It will be by the time I've finished Flo!
What are you up to today?
Jaquaia
13-09-20, 12:19 PM
We're taking the children out to the farming museum near York. Not really in the mood for it since it turns out that A has being telling Cruella lies about how mean I am to her so hurt and upset as I do everything I can to make things nice for them both.
Stella180
13-09-20, 12:29 PM
It’s not always a lie but their perception differs from yours. Telling them to do a chore in their eyes could be mean, or being told no pudding unless they eat all their veg etc.
Jaquaia
13-09-20, 12:32 PM
Nope. She admitted she's been lying about her mums bf too. Telling her I hurt her.
Strugglingmum
13-09-20, 12:32 PM
Aw Jaq that's horrible for you. I'm not surprised you're hurt and upset.
It's no excuse but sometimes children will tell their parent what they think they want to hear, especially if they are being asked leading questions. But they are also not above learning to play people off against each other.
Sounds like a reminder chat is needed about truth and how hurtful lies are. You and J have got this. Blending families is hard but you are strong together and have each others backs.(panda)
Wow, that's horrible!
What's she been saying? What does J say?
Jaquaia
13-09-20, 10:09 PM
No details, just a general gist that she's been telling her mum I'm horrible to her. T said he's piped up a few times that what she's said isn't true. Not sure I want to know. J's told her that lying about people isn't good but keeps telling me that she's only 5. I've pointed out that children have a concept of truth and lying at a younger age than A.
I think I've just joined a writers group in the village...
Stella180
13-09-20, 10:22 PM
You’re right, she knows that lying is wrong but she is still very young and look who her mother is? Divorce is tough on kids and although that doesn’t justify bad behaviour it happens. You said she’s been doing it to Cruella’s chap too so that suggests to me there is more to it and maybe you need to find out why she sees her parents new partners as mean people.
The writers group sounds like a great idea. I’m really pleased that you are joining in with the local community.
Jaq, don't lose any sleep over the situation with A. It's fairly common with small kids when their mum and dad split and have new relationships. Yes, she is lying in saying you and her mum's chap are mean. So she sees you and J sit on the settee together, him giving you a cuddle in the kitchen, you in the same bed together...and it's the same with Cruella and her new bloke. A's little mind can't differentiate or understand adult male/female love and relationships. All she knows is that someone has come along and 'taken' her daddy away from her - Same with Cruella - and daddy must love you more than her! So what's she going to do about it? Her solution - because she knows no better - is to create a bit of mayhem by telling her mum that you're mean to her and telling you and J that C's bloke is mean to her! As toxic as C was/is, it was was all A knew. Yes, she's lying and it's wrong but it's the only way she can tackle it. I had the same with my step daughter! She used to fake a tummy ache so she could sleep in the middle of both of us!! Have you tried having just girly time with her..i.e.going into town and then you and A go to a tea shop or whatever for coke and cake, and J & T doing their thing too? Then meeting up and swapping? You'd be surprised at what kids talk about on a 1:1. have you asked her lightheartedly what her biggest and best wish is? I think she just needs reassurance that however much daddy loves you, he'll love A just as much. You know all this though and I don't wish to sound patronising because you're clearly a great mum and they're both so lucky to have you. A just has a bee in her bonnet because she's probably never witnessed her dad being loved and loving someone else...it's alien to her, and you and C's bloke are a threat! Hence the fibs. The bath is another place where kids seem to open up and be honest. It'll pass but it's hurtful at the time.;)
Jaquaia
14-09-20, 08:30 AM
I often have time with just A. We'll bake or play a game together or watch films together. And she often asks for me to bath her instead of her dad. She's said it's because she knows mummy doesn't like me and she thought it would make her happy. But then says that she can't wait for me to marry daddy.
Thing is, she does know it's wrong and although I think she's probably right - as in that she is doing it to make mummy happy, she has to be told to stop as it could be really serious. What if it was social services or school or something? It has to be stopped. And actually J is the one who needs to do it with you, not allow it to happen....
Jaquaia
14-09-20, 09:30 AM
He's spoken to her a few times over the last day or so about how telling lies about someone is wrong. All we can do now is see how it goes. But I've refused to brush her hair for the last 2 days. She told me she didn't want me to brush her hair as I always pull it and T revealed it's something she's said to Cruella. Yet she's said countless times that it didn't hurt at all as I take my time with it. She only has short hair and it got knotted so badly once because of the wind, that it took me more than half an hour to get all the knots out without hurting her. I wouldn't want to just pull the brush through as my mum did it to me when I was little and I know how much it hurt so why would I do it to her? I'm just really wary at the moment. Not helped by the fact that this morning she was sat on her windowsill and wouldn't get down when I told her to. She asked for help and when I lifted her down she caught her leg on the corner of her bedside table but now my mind is playing on what stories she's going to tell mum...
Oh lovely. You're in a very difficult position... Are you talking to J about it all? Has anyone actually told her that it's upsetting to you?
They can be little so n so's can't they? Ok....they may be little but they aren't daft! I agree with Suzi on that it may be an idea if you have a little word with her teacher as soon as you can.They've heard it all before, they must be used to this sort of thing. Just put her straight. Well more fool Cruella if she's going to believe the stories....maybe she'd like to know what A is saying about HER! If you cover all bases as soon as possible things should be ok. I wouldn't worry yourself sick over it though.
Thing is, Fern used to be an amazing liar when she was about that age. She once had her Nan actually call her Granddad because Fern had been so convincing when she told her that Granddad had snuck into their room and stolen her dolls house.....
You will get through this love, but maybe J needs to stamp a bit harder - does he realise how serious it could be?
Jaquaia
14-09-20, 12:00 PM
You do know me don't you Flo? Telling me not to worry is like telling the sun not to rise! (giggle)
I've not really talked about it as I was just getting reminded that she's 5. A does know I'm upset with her as I told her that I didn't want to see her at that moment in time and why. She said that she didn't like it when I was cross with her so I told her I wasn't cross but I was very upset and hurt by what she'd done. I just feel like I've handled it all badly so refuse to keep going over it.
Stella180
14-09-20, 12:24 PM
Welcome to the parenting world. Sometimes you get it right, sometimes not so much. There is no one size fits all solutions to every situation so you have to wing it.
Sorry Jaq...I'm a worrier too! For what it's worth, I think you're handling it very well. I shan't bring up the subject again.(doh)
Strugglingmum
14-09-20, 01:03 PM
You probably feel like you are in a no-win situation here. Damned whatever you do. Just keep being yourself. Tell her she hurt your feelings and you're a bit sad but you still love her.
I would let J do the stern talking to about telling lies but then I'm afraid you just need to move on.
I dont think you handled it badly so give yourself a break. Parenting is tough and we all could list things we wish we handled better or differently because we are not perfect and yip we have feelings!! This wont be the last but yes it's not something you were expecting from her so that's probably why it hurts so much. Learning curves are wonderful aren't they!!
Jaquaia
14-09-20, 01:11 PM
Oh not you Flo! I meant at home!
You're right SM. I helped them with their homework, did bath time, did story time and got them sorted for school this morning so I'm behaving like normal with her, I just need J to stop going on about how he can tell I'm struggling!
You really do sound like you've handled it brilliantly imho....
Jaquaia
14-09-20, 07:18 PM
Just seen the news that the chemo Tom is having is to slow down the cancer as it's too far advanced for them to cure him. Gutted but he has hundreds of people worldwide in his corner and he will fight with every breath he has
Strugglingmum
14-09-20, 07:48 PM
(panda)
Jaquaia
14-09-20, 09:15 PM
It's unfortunately one of those things.
Currently laid on the decking, looking up at the stars. I see so many more on a clear night than I did living in the city. It's so peaceful.
https://www.dropbox.com/s/1xsisalfx2g5wku/20200914_210805.jpg?raw=1
I miss seeing loads of stars.
How are you today love?
Jaquaia
15-09-20, 10:01 AM
I'm ok, just tired. The plan today is outdoor painting while I soak up some sun!
The place for stars is the Scottish Highlands......have a well deserved sun bathe.
You’re tired but are painting......
Jaquaia
15-09-20, 12:32 PM
Yep. I find painting relaxing and I enjoy doing it. I am pacing, sat having a drink after doing a little bit. I know not to push through discomfort, as it turns to pain. I know I need frequent breaks. And a lot of it can be done sat down. So taking it slow and steady.
Good! I'm impressed you're listening to your body!
Jaquaia
15-09-20, 09:38 PM
Nice long soak in the bath soon and the summerhouse is starting to look lovely inside. Win win!
And all the nagging has paid off (giggle)
Jaquaia
15-09-20, 10:06 PM
I may have overdone the bubble bath...
https://www.dropbox.com/s/3nvwved7gp94t6m/20200915_220228.jpg?raw=1
Only been living here 6 months and still not used to the water pressure!
nah right amount of bubbles there
Jaquaia
15-09-20, 10:11 PM
Can't hold my book where I normally would or it would be in the bubbles! (giggle)
That looks awesome!
How are you today?
Jaquaia
16-09-20, 11:42 AM
I'm ok! The weather has changed so no painting today!
Jaquaia
16-09-20, 01:25 PM
Studying!
Jaquaia
16-09-20, 03:19 PM
Ok! Halfway through the first chapter of my new textbook and enjoying it, notes all written up so far too. Start as I mean to go on and all that. Currently taking a break.
Good for you! So glad you're still enjoying it! :)
Jaquaia
16-09-20, 08:39 PM
Eek! Emails have started going out letting us know which research method we've been allocated! My heart rate jumps up every time I get an email at the moment
OO Has yours arrived yet?
Jaquaia
16-09-20, 08:53 PM
Not yet! It's making it very real that this time next year I will be waiting to start my MSc!
:) That's amazing. I'm so thrilled for you!
I'm really excited for you!...I'm loving my books!
Jaquaia
18-09-20, 11:53 AM
I've finished my first chapter of my pure psychology module and loved it! Going to look at finishing week 1 and then start my other module.
Jaquaia
18-09-20, 02:23 PM
It is! And scary! Very scary! I've always wanted to do postgrad study but never thought I was good enough, yet a pass 1 and pass 2 for these modules should see me get a First class degree. That's pressure too! So just going to try and enjoy my studies and do the best I can.
That's amazing. Well done love.
It is! And scary! Very scary! I've always wanted to do postgrad study but never thought I was good enough, yet a pass 1 and pass 2 for these modules should see me get a First class degree. That's pressure too! So just going to try and enjoy my studies and do the best I can.
You'll do it...and you'll sail through it!;)
What's on your agenda for the weekend?
Jaquaia
19-09-20, 11:47 AM
Washing today as A needs her PE kit to go back with. We've mostly been finishing homework and going over spellings. They're now playing and I'm looking at my forensic counselling module!
How are things with them?
Jaquaia
19-09-20, 01:33 PM
They're tired from school Paula, and A has started dance class again so she's actually sleeping on a night now.
Homework was done by lunch, we're watching Goodnight Mr Tom as T is studying it at school, and any excuse is a good one!
Jaquaia
19-09-20, 08:49 PM
Hate the new Windows 10 update, hate microsoft edge, hate having to reinstall SPSS as the licence has expired and hate that OpenSesame is being a pain in the arse too! Pretty much hate all software today!!!
Oh.... Sounds frustrating!
Jaquaia
19-09-20, 09:42 PM
Yep! Got SPSS sorted at least but still struggling with opensesame.
Strugglingmum
19-09-20, 09:46 PM
You do realise I'm nodding wisely without having a clue what it all means (rofl)
You clever folk will get it sorted I'm sure.
Jaquaia
19-09-20, 09:59 PM
(giggle)
SPSS is a statistics package that we use to analyse survey/experiment results to determine if they are statistically significant. OpenSesame is used to run experiments. We have to learn how to use it, regardless of our chosen research method. And it now works!!! Woohoo!
Stella180
19-09-20, 10:47 PM
You do realise I'm nodding wisely without having a clue what it all means (rofl)
You clever folk will get it sorted I'm sure.
https://youtu.be/onZRb2aTlj4
Well done for getting it to work love!
Hope today is a restful one (although I doubt it!)!
Jaquaia
20-09-20, 05:09 PM
I've been painting the decking! Lots of fresh air, some sunshine (not much, but some) and though it could do with a second coat, it's a massive job ticked off! Couldn't have been any tighter with the paint though, I cleaned out the tin with the last bit (giggle)
What are you going to do with the tin? Wash it out and put Dolly Mixtures in it for the kids? You've got to get your money's worth!!
Jaquaia
20-09-20, 05:44 PM
God no! Too much temptation!!!
Stella180
20-09-20, 10:46 PM
I’m pretty sure there was at lease a millilitre or two left in the pot. Sooooo wasteful lol
Morning love, what do you have on your agenda for today?
Jaquaia
21-09-20, 10:21 AM
I’m pretty sure there was at lease a millilitre or two left in the pot. Sooooo wasteful lol
(rofl)
Morning love, what do you have on your agenda for today?
Washing the kids bedding then painting the summerhouse as I refuse to have another winter with it blue!
So what colour are you going to paint it then?
Jaquaia
21-09-20, 03:50 PM
https://www.dropbox.com/s/croqk8x1hv6y2a1/b0754b23-41f3-4097-9bba-5992551a55b6.jpg?raw=1
Ta da!
Stella180
21-09-20, 04:12 PM
Looking real good.
Strugglingmum
21-09-20, 05:30 PM
Looks beautiful
OOO it's DWD colours! (rofl) Must be your new happy place ;) (rofl) Looks fab Jaq!
Jaquaia
21-09-20, 06:58 PM
It's paint J already had as they were supposed to be painting T's playhouse in it, and considering he's not had a playhouse in a few years...
I liked it, decided to keep it and I think it makes the garden look brighter despite being a dark colour!
Jaquaia
21-09-20, 07:31 PM
When J is off, if the weather is good, we're going to start sanding the floor and cut the skirting boards to length!
Stella180
21-09-20, 07:44 PM
Blimey, I’ll be wanting to move in when it’s finished Cos it sounds better than my house lol
Jaquaia
21-09-20, 08:18 PM
When I'm sleeping?
You really do need to learn to rest too lovely... During the daytime too...
Jaquaia
21-09-20, 10:14 PM
I'm going to put another coat of paint on the summerhouse tomorrow and then I'll rest. I've been sewing this evening.
Jaq, do you ever just sit?
Jaquaia
22-09-20, 05:55 AM
I get bored easily, and when I'm bored I get restless. I'm usually always doing something when I'm sat down. We've started watching Ghosts on BBC iplayer though, it's very funny!
We loved it! Mainly as it's the Horrible Histories original cast who my kids grew up loving!
Jaquaia
22-09-20, 09:30 AM
I just recognised the guy playing the politician from The Detectorists and Katy Wix
It's a very nice colour.....Sshh!.....don't tell Stella, but I'm moving in first!!
Jaquaia
22-09-20, 05:38 PM
Pro tip! Don't rest against your boobs when sewing. Accidents happen!
Only bloody sewed it to my tshirt...
Stella180
22-09-20, 06:24 PM
I’ve heard of people making clothes out of old curtains but never heard of anybody sewing curtains to their clothes
Jaquaia
23-09-20, 06:24 AM
Eek! My first tutorials are up and I've been given my first tutor!
Strugglingmum
23-09-20, 08:34 AM
Exciting times. You are so able for this
Woohoo! You've got this!
So apart from panicking over that, what's your plan for your day today?
Jaquaia
23-09-20, 08:59 AM
I've already changed our bedding and hoovered upstairs, so other than finishing my book, studying I think!
Jaquaia
23-09-20, 12:42 PM
https://www.dropbox.com/s/1wutaxj1cjbgo05/e456fae6-055d-4809-9f95-acc0b5e9f6a8.jpg?raw=1
Busy year! Doubting the full time decision now!
Ouch! But I have complete faith that you’ll do it, with bells on!
Stella180
23-09-20, 01:05 PM
You got this mate. Not a doubt in my mind.
Jaquaia
23-09-20, 01:53 PM
Well that list is on the fridge and I've started booking tutorials and that list is also on the fridge! Trying to be organised
Jaquaia
23-09-20, 04:15 PM
I've been allocated my psychology tutor. No idea what his specialism is so no idea what method I've been allocated for my research project.
Remind me why I wanted to do another degree as I'm starting to stress!
Stella180
23-09-20, 05:42 PM
I started this because it was something you were passionate about and will give you a career that you will be amazing at.
Jaquaia
23-09-20, 05:52 PM
Well I've been proactive and booked 6 tutorials between now and Christmas. A will have to learn that I can't always do stories.
You are amazing. I know you can do this!
Jaquaia
24-09-20, 10:32 AM
I'm just trying to give myself the best chance of getting the best grades possible
Well done you! At the end of the day Jaq, you have to come first sometimes and if this means the odd bedtime story is postponed, then so be it! At the end of all this studying you're going to shine brightly! This is what you want and you have a hunger for knowledge that eventually will take you to be where you need and want to be. I've just booked 3 tutorials. I've just spent 2 hours studying Elizabeth 1st!! I even know what colour her knickers were!....that is when she was wearing them...have a feeling that Robert Dudley might have had a few pairs of hers in his pocket!!......Virgin Queen??(rofl)
Jaquaia
24-09-20, 10:10 PM
T called me mum. No idea how I didn't cry...
Strugglingmum
24-09-20, 10:30 PM
(bear)
Stella180
24-09-20, 10:51 PM
T called me mum. No idea how I didn't cry...
Oh wow! That’s huge!
Wow! That’s awesome! And wonderful!
He obviously loves you very, very much.
Jaquaia
25-09-20, 09:52 AM
I didn't know what to say so I just hugged him. He's told a friend at school that he wishes I was his real mum. It's not as if I never tell him off either, I'm quite firm with them both and make it clear that I have expectations for their behaviour, I try and teach them that there are consequences to their actions.
Strugglingmum
25-09-20, 10:02 AM
Yip and they know where they stand with you.....kids love and thrive on consistency.
Yeah, kids respond to boundaries
You've earned his respect which is one of the greatest compliments a child can give you. You've also earned your new title! That's lovely! They sound lovely kids. Will this be your first Christmas as a family?
Don't shoot me and please hear me out before judging me... but I've been thinking about this a lot today with T calling you "Mum." Whilst I love that he feels that much love, respect, and that comfortable the fact he's referring to you as mum bothers me. For me, I think that if Cruella finds out she will not only be really hurt, but I think it'll be a red rag to a bull and I think it will be really horrible for him and for you and J with the fall out...
This is why a while ago I suggested that you and J sit down with them and come up with your own name that they can call you - maybe a different derivative of Mum - mam, mama, or something completely different. I know that you are more of a maternal influence putting them at the top of your list, that you do so much with them, love them etc but it's a difficult thing.
I've not been in your position, but I have had friends who have who have always said that the "Mum" and "Dad" are only reserved for the biological parents... Does that make sense? I'm really not trying to undermine you, or upset you, and I'm sorry if I have, but I thought you'd rather hear it from me rather than Cruella...
Jaquaia
25-09-20, 05:29 PM
I completely agree with what you've said. I don't think it matters what they call me, she hates that I'm in their life and will always find someway to be awkward. Generally, when she's civil it's because she wants something. I have a feeling it was because he was feeling very unsure as my parents were here for tea, and although they've met them before, they've not spent any proper time with them before last night and he was very nervous and clingy.
That makes sense. Could you guys sit together and talk about a special name for you for them to use? It's obvious how much they love you and even more how much you love them.
Jaquaia
28-09-20, 09:47 PM
That writers group I thought I may have joined...
I joined that writers group. Spent this evening in the village pub with 5 complete strangers reading out my random scribblings!
Stella180
28-09-20, 11:02 PM
So freaking proud of you!!!
That's fab! Did you have fun?
Jaquaia
29-09-20, 08:37 AM
I did! I was late as I got absorbed in Ann Cleeves new series and the woman running it messaged me so J kicked me out! But it was fun and all nicely socially distanced too!
Jaquaia
29-09-20, 12:33 PM
It really was! I think I found it easier as there were only 6 of us
Strugglingmum
29-09-20, 02:46 PM
Jaq that is amazing!! You are awesome!!
OldMike
29-09-20, 05:12 PM
Brilliant :)
Jaquaia
01-10-20, 07:50 PM
Trying to knit but Toby has plonked his fluffy butt on my wool...
Driving lesson went well today, I did my first proper parallel park around a car! My confidence is starting to come back and J is going to start taking me out more too.
Uni starts officially on Saturday too so starting to get nervous.
Well done on the driving! That's really cool!
You'll be awesome for uni and deep down you know you can do this!
What'cha knitting?
Jaquaia
01-10-20, 08:26 PM
Working on the blanket I started. Baby is due at the beginning of December so I need to get on so sat working on it while I watched Labyrinth and now Mamma mia!
You’ve absolutely got uni - you’re a natural!
Jaquaia
01-10-20, 10:55 PM
I wouldn't go that far but I'm enjoying my forensic counselling book so much that I've read the first 3 weeks work!
Glad you're enjoying it love.
Jaquaia
03-10-20, 10:11 AM
It's dark, wet and miserable, so this is me today!
https://www.dropbox.com/s/f1i1eo4n3gix5hn/20201003_100054.jpg?raw=1
That looks fabulously interesting! :)
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