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India? OO I'd missed that was happening! Break which one of them? (rofl) (rofl) (rofl)
What's on your agenda today?
Lol Si said Jess sounded exhausted and mil has a dodgy tum already - so there may only be shadows coming home ;)
Manicure today, popping into town to pick up my contact lenses, preparing for Rock Choir (we often have 10 mins at the end singing Which is a choice of songs they’ve done before - so I’m trying to learn some of them) and hoovering my car ....
Lol! Sounds like they're going to have a great time!
Sounds like a full on day. Can you pace inbetween?
I left going to town to tomorrow, I ended up cross stitching rather than rock choir stuff ;)
I know we’re nowhere near there yet but I’m trying very hard not to worry. India has today stated that there will be no new tourist visas authorised. Jess already has a visa as she’s there but I’ve just sent this list of worries to Si: ‘ What about the rush of people trying to leave? Will there be enough flights? Trumps banned so many flights, is the rest of the world going to follow suit? Will she get stuck there?’
Strugglingmum
12-03-20, 05:36 PM
It's hard not to worry. It's only natural as a mum. Can only take each day as it comes. Sending hugs(panda)
One thing I'll say is that my excessively well off uncle loves India. He goes often - normally with his Harley and he's always said that it doesn't matter what trouble you get into the locals are more than friendly and will do whatever they can to help.
It's impossible not to worry, but lovely if the most awkward thing happens and she gets stuck there for a while, she'll have a longer holiday.... Try to find that silver lining love...
I’m back!!! It was an amazing weekend and I’m part buzzing part exhausted lol
I'm so glad you had a great time! Tell us EVERYTHING!
I will, but my brain hurts atm ;)
No, working. Much to Si’s disgust.
Bath follow up appointment is now going to be a telephone appt on Thursday. There’s a very high chance we’re going to cancel our short break now but we’ve agreed to decide tomorrow.
Is Si not happy about you working?
How do you feel about cancelling?
No, he’s not happy. He’s concerned about my asthma. I’m going in today but we’ll see after that. I’m not happy about cancelling as we need the break (particularly Si) but it is what it is.
I just posted this on my fb page. It’s well worth a watch (I wept buckets). I watched this yesterday while at the Women’s Weekend.This 18 yo lad during his victims statement after an off duty police officer was convicted of murdering his brother, showed so much grace and forgiveness. He’s an inspiration!
https://youtu.be/oxOdgWGEDOE
So, given the PMs briefing this afternoon, Si has grounded me for the foreseeable. He’s also suggested that, if Katie has to work, she won’t be able to visit. He’s cancelled our trip. And yes, I know I sound like a sulking child - that’s cos I am sulking
I'm not surprised he's grounded you.... I'm sorry it's come to that Paula... But I can understand where he's coming from...
I know, me too (if it applied to someone else ;)). Katie’s not very well and a colleague came in with symptoms this morning
Oh no, so that means she's to follow the new 14 day isolation with her bf too.... Lots of box sets and food delivery?
Yep, though Si went over to drop food at her doorstep this evening
How's she feeling in herself? Does this mean Si is working from home?
How are you today love?
She’s got a sore throat but otherwise ok. Hopefully it’s not anything to worry about. Yes, Si’s offices are closed til 10 April. I’m ok, how about you? Are you self isolating?
Glad she's OK and that Si's at home with you love.
Me? My girls are still at school - Hazel has her first real GCSE next week - 2 of her class are out and under isolation, her teacher is and the only other staff members able to allow them to use the sewing machines "can't really help you as I know nothing about textiles" so who knows what's meant to happen... Year 12 were out of school today, tomorrow it's year 8 and 9 out.
I'm still taking really sensible precautions - lots of hand washing and relying on Marc for shopping etc... I'm not going to Church, not going to see my Mum etc just staying at home as much as possible.
Ben's uni have announced they are shutting for the year. Marc's going to get him on Thursday and then he just has lectures and exams online - so the exams now have to be "open book" because they can't make sure everyone is being totally honest...
I'm going with the "it'll be what it'll be" thing atm...
There’s always a silver lining - you get to have your boy home :) I didn’t realise how many people I have coming in and out of my house - all of which are ‘unnecessary contact’ so I’ve spent quite a bit of time talking to them all today to ask them to stay away. Still, Si’s chuffed as it’ll save money - his silver lining ;)
Absolutely, am looking forward to having him home.
Lol, does this mean that Si is taking on all the unnecessary contact duties? Cleaning, dog walking, shopping and anything else? :)
How are you today love? How's Katie? Any news from Jess?
Si’s going to be busy lol, but I’m not sure he’s up to doing my hair and nails (giggle)
I’ve not heard from Katie yet this morning but yesterday evening she was ok - bored but ok. MIL was going to talk to the tour company yesterday afternoon but we haven’t heard from her yet (communication is not her strong point). Jess is having a whale of a time, though Taj Mahal was closed yesterday
Glad Jess is having fun! Annoying about MIL though!
So, no quick learning nails and hair for Si? You disappoint me.... ;)
(giggle)
Jess is really disappointed as the tiger safari was cancelled. We talked to her a little while ago and she was talking about flights - so she’s obviously a little worried about it too. Si is going to email the tour company. I just want her home....
Will she be able to come back in contact with you or will she have to self isolate away from you? I don't know how bad the situation is in India...
India is much, much better than us right now, thankfully
Well, India’s closing its borders and we don’t know if Jess can get her flight out. Si’s trying to get through to the airline but has been on hold for ages.
So, as at this evening, the airline says their flight will be leaving Sunday, but Si will need to confirm with the travel agent tomorrow
Such a worrying time! How's Katie doing?
Katie’s fine, bored (she’s been cleaning). Frustrated that she can’t see me on Mother’s Day..
Strugglingmum
19-03-20, 10:07 PM
(panda)
Great news this morning! Jess’s flight has been changed and she’ll land c6pm tomorrow!!!
magie06
20-03-20, 02:18 PM
Thank goodness.
That's fantastic news! I'm so pleased and she's not even my daughter! :)
magie06
20-03-20, 10:56 PM
I think because we're all such good friends, whenever one of us worries, then we all worry. Take care and give big hugs when you can.
I think you're right, it's very much like a family here. We feel for each other and the other people in their lives too...
When's she landing love?
Midday in Oman and 6.30 at Heathrow :)
If you/they get stuck, you/they can come here if needed. We aren't far from Heathrow...
Thanks, though they’re getting a taxi so hopefully it’ll be ok
Good... Just shout if there's a problem ;)
They’re in the U.K. and breathe ......
Stella180
21-03-20, 06:22 PM
I bet that is a huge relief for you. Do you think you can refrain from hugging when she arrives home? I bet you can’t.
Stella180
21-03-20, 08:58 PM
Woohoo!!!
Hooray! That's excellent news!
Watched church service on YouTube, had ‘coffee morning’ with Housegroup and FaceTimed mum and Katie. This self isolation would be a lot harder without technology ;)
We treated ourselves for lunch and had takeaway from an amazing gastropub in a village near to us. All I can say is, yummmmmm
Stella180
22-03-20, 03:22 PM
Jealous of your lunch. I could murder a nice roast about now.
Sounds like a great day. Technology is amazingly helpful! :)
So, I’ve woken up with a sore throat and pain in the middle of my back. I’m hoping it’s nothing, obviously, but it’s been exactly a week since Katie had a sore throat .....
I hope you are ok Paula ? I watched the Eucharist from our Cathedral. There were also services from our Church too.
I’m a bit upset, EJ. Katie’s out of isolation today and wanted to come and see me but Si has said its best if she keeps away indefinitely. He’s right, I know, but I just want to see my baby ;(
Stella180
23-03-20, 11:34 AM
I wouldn’t worry Paula. I had the same this time last week, sore throat followed by the sniffles and then in usual fashion hit my chest and a cough ensued. Still got a bit of a cough now but was feeling much better by mid week. I will admit for a moment I was a bit scared for obvious reasons but this time of year it’s normal to catch bugs and most of them are relatively harmless.
It’s not that, really. Si doesn’t want me to see anyone for the foreseeable future, including Katie
Jaquaia
23-03-20, 01:00 PM
What about her coming round and talking to you from 2 metres away? You on the doorstep or out of the window and her outside? Would that work?
She’s going to pop my Mother’s Day present round and do exactly that. But I won’t be able to talk to her properly, to give her a hug or just spend a few hours having a chat, like we normally do
Stella180
23-03-20, 02:49 PM
Ok I’m not a huge fun of this isolating business and there has to be a bit of give. I’m not convinced that hiding away from the world is the answer. Katie is family. If she is well and keeps a distance of 2 metres I don’t see that being a problem. Is Jess banned from spending time with you too? And Si? Everyone is winging it, including the government with these restrictions and they would admit they are being over precaution. If being apart from your family is detrimental to your wellbeing I’d say that is necessary exposure. I’ve thought about it with my cleaner, she’s off this week, but next week what do I do? I still need that support (providing she’s in a position to give it of course) so cancelling would make my life more difficult. I think there are risks attached to everything we do but we also need an element of normality and shutting ourselves away in a bubble is far from normal.
It’s not about Katie. Katie probably still has to go to work, and what if we’ve given something to her which she passes on to one of her colleagues - who has an elderly parent who picks it up and dies? What if Katie picks something up at work and passes it to me, and I, with my multitude of health issues, dies?
Yes, Jess and Si live with me but they don’t have a choice and Katie does. And Jess and Si are keeping away from me in the house as much as possible. My cleaner, dog walker, hairdresser and the girl who does my nails have all been cancelled.
There is no give, people are dying from this and we have to consider everyone else, not just ourselves
Stella180
23-03-20, 03:34 PM
It’s complete overkill. This isn’t about people dying, it’s about protecting the NHS. If everyone became ill all at once the health system couldn’t cope. If you are happy the way things are then fine. Stick with it. I’m just saying you can still perform social distancing within in your home to stay safe.
You can but only if essential. People are dying. Social isolation only works if people do that. Isolate. If not then it's going to go on indefinitely. The sooner everyone realises that this is serious for so many people - it might not kill you, but you could pass it to someone who is in contact with those who it could kill.... It's about the NHS yes, but also about the wider population.
My daughter and her year group haven't given up their GCSE's, their proms, their leavers assemblies, their friends or those who were meant to be sitting A levels for people to mess about with this. I've spent days hugging her while she sobs....
I was furious to read that yesterday the police were going into the Royal parks and beaches because there were so many people there. This is really serious.
Paula, I'm gutted for you, and I can't imagine how much it hurts, but you know it's the best thing right now - and yes I know that doesn't make it any easier..... (panda)
OldMike
23-03-20, 05:04 PM
Much as it pains you for Katie to stay away it is probably the sensible thing to do, she may have completed 14 days of self isolation but best be safe.
I'll just send you some virtual hugs (bear) (panda)
Thank you, Mike.
A friend of mine, whose son has learning difficulties, put this up on fb today
“ Please, please, please stay at home .....
NICE guidelines state that if Jacob were to fall ill with the virus, because he has a learning disability, he wouldn’t be offered a ventilator if someone without a learning disability needed it.
Just let that sink in for a moment.......
Please please PLEASE stay at home unless you absolutely HAVE to leave your house. Keep the NHS running, flatten the curve, think about all the ‘Jacob's ' you know and love ♥“
Now if that wasn’t an argument for social distancing, I don’t know what is
What a horrible situation... Things like that make me so angry!
Stella180
23-03-20, 09:34 PM
That is absolutely disgusting! That’s like saying his life is less important because of his learning disability which is most definitely not true. NICE guidelines are t very nice at all :@
I’m furious! I just have to hope the doctors ignore those guidelines
There is a petition...
https://www.change.org/p/boris-johnson-ensuring-people-with-learning-disabilities-have-the-same-rights-to-treatment-for-covid19?recruiter=147576150&utm_source=share_petition&utm_medium=facebook&utm_campaign=psf_combo_share_abi&utm_term=psf_combo_share_initial&recruited_by_id=79070f30-3291-11e4-90be-fd49295e2b1d&utm_content=fht-21035866-en-gb%3Av12
My brothers ex wife is being shielded due to severe asthma, which means my brother can’t see his kids for 3 months. He knows it’s the right thing but he’s heartbroken :(
Stella180
24-03-20, 01:36 PM
I know how he feels.
That's so hard. Lots of facetime/video calls etc - it's not the same, but better than it would have been when we were younger..
Looks like Jess got out of India at the right time!
How's she doing? How's Katie?
I know! We were just watching that! I am so relieved ....
She’s fine but not able to work atm, same with Katie (who’ve I’ve convinced to start painting again :))
OO starting her painting again would be cool - share some pics as and when?
So, going to get Jess doing something music related?
Jess is catching up with her PlayStation ;)
Katie painted this (acrylics on canvas) in about 3 hours this afternoon
https://i.ibb.co/sbMnxsp/64500698-DBEE-4117-A673-8-EFD0-EE50-ECD.jpg (https://ibb.co/ZGk54cR)
cd jpg (https://imgbb.com/)
Stella180
24-03-20, 11:10 PM
Wowzers! I’ll be totally honest here and say that I look at a blank canvas and all I see is a blank canvas. I wish I has an artistic mind/eye. That is gorgeous.
I’m totally with you there! I am completely unable to transfer images from my mind onto canvas ;). I’ve got three of her canvases, 2 or which were her GCSE art coursework, hanging up in my house.
Stella180
24-03-20, 11:50 PM
Is she willing to sell her artwork? I’d buy it.
She hasn’t painted for 6 years - that was her first one since her exams. But I have suggested she use the lockdown to build up a portfolio so we’ll see
That's fab!
I'm in total awe of anyone who can draw/paint, because I cant! Fern's my artistic one. Her art blows me away! It annoys her hugely, but I love watching her create...
How are you today lovely?
I’m ok, a bit stir crazy but aren’t we all.... missing Katie like mad
OldMike
25-03-20, 10:51 AM
I’m ok, a bit stir crazy but aren’t we all.... missing Katie like mad
I think we are all going stir crazy Paula, it's just one foot in front of the other at the moment (panda)
Is it only me who isn't going stir crazy at being at home? :)
Are you skyping her everyday?
Is it only me who isn't going stir crazy at being at home? :)
Are you skyping her everyday?
You’re not?? I’m really missing swimming - who’s have thought? ;) but at least yoga is something I can do at home
Yes, we’re FaceTiming, and I am with mum too. 20 years ago it would be even harder so I’m trying to count my blessings.
No I'm not.... I'm quite happy atm with my home and garden - I'm watching our little wrigglies (tadpoles) hatch, wriggle and grow. I've got movies and boxsets to watch, crochet and cooking and books to read and most of my friends live in my computer anyway... Marc's gone out shopping this morning and it's all fine ;) I'm missing Church though :( But that's like my only social thing I do anyway - since I hurt my knee/ other medical issues I've not been able to go swimming etc anyway so already had distanced myself...
I agree, without the tech things'd be a hell of a lot different...
This made me laugh, a lot, today (rofl)
https://www.facebook.com/7211436203/posts/10158332786611204/
https://www.facebook.com/7211436203/posts/10158336725841204/
Stella180
26-03-20, 10:04 AM
Deja vu
Morning! 2 bits of good news this morning.
1. I’ve lost 8lb in 3.5 weeks!
2. I’ve got a Sainsbury’s delivery booked for Monday (party)
I think we all know which one is my favourite ;)
Stella180
28-03-20, 10:46 AM
In these times a Sainsbury’s delivery is like gold dust lol
Well done!
How did you get that Sainsbury's delivery? Who did you bribe?
Stella180
28-03-20, 12:12 PM
Of course she's lost weight. She couldn't get any food delivered til Monday (rofl)
How did you get that Sainsbury's delivery? Who did you bribe?
I don’t know. I got through on Monday and they said I was on the priority list because of my asthma, and I got a delivery on Wednesday. Then I couldn’t get a slot until my SIL told me this morning there were slots for m9 day and I grabbed one. Confused as to whether I’ve got priority or not!
Go you! :)
Hoe are you feeling love?
Fed up, irritable. Same as everyone I suspect
Stella180
28-03-20, 08:06 PM
come join in the music battle with me
Why are you fed up and irritable?
Strugglingmum
29-03-20, 08:52 AM
Hoping today is better for you. X(bear)
Why are you fed up and irritable?
Same reasons everyone is, too much time stuck indoors, not having enough space. I’ll be fine ...
You're sounding really flat... Are there things that you can do to help lift you? Maybe some designated time in your cross stitch room? Just you, some music and cross stitch? With a really big DO NOT DISTURB sign on the door? Can you go out to the garden at all? Just for a walk around?
I’ve chucked Si out of that room for the day - I’ve watched the church service and had a zoom chat with Housegroup this morning. And this afternoon is going to be cross stitch. I honestly thought that I’d put in all the training for a lockdown over the last few years, but obviously not. A big part of my struggle is having got into swimming over the past few months, not being able to go is tough. An even bigger part is not being able to see Katie. That’s really upsetting me :(
Can you and Katie video chat ?
You can go out for an hour a day aswell, keep at least 2 metres distance from others that are out and dont meet in crowds
How much longer is it until you can see her? I assume you're skyping etc?
I miss swimming as well. I really feel for you.
OldMike
29-03-20, 03:22 PM
Video chat, Facetime or Whatsapp are good ways to keep in touch.
We FaceTime every day. It helps but it’s not the same. And I normally go with Si and Polo for a walk - but only about 15 mi utes as Polo and I can’t cope with longer at the moment.
And I’m not feeling well - I’ve got a wee bit of a cough but mainly my chest and across the middle of my back is hurting. I’m hoping it’s just asthma playing up
(panda) Sounds like you are really are struggling. Have you told Si exactly how you are feeling?
Oh... You still sound really down... Will you keep an eye on that? I'm worried about you Princess Sparkles...
Well, it doesn’t help my mood that I had an asthma attack last night - I was in so much pain around my chest and back. I’m still suffering a bit, I went out for a walk with Si and had to take the shortcut home cos I was struggling to breathe. I haven’t had an asthma attack like that in years, I can only put it down to stress.....
I’ll be ok, at least I’ve got people around me ;)
OldMike
30-03-20, 08:06 PM
Paula hope you soon get over the asthma attack (bear) (panda)
Stella180
30-03-20, 08:24 PM
Can be blooming scary. Take it easy mate and keep your inhalers close at hand
Oh wow! Hunni, please tell me you've been resting today love....
Can any of us do anything other than rest? (Although I did do some yoga this morning, it helps me breathe properly)
OK the yoga I'll allow....
OldMike
31-03-20, 09:10 AM
Yoga is good both for the body and mind good for you Princess just don't overdo it (panda)
Almost back to normal, ta :)
Normal? What kind of normal? (rofl)
Can breathe without pain, which is a normal I’m ok with ;)
That's a pretty good normal! (rofl)(rofl)(rofl)
Today is my first day of study (party). And I’ve discovered I’m definitely out of practice .....
OldMike
01-04-20, 05:44 PM
As long as you're enjoying studying and learnin' stuff that's the main thing :)
Stella180
01-04-20, 06:06 PM
What ya studying?
But are you enjoying it so far?
Strugglingmum
01-04-20, 09:21 PM
well done you. Really really pleased for you huni
I’m studying a Certificate in Theology. I did level 1 (6 units) a few years ago and now they’re doing online courses, I’m able to continue with level 2. The first unit focuses on the book of the Acts of the Apostles
Edit. Suzi, today has been about finding my way around the site and reading Acts ;)
Stella180
01-04-20, 10:40 PM
Oh I remember you doing the Level 1. Glad you can continue with it.
That sounds really interesting...
How are you doing today?
Struggling. I’m doing everything I should - getting showered and dressed, doing my bible study, mindfulness, yoga and walks but everything feels like a massive effort
Is that a physical or mental issue?
Mental. But, as Si reminded me, it’s not surprising and many of us are struggling too - inc him
Strugglingmum
02-04-20, 04:22 PM
You have inspired me Paula.
I found a YouTube beginner yoga video which I have done a few days now. I found I like yoga more than I thought I would. It is actually relaxing me more than meditation or mindfulness alone. The girl is lovely and talks about just being in the moment. It is very very basic but i think i will look for a beginner yoga class when this is all over to try It out. Thank you lovely lady. (bear)
I think Si's right. We're all struggling a bit. It's the not being able to do the things we want/are used to/would like to... So many coping strategies involve being outside, getting some exercise, going for a walk, talking to others and being online or on the phone isn't the same, no matter how much we'd like it to be.... All we can do is take each day one at a time and go from there....
OldMike
02-04-20, 05:49 PM
We are all struggling at the moment it is just a day at a time.
You have inspired me Paula.
I found a YouTube beginner yoga video which I have done a few days now. I found I like yoga more than I thought I would. It is actually relaxing me more than meditation or mindfulness alone. The girl is lovely and talks about just being in the moment. It is very very basic but i think i will look for a beginner yoga class when this is all over to try It out. Thank you lovely lady. (bear)
That’s so lovely to hear!
How are you feeling today love?
How are you feeling today love?
I think my conversation with Si just now says it all. Yesterday, I wasn’t dressed when he took Polo out so he went without me. So I complained that I hadn’t had a walk - so Si asked why I didn’t go out on my own. Given how much I’ve been doing on my own recently, he’s right. I’ve been worried about leaving the house on my own
Is that due to your asthma? What about going for a little walk - end of the road and back or something then tomorrow go a little further and build back up with your physical ability and your confidence?
No, it’s anxiety. I’m ok walking with Si but not on my own. Still, I’ve been out with Si again today - it’s better than not going at all
Stella180
03-04-20, 01:18 PM
What is it about going out on your own that you worry about?
I don’t know - it’s normally being surrounded by people but that’s not a factor. I think my mood is low so my anxiety is higher - which always happens
You can work on the anxiety, you know that... How much longer until you can see Katie?
Stella180
03-04-20, 06:23 PM
That sucks!
You on the full 3 months isolation? I sympathise. (panda)(bear)
You on the full 3 months isolation? I sympathise. (panda)(bear)
Not officially, but because of my general health plus the danger of lithium toxicity if I get very ill, Si is insisting on us being very careful. And so is Katie so she won’t come over either. I’m not happy .....
Si’tricked’ me tonight ;). He was feeling sorry for me with my diet so he made me a double dose of my weightwatchers sweet and sour chicken dinner. I was so hungry I scoffed the lot and didn’t even realise - he told me if he’d asked me, I’d have said no lol
Stella180
03-04-20, 08:23 PM
Oh that sounds like a dirty trick, I’m sure you hate him for feeding you an extra portion. NOT!
Oh that sounds like a dirty trick, I’m sure you hate him for feeding you an extra portion. NOT!
I’m full for the first time in a month!
Stella180
03-04-20, 09:08 PM
And with a happy belly I’m sure you feel better in yourself
So, the past few days have been increasingly worrying for us re Polo. He’s had a bit of a lump on his shoulder for a while but this has suddenly got bigger. He’s limping very heavily on that leg, he’s refusing to go upstairs and he’s sleeping excessively, even for a greyhound. We’ve doubled his tramadol from 300mg to 600mg a day but he’s not going for a walk. I think we’re all beginning to wonder if it’s cancer but, at his age, there’s no point in getting a biopsy and our vets are having a no human policy - which means he’d have to go into the surgery without us, and that would be hugely stressful for him ......
Oh hunni am sorry Polo is in pain, would it be worth ringing the vets and seeing what they say?
Jaquaia
07-04-20, 10:33 AM
Sorry to hear hunni. Would it be worth trying to have a telephone consult at least?
Oh hunni, I'm sorry Polo is poorly....
Stella180
07-04-20, 11:26 AM
Oh no, poor Polo. Such a crappy time for him to be poorly with this damned virus making life so difficult, not that there is ever a good time to be poorly. What are you going to do?
We’ve talked about it again. We’re going to see whether we can get his pain under control in the next couple of days and go from there. If we speak to the vet they’re going to want to see him and we’re not sure if that’s the best option for him right now. He hates the vets so very much and to go in without us would just raise his stress levels massively. But it maybe we have no choice
Can you speak to the vet about it stressing him and ask if they can give you a mask and a pair of gloves to go in with him ?
OldMike
07-04-20, 03:59 PM
;( I don't know what to say so I'll just leave these for you and Polo (bear) (panda)
Is there any way that he can be given something to help calm him down before he goes in? I know we've given Moiya stuff before when there were huge amounts of fireworks....
Can you speak to the vet about it stressing him and ask if they can give you a mask and a pair of gloves to go in with him ?
No, there’s a no exceptions policy.
Is there any way that he can be given something to help calm him down before he goes in? I know we've given Moiya stuff before when there were huge amounts of fireworks....
Things like that have never worked for him - he’s a big wuss
Ok, so this is the lump
https://i.ibb.co/2dx5QzB/A9-D7-CCB3-EEB0-4537-8-FAA-0-D5-FD88-D4188.jpg (https://ibb.co/JHVC4YP)
Stella180
07-04-20, 07:22 PM
Oh wow! That is big. I was wondering if it was something like bursitis? That would be incredibly painful for him. Judging by the location it probably isn’t that. Don’t know until it’s checked out.
We’ve decided to email photos to the vet tomorrow and take it from there
Sounds like a good idea hunni,
That's a lot bigger than I was expecting it to be... I agree, send it to the vet and see what they say. They know his history too so they should be able to help...
Spoke to the vet tonight. she thinks it’s likely Polo’s got a nerve based tumour, which is why it’s not responding to pain relief. We’re going to try increasing his gabapentin for a few days but he’ll have to get significantly better as his quality of life is poor. He’s a fighter but I think this is his last battle ....
Jaquaia
08-04-20, 07:56 PM
(panda)
Stella180
08-04-20, 08:34 PM
Oh no! I know he’s no spring chicken but even so he is a beloved family member and you don’t want him to suffer but at the same time you don’t wanna lose him either. I don’t envy your position right now but know that I will be thinking of you.
Strugglingmum
08-04-20, 08:48 PM
So sorry Paula. (panda)
Oh lovely, I'm so, so, so sorry hunni... If there's anything I can do...
Oh lovely, I'm so, so, so sorry hunni... If there's anything I can do...
I know.
Katie’s in pieces as she hasn’t been able to see him. We’re trying to sort something out for the weekend
Is it possible you could make him comfy in the garden and while inside let Katie go in the garden with him for a while so she can see him and spend that bit of time?
OldMike
09-04-20, 10:23 AM
;( (bear) (panda)
Is it possible you could make him comfy in the garden and while inside let Katie go in the garden with him for a while so she can see him and spend that bit of time?
Yeah, that’s the plan. We’ve got a side gate so she doesn’t have to go through the house
Such a horrible situation for all involved...
How are you all doing?
We’re ok, Si gave Polo his duvet last night and he’s giving him lots of ‘human’ food. At this stage we’re not focusing on his kidneys ;). We just need to get through to Tuesday .....
(panda)I’ve just read this Paula. I’m very sorry. Sending hugs
Yeah, that’s the plan. We’ve got a side gate so she doesn’t have to go through the house
You at least get to see Katie and as long as you keep your 6 foot distance can talk face to face as such, just wish it was under different circumstances hunni xx
(panda)I’ve just read this Paula. I’m very sorry. Sending hugs
Thank you EJ
You at least get to see Katie and as long as you keep your 6 foot distance can talk face to face as such, just wish it was under different circumstances hunni xx
Me too, thanks x
magie06
09-04-20, 02:30 PM
Thinking of you.
How's he doing? Have you guys made it out into the garden to sit in the sun (obv with your parasol) for a bit?
Allalone
09-04-20, 04:56 PM
Sending love and hugs.(panda)
How's he doing? Have you guys made it out into the garden to sit in the sun (obv with your parasol) for a bit?
The meds are zonking him out which means he’s not in as much pain but is def not a good quality of life. He smells of ill dog itms. We’ve just been talking and we know he’s telling us it’s his time......
Yeah, I sat and read in the garden
Stella180
09-04-20, 08:41 PM
;( when it Katie coming over?
The meds are zonking him out which means he’s not in as much pain but is def not a good quality of life. He smells of ill dog itms. We’ve just been talking and we know he’s telling us it’s his time......
Yeah, I sat and read in the garden
I'm so, so, so, so sorry love. I wish that there was some magic wand to make him better and to take your pain away. I know how hard it was for us with Casey, but they do know and they do tell you when it's the right time... Is Katie coming over soon?
I'm glad you got out and read in the garden.
Katie’s coming over tomorrow afternoon
Jaquaia
09-04-20, 09:49 PM
I'm so sorry but I know he's had a wonderful life with you and I know you will carry on doing the best you can for him. Thinking of you all (panda)
I can't agree strongly enough with Jaq...
Strugglingmum
09-04-20, 10:52 PM
(panda)(panda)
(panda) I'm so so sorry sweetie (panda)
Sweetheart how are you all doing today and Polo?
Plodding along. He’s ok, just sleeping a lot
(panda) Thats probably the best thing he can do at the moment, please look after you sweetie aswell x
Thinking of you all today lovely...
Trying to feel less miserable
https://i.ibb.co/Yj0WQdr/790-F481-E-509-D-4646-8-CA0-D7-EAE7604-D9-F.jpg (https://ibb.co/ys4RPk3)
They’re new, btw, I don’t normally have my feet up on the sofa in shoes ;)
Stella180
10-04-20, 05:14 PM
Heels!? They are really pretty but are you safe in those?
Those are really really pretty
Those are soooo pretty. I almost bought myself some pretty heels earlier, but only to sit on the sofa with as I know I can't wear heels....
Jaquaia
10-04-20, 07:22 PM
They're gorgeous!!!
Heels!? They are really pretty but are you safe in those?
No. But they’re pretty ;)
Those are soooo pretty. I almost bought myself some pretty heels earlier, but only to sit on the sofa with as I know I can't wear heels....
Almost? What is this almost??
Stella180
10-04-20, 07:48 PM
Suzi face plants in bare feet, she'd be stuffed in heels lol
Ok, so I didn’t want to keep talking about how Polo is, but here I am. Katie saw him today and couldn’t believe how much he’d gone downhill in just 3 weeks. Si had to carry him out to the garden this morning to go to the toilet and he tried to get up from the sofa this afternoon, and fell off. He just laid in a heap on the floor. I’m heartbroken
Stella180
10-04-20, 10:11 PM
Awwwww poor boy ;( ;( ;(
That doesn’t sound good at all. Can you give your handsome boy extra cuddles from me.
Allalone
10-04-20, 10:17 PM
Sending hugs to you all.(panda)
Strugglingmum
10-04-20, 11:16 PM
it's so damn hard Paula. I'm so sorry for you all. I've been there and it's horrible. Sending hugs(panda)
That's the point that we knew beyond any doubt that it was time for Casey... I'm so sorry lovely... You are all in my thoughts.
He’s completely zonked with all the meds. So he’s comfortable hopefully til Tuesday.
Aww poor thing. It's so horrible when that's how it is...
Awww sweetheart huge huge hugs for you all and for Polo xx
Today’s been a really, really tough day. Polo’s going downhill really fast, he is struggling to stand up, Si’s having to lift him up onto and off the sofa, his fur is a mess and he’s not eating. There’s been a lot of tears today, and not just from me .....
We talked about taking him to the emergency vets tomorrow but that’s a half hour drive away and Si thinks that as long as we can keep on top of the pain, we should wait for our own vets on Tuesday.
Jaquaia
12-04-20, 11:08 PM
So sorry. Thinking of you (panda)
Strugglingmum
13-04-20, 12:38 AM
(panda)
Stella180
13-04-20, 01:29 AM
I think you are doing the right thing. So long as he’s not it any pain just take things as they come.
How are you holding up? I know that seems like a stupid question but you need to look after yourself as well as your precious pup.
Oh hunni, I'm sorry he's so poorly...
Allalone
13-04-20, 08:49 AM
Thinking of you. (panda)
OldMike
13-04-20, 09:41 AM
When there are no words all I can do is send you and your family my love (bear) (panda)
How are you holding up? I know that seems like a stupid question but you need to look after yourself as well as your precious pup.
Trying to remain as calm as possible but not really succeeding.
In my thoughts love, all of you x
(bear) for all of you sweetie, am thinking of you xx
Strugglingmum
13-04-20, 05:36 PM
A real tough path you are all on right now. Xx(bear)
Polo passed this morning. ;(;(;(
But, to the last, even though he refused water and food, he will still drinking tea - that boy loved his tea .....
Allalone
14-04-20, 12:44 PM
Sorry to hear that Paula.
(panda)
Stella180
14-04-20, 12:49 PM
He’s playing with Luna over the rainbow bridge now. As heartbreaking as it is at least his suffering is over.
Jaquaia
14-04-20, 01:58 PM
So sorry. You gave him the best possible life and he left knowing he was loved (panda)
I love that he was still drinking tea! That's such a wonderful thing to hold on to. I'm so sorry though, I know how much he meant to you all and how much he was loved by you all. He'll be having fun with Luna and watching and waiting for when you are all reunited.... (panda)(bear)(panda)(bear)
So sorry to hear about Polo. He gave you such joy in your family. He was one of the family and will be missed. Xx
Strugglingmum
14-04-20, 04:28 PM
Sending hugs. It's really tough to lose a beloved pet but he was with you all and loved to the end. Hold on to the good memories. Xx
OldMike
14-04-20, 04:40 PM
Despite the pain you feel today you'll have fond memories of the years Polo was part of your life ;( (bear) (panda)
Thank you everyone. I think he shows how lovely he was - my mum was sobbing over FaceTime, and he bit her years ago.......(and she has always blamed herself for that moment)
We weren’t allowed to be in the same room as the vet so, once they’d set up the iv, to be with him at the end we had to give him the drug. Tough.
Stella180
14-04-20, 07:37 PM
Oh that is a horrible situation to be in. I dunno if I could do that. I mean of course it’s the right thing to do by him to end his suffering but to carry it out yourself has to be incredibly hard.
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